Skump Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) I can’t get a man to save my life! It’s so frustrating. I know I have good qualities, so I’m not sure what the problem is. In the past I had higher standards, but I’ve lowered them, really lowered them. The last guy I liked wasn’t a great catch (on paper), but I liked him so I overlooked these things. In looks he’s average at best, he’s barely employed, and he drinks a lot. And HE doesn’t seem that interested in ME! When unattached and looking for a partner, how many men do you ask out in a typical month? Edited June 24, 2011 by Skump Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 When unattached and looking for a partner, how many men do you ask out in a typical month? The more relevant question would be, "In a typical month, how many single men do you meet." The answer would be zero. Link to post Share on other sites
Skump Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 ^^^If (hypothetically) you're forever expecting the mountain to come to Mohammad, the first question is altogether more relevant. Your chances of "meeting" any sort of person are higher if you're actively looking for him. A lot of women absolutely refuse to take any real initiative in dating. You may not be one of these. However, if you ARE effectively waiting for someone to find you, that would be a maladaptive strategy. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I have the same problem; not that I have an issue attracting a man, but more a problem keeping them. Everyone of them, no matter how hard they tried, have described me as a soul-drainer; so I'm yet to meet a man strong enough for me and doubt I ever will. They range from the handsome to the ugly, the intelligent to the stupid. But none are actually as strong as me or stronger than me. So I've pretty much resigned myself to a life alone (with animals preferably) because I'll never lower my standards; I expect only the best in terms of loyalty, honour, trust, sex, plus they need to put up with my jealous rages and unpredictable mood swings. In return, I give back 110% in EVERY way possible. Shame such a man doesn't exist. With a character likes yours, you deserve to be alone. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyFlame Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Sounds like you would probably be very compatible dating a physically abusive biker, the kind of guy who would have absolutely no problem smacking you around when you act up. Please ... If anyone dared smack me around, I'd smash a brick on his face Link to post Share on other sites
RepairMinded Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Please ... If anyone dared smack me around, I'd smash a brick on his face Precisely. That's why I said you'd be totally compatible. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Precisely. That's why I said you'd be totally compatible. Abusive people deserve each other. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Thanks TBF! I had a bit of a freak out yesterday, but I feel better now. Sometimes I get really worked up over an issue knowing that if I just take a breath, relax, and don’t dwell on it (i.e. make it worse), I’ll feel fine the next day. Maybe I’m not as stable and drama free as I think!You're welcome. I also noticed that you don't have much contact with single men. Sounds like this might be the problem. From all I've read on LS about internet dating, there's a lot of the bottom of the barrel kind of guys so I'd recommend you stay away. The guys I dated and my second husband, were met in real life, whether through friends, work or were neighbors. So maybe see if you can't expand your social network of women, who will invite you to social events like house and dinner parties or barbeques, where the men are. And if nothing else, you would have made new friends. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyFlame Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Precisely. That's why I said you'd be totally compatible. Erm, that's why I said I would do that, otherwise meaning there's no chance of me being with someone like that. I'm not interested in violent relationships; either he respects me or he gets lost. Link to post Share on other sites
RepairMinded Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Erm, that's why I said I would do that, otherwise meaning there's no chance of me being with someone like that. I'm not interested in violent relationships; either he respects me or he gets lost. All the same, keep that brick handy. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyFlame Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 All the same, keep that brick handy. Not entirely sure what's given you the impression that I'm the type to let someone lay a finger on me (laughable) but think what you like:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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