LSChic Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 So I'm a 24 yo straight woman but I have a sex drive like a 16 yo boy. I love sex. I'm currently single and dating. I don't think I'm unattractive and I try to be generous in bed so what's the deal? I've dated two guys in the past month. Guy #1 was going fine until I said something sexy and then he never called again. I've been sleeping w/ Guy #2 and things have been great so far except he always seems reluctant to hang out. Today I made it clear that I just wanted to come over for an hour for sex and he said he was too tired! Maybe the problem is That I don't want a boyfriend so I don't worry about coming on too strong, but seriously, this Guy has made it obvious that he's attracted to me so what's the problem?! I asked if he was seeing anyone else and he said he wasn't. What's going on?
TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 You're luckier than some of the guys on here. That's all I'm gonna say.
quankanne Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I honestly believe that men feel threatened by women who have healthy sex drives – that it emasculates them or something to that effect. I also think men *think* they're cool having a partner with a high sex drive, but they lie to themselves!
SmileFace Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 What exactly is the problem? You are having sex. If you want more sex - get a spinning sign and stand in front of a church,school, or court house. You will find someone. I am pretty sure Now if you want someone to have sex with. Stop dating guys and just find someone who wants the same as you.
LadyFlame Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Maybe you live in a very remote area with few people. I live in London, so the place is swarming with horny men. I have a very high sex drive too; lol, what exactly was the sexy thing you said to guy number one?
TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I personally don't feel threatened by women with high sex drives.
proactivedreamer Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 This thread is so funny! This is exactly what has been happening to me, and I know I am not unattractive. I think there is something about me that is turning these men off, and I wish I knew what it is. This guy I have been hanging out with is like your number 2;although, I suspect my guy wants a little more than sex, as do I, but well I don't want to hijack your thread in order to elaborate. I get so crazy cause I don't want a boyfriend-I just want a lover who will see me at least 3 times a week, am I asking for too much?
TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I wish some of these women with high sex drives would come my way.
LadyFlame Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 It gets to the point where you become the player screwing the players and you need multiple players to help you out because each one will see you maybe once a week because he has other girls he's dealing with. I suggest you try out some clubs; there are swarms of sexual predators there. Or plenty of fish.
TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I don't want to be a sexual predator. I just want one girl, who has a high sex drive, and wants to have sex with me. Apparently this is unimaginable.
LadyFlame Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I don't want to be a sexual predator. I just want one girl, who has a high sex drive, and wants to have sex with me. Apparently this is unimaginable. If you want that, you've got to be able to keep up
TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 If you want that, you've got to be able to keep up First I need to get started. I wish I knew how to create attraction. I am working on my appearance - got a great haircut today, and am working on losing weight. I just don't see myself ever having the player personality. I hate players, I am a gentleman.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I honestly believe that men feel threatened by women who have healthy sex drives – that it emasculates them or something to that effect. I also think men *think* they're cool having a partner with a high sex drive, but they lie to themselves! I agree. When the women is a sexual dud, they are all about it. But once most of them get a tiger in the sheets, they get intimidated and worried they can't handle her. I have an excellent 26-year-old FWB right now, but the only problem is he keeps trying to be boyfriend-y. I'm holding the sappy sweetness at bay, though, and urging the throw-down. For the time being, he is happy to deliver as much hot sex as I want. Yum yum. He totally took care of me in bed for at least 2 hours the other night. I took care of him in return, but it really seemed like he would have been happy just to make me feel good all night. Now he is trying to come over today, and offered to bring me iced coffee. Cute! We have plans for tomorrow, and he asked if we can cook dinner and he can spend the night. I said yes to dinner, because I love to cook and it'll be fun, but no to spending the night because it will likely make me feel more attached, and that could get sticky -- and not in the good way. He said he understands and appreciates my honesty, and I'm gonna get it when he comes over. Woo hoo!
LadyFlame Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 First I need to get started. I wish I knew how to create attraction. I am working on my appearance - got a great haircut today, and am working on losing weight. I just don't see myself ever having the player personality. I hate players, I am a gentleman. I dunno if it's something you can create with appearance; I do know that I'm most sexually attracted to a man who's very confident with his cock.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 You know, most men say that they want a woman with a high sex drive. But let's just say, men get tired-easily. Men tend to have a cool down period after orgasm. And certain parts become...very bruised and raw.
Stockalone Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 So I'm a 24 yo straight woman but I have a sex drive like a 16 yo boy. I love sex. I'm currently single and dating. I don't think I'm unattractive and I try to be generous in bed so what's the deal? I've dated two guys in the past month. Guy #1 was going fine until I said something sexy and then he never called again. I've been sleeping w/ Guy #2 and things have been great so far except he always seems reluctant to hang out. Today I made it clear that I just wanted to come over for an hour for sex and he said he was too tired! Maybe the problem is That I don't want a boyfriend so I don't worry about coming on too strong, but seriously, this Guy has made it obvious that he's attracted to me so what's the problem?! I asked if he was seeing anyone else and he said he wasn't. What's going on? Guy #1 might have been looking for a gf, in which case a woman who is looking for just sex wasn't what he wanted. Or he could have been multi-dating and found someone else he liked better. Or maybe he doesn't like easy women. Or it could have been something else. Guy #2 might only like it when he is the one who calls you to come over for sex. I honestly believe that men feel threatened by women who have healthy sex drives – that it emasculates them or something to that effect. I also think men *think* they're cool having a partner with a high sex drive, but they lie to themselves! I agree. When the women is a sexual dud, they are all about it. But once most of them get a tiger in the sheets, they get intimidated and worried they can't handle her. I don't believe that men feel threatened. It could be about power, though. I knew guys who said that they like to be the one in charge. If the woman calls them over for a booty call, she is the one calling the shots and they didn't like that.
musemaj11 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) TI agree. When the women is a sexual dud, they are all about it. But once most of them get a tiger in the sheets, they get intimidated and worried they can't handle her. I have an excellent 26-year-old FWB right now, but the only problem is he keeps trying to be boyfriend-y. I'm holding the sappy sweetness at bay, though, and urging the throw-down. For the time being, he is happy to deliver as much hot sex as I want. Yum yum. He totally took care of me in bed for at least 2 hours the other night. I took care of him in return, but it really seemed like he would have been happy just to make me feel good all night. Now he is trying to come over today, and offered to bring me iced coffee. Cute! We have plans for tomorrow, and he asked if we can cook dinner and he can spend the night. I said yes to dinner, because I love to cook and it'll be fun, but no to spending the night because it will likely make me feel more attached, and that could get sticky -- and not in the good way. He said he understands and appreciates my honesty, and I'm gonna get it when he comes over. Woo hoo! The same post written by a man would result in him getting showered with insults. Anyway, men like to **** women as conquests. But they lose interest when they realize that they are the conquests. So you have to be more subtle about it instead of being too obvious. It hurts their ego when a woman only wants them for nothing else but sex because most women want more. Edited June 24, 2011 by musemaj11
Ruby Slippers Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I don't believe that men feel threatened. It could be about power, though. I knew guys who said that they like to be the one in charge. If the woman calls them over for a booty call, she is the one calling the shots and they didn't like that. That makes sense. Only ONE guy so far was not threatened by my sexual drive and stamina and truly rocked my world bed. But even he, with all his sexual confidence and skill, still was not comfortable with me initiating. And even though my heart still hurts a little sometimes when I think about not being in each other's lives anymore, mostly I'm just glad that he had what it took to blow me away, and loved my body up generously and without any inhibitions. When it comes to thrilling sexual experiences, after him, I can die a happy woman. The same post written by a man would result in him getting showered with insults. I don't think so. I have told him the truth 100%. I haven't lied or misled him once. I made very clear that I am not interested in him for dating or a relationship, but very interested for sex and light-hearted fun. I have been 100% consistent in communicating this to him, and he has expressed full understanding. He's a 26-year-old single guy who gets a boner just from being in the same room together, so I think the deal is pretty sweet for both of us.
thatone Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 You know, most men say that they want a woman with a high sex drive. But let's just say, men get tired-easily. Men tend to have a cool down period after orgasm. And certain parts become...very bruised and raw. this is pretty much accurate. the days without a cooldown time after the first orgasm are very rare days that must have some outside factor to increase the attraction. as for the raw/bruising, yeah it can happen but in the moment the pain tends to go away. it'll come right back after, but unless there's some sort of more severe injury, it's not that much of an issue. i'm sure healing is different as you get very much older but at 34, if the raw/bruising is just from 'overuse' so to speak (whether self inflicted or not !), a couple of days of abstinence will clear it up usually.
UpDownAllAround Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I am totally not one of those guys who are threatened by a woman's high sex drive. I'd be thrilled if an attractive woman with a high sex drive would come my way. I'd love some hot sex with her at LEAST once a day! :cool:
grkBoy Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Maybe the guys are intimidated or think there's a catch to all this. I know if I was single and an attractive woman came on to me and only wanted to sleep with me...I'd wonder what the catch is or when do the hidden cameras pop up to tell me it's a joke. Yeah it sounds like low self-esteem, but unless you're a guy who's used to women come on to them, it's more surprising for most guys since we're used to constant rejections and the girl's defenses on high alert.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Maybe the guys are intimidated or think there's a catch to all this. I know if I was single and an attractive woman came on to me and only wanted to sleep with me...I'd wonder what the catch is or when do the hidden cameras pop up to tell me it's a joke. Yeah it sounds like low self-esteem, but unless you're a guy who's used to women come on to them, it's more surprising for most guys since we're used to constant rejections and the girl's defenses on high alert. Well, honey, the times, they are a-changin'. I didn't approach my guy, btw. He asked me out, and after one date, I knew he wasn't relationship material for me. I asked him very directly if he was interested in FWB. Though at first he said he wanted a lot more than that, now that he's come around, he acts like he just won the jackpot. The only catch is that it's a limited-time arrangement, and when I meet a serious prospect, our sexy times will be over -- for as long as I'm serious with someone.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 You sound way too aggressive and some men want to court a woman before having sex. Having intercourse in a vacuum with no emotional attachment gets old very quickly. You need to learn romance and how to develop an emotional connection. BS. OP, you go for what you want. Good for you for being honest about your intentions and not pretending to be something you're not.
scarlett27 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 make sure u are practising safe sex if u tend to sleep with men so quickly
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