headsinclouds Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I feel like I've put myself in a bad emotional situation all over again and I desperately need some advice. Last summer for a few months, I dated someone casually. He wasn't ready for a relationship because he was still not over his ex. I wasn't ready for one either for the same reason. However, the more I got to know him, the more I developed feelings for him. He confided in me his innermost secrets & feelings, we have so much in common and the sex was the best I ever had. He knew I was developing feelings for him and we fought all the time about how he wasn't in an emotional place to give me more. I ended the casual relationship several times yet we would always end up spending time together again. This back and forth went on for a couple more months. Finally, we had a weird fight (you can read about it in one of my other threads), he deleted me from Facebook and we didn't speak to each other for almost 2 months. I dated people and tried to forget about him, but I still cared for him very much. I ended up running into him a few weeks ago and we decided to be friends again. We went out with each other a couple of times and had a great time. Then one night when I was out, we ran into each other and ended up sleeping with each other again. I know he sleeps around quite a bit and I inadvertently discovered evidence of such. I can't really say anything about it considering we're not in a relationship. I ran into him last night (this was a few days after sleeping together) and I was out with friends (including an ex-boyfriend). He came up to me and said we couldn't go home with each other because he had already made plans. I got mad because of his audacity thinking we would go home with each other. And then I saw that he was with a girl....that's totally beautiful and I had to sit there most of the night and ignore it. Why have I allowed myself to be in a situation where I feel like I'm being used for sex? I've known him for years, and suddenly I see him around town with women and I never have before. I feel like I'm back at square one, my emotions all over the place. What should I do? I run into him quite often and I don't know what to do to try to get over this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author headsinclouds Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 He just called me & said he's been drinking a lot & feels weird about the other night & wants to see me soon. Um, help. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 You're in on and off relationship. Also he has other girls and then comes back to you when he's done with them. Like he's going around in a circle. You both don't sound committed with each other so. If you're happy with what you get from him then stay in there and see what happens. But these type of on and off again (mostly one night stands) in your case multi-one-night stands with a back door entry to start all over again) So if this is what you want from this guy think again deeply in your mine and heart. Because this is how it's going to be with him. He's a player and won't change for you. So you can get a piece of the action until he done with you and moves on to the next girl and the next etc. Then he comes back to you.. Ring around the rosy a pocket full of fun and then no fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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