huskers11 Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 It's been almost 5 months now since I broke up with K and I'm still not over him. About a month ago I sent him an email putting all of my feelings out there. My thoughts on our break up, how his actions made me feel, and even what I thought I could have do differently. I put my whole heart out there and he didn't even bother to respond. I got some closure out of it but I wanted an apology and I didnt' get that. We dated for about 4 months and I really don't understand how it's taking me so long to get over him. I have come along ways I know but I still miss him and think of him way more than I should! I know I will find a better guy but I don't know if it will be the same.. Onour first date(second time meeting) we talked for five hours straight without awkwardness. I know this sounds crazy but the way we connected and our personalities I honestly thought he was the one and this was the real deal. I know that is so early to think that but it felt like happily ever after. But I realize it doesn't matter how I feel because he didn't/doesn't feel the same way! Link to post Share on other sites
calndn Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 My ex split with me nearly 8 months ago now we went out for a year. He is the only man I have met that I can be 100% comfortable with can talk for hours can tell anything I thought he was the one too. And although I'm nearly there now I know I'm still not 100% over him but to be honest I do feel it more or less now, it's just memories that pop up every now and agai that bring back the hurt. You can't put a time on getting over someone no matter how long the relationship. At 5 months I was a wreck I was still seeing/speaking to my ex and I tried to overdose so at 5 months I was probably at my worst but now at nearly 8 months I'm certainly the best I've been and hopefully will get even better! It takes time unfortunately and you just need more it's ok. Everyone is different xxx Link to post Share on other sites
DoubleRainbow Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I put my whole heart out there and he didn't even bother to respond. I got some closure out of it but I wanted an apology and I didnt' get that. We dated for about 4 months and I really don't understand how it's taking me so long to get over him. I have come along ways I know but I still miss him and think of him way more than I should!it felt like happily ever after. But I realize it doesn't matter how I feel because he didn't/doesn't feel the same way! He did not feel the same way, so he did not bother to respond. You were honest in the relationship( you introspected yourself), not him. He probably doesn't even feel that he was wrong, so why would he bother to apologize? I totally understand the " happily ever after part", but every story does not always end like a fairy tale, unfortunately! However, life has something better in store for you...wait n watch. Regarding missing him...I wish there was some on-off switch...but time is the best healer. Please do not pity on yourself, think that he was a loser, HE HAS LOST YOU!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
calndn Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Also forgot to say I sent my ex a really long message too like you after he literally screwed me over (he did something horrid and that's when I overdosed) I sent him a message saying things along the line of 'you aren't the man I met, I don't recognise you anymore etc.' I also told him he was pathetic for what he did and basically told him how it made me feel but I finished the message by saying I never thought I'd feel hatred towards him and that I don't expect or want a reply and that I don't want anything more to do with him. I didn't get a reply and I'm glad I didn't because it actually made me feel good for sending it. I saw him 6 weeks later chatted a bit he then asked me over to his the following evening I didn't bother to get in touch and tell him either way (I was never going to go round there!) sending that email will give you like my message did a little bit of closure/ending/feeling good to get things off your chest!! X Link to post Share on other sites
Author huskers11 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 Don't get me wrong with the letter I was able to clear my head of alot of confusion and senarios I have been focusing on for way too long. I was just hoping that he would have given me a little more closure. I realize there are other reasons why he didn't respond but believing them give him too much credit. I keep telling myself it's because he is a tool and didn't care! Thank you for your help! Link to post Share on other sites
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