Heart break..OUCH..are you grateful?

[hurtingandconfused]

The aftermath of your first break up is overwhelmingly painful. However, as time goes by you start to think more clearly and focus more on yourself.

 

Have any of you felt grateful that the break up happened? Not because you didn't love him or her, but because they opened your eyes to the real world.

 

I know that I will never forgive my ex for breaking my heart and also disrespecting me by breaking up with me over the phone. However, I feel good about myself and I KNOW that life always gets better. Death is the gateway to heaven, so I suppose that the best is yet to come.

[Arabess]

I had many good changes in my character because of the break up. I wouldn't want to go through it AGAIN, but I'm glad for having the experience behind me. Very glad.

 

It also caused me to more appreciate the people, both family and friends, who WOULD NOT hurt me like that. I appreciated them more.

[sigh]

yea hurting and confused, i was horribly hurt and thot would never recover and that i had lost the person i loved the most..but yes im TOTALLY grateful because i know what im worth and dont deserve to be with somebody who can hurt me this bad..

 

im also thankful because i came to know how cruel people can be and that movie love is only for movies..Love is wonderful in real life too, but it has a different course

 

i will also not forgive my ex even if hes on death bed and begging me to forgive him...he has disrespected me in every way possible and it took me a year to come out of the trauma and im still in the process

 

But im thankful that he left me because i cudnt hv ever left him no matter what he did to me

 

Im thankful that i realized who i am, and not emotionally insecure anymore

[Becks84]

I think that often breakups, as with other terrible things that come our way, are blessings in disguise! Which we later discover. Hardship only makes us stronger. I love your ideas and thoughts on all of this, good for you.

[Fedup&givingup]

I've had one horrible heart break, and it's made me a much tougher, stronger person.

 

I don't know that I'm grateful for it, but I know I am glad I am as strong as I am...if that makes any sense.

[Pyrannaste]

I am sort of grateful to a guy I dated 4 years ago who acted very immature and eventually dumped me via text message. After the text message he refused to answer my phone calls and ignored my text messages for the whole day until he had his best friend call me on the phone and tell me to stop bothering him.

And he was 27!!!

I was so shocked and felt so bad I ended taking antidepressive pills.

 

I'm grateful to the guy because now I can tell a jerk apart from a nice guy (well, most of the times), and in a similar situation I'd kick his ass *way* sooner.

At least I hope.

[joseph]

My ex and I just ended it after four years..an ya, it hurt like hell..she was my first love..Im only 21 for frig sakes

and although I know im definately starting to focus on myself again...and im not really hurting anymore...I suppose being grateful may take some time...but even though this didnt work out for me, I can grasp every bit of knowledge and understanding from it..and move on

[quankanne]

the Gloria Gaynor song "I will survive" keeps running through my head everytime I see this thread pop up. And pretty much, the lyrics ring true: "as long as I know how to love, I know I’ll stay alive, I’ve got all my life to live; I’ve got all my love to give, I’ll survive, I will survive" ...

 

http://www.vlyrics.com/g/gloriagaynor1662/iwillsurvive78939.html

 

after breaking up with a guy in college who I thought was The One, I realized that even though we didn't have a future together, that couldn't take away the most important thing of all: that I was capable of loving someone. So yeah, I'm grateful for what I've learned even though it was very heartbreaking at the time.