Steven T Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) Me and my girlfriend (who is now my ex) were together for 2 and a half years. Long story short we broke up a month ago due to silly arguments that broke us apart and have been NC since. During our relationship, we were best friends, soul mates, we were perfect together. We spoke about getting married and growing old together, I bought her an eternity ring and she bought me one. I did try to make things work and did all the meeting up arrangements to try work it all out but she was kind of stringing me along by saying she wanted to be with me but being "too scared to commit". This went back and forth for weeks and I had enough in the end so broke it off for good with NC. She has texted me once or twice in the past month saying "I love you and want to grow old with me" but she hasnt acted on her words or been at my door so show what she means. How can all the things we said to eachother, growing old, marriage, eternity rings suddenly all disappear. She was my first love. How can this happen or was I just to naive to think we would be together forever? I feel betrayed. Has anyone else been through something similar? Any words of wisdom would help. Thanks Loveshack. Edited June 24, 2011 by Steven T Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 shes trying to string you along while she looks for something better/different dont respond to her texts... stay no contact and only respond to her actions Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steven T Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 I havent responded to her txt because if she did want to be with me she would act on what shes saying. Just feel betrayed and cant believe she would do this to me, I thought she was different. Her loss. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Good mindset, keep it up, you are ahead of most of the people on here... including me at times Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steven T Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 Tell me though wilson. How can someone be this way? After everything? The memories, the words we shared, holidays everything... It's shocking. Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) I went through something very similar. I gave my ex a promise ring and she was my first love and my whole world. I found out she cheated on me a number of times and I was devistated. The best thing you can do is get to the acceptence stage as soon as possible. Remember anything you didn't like about her. Even if there seems like nothing there defenetly is. Remove her from the spot of being your soul mate in your mind. It might feel empty but you had happiness before her and you can acheve it now to. It comes from within you not from someone else. What you should do is remember love finds a way and maybe being alone right now is a good thing. How can someone love you if you do not love yourself as you are. Edited June 24, 2011 by Bito Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 it happens bro, i dont know why. My ex decided to leave me for a 37 year old coworker that lives in a trailer park... we were best friends for 2 years and dating for over a year and a half. She's 23 The sad part about it is she lied to me the entire time she was building this emotional relationship with this guy. Why she did it, I do not know. I wanted a break when I found out but she came grabbed my arm and told me she loved me. 2 months later I caught her at the bar with him and she broke up with me there. It's retarded It was a bad relationship, once you come down off your love for her, you might see that it was a bad relationship. I missed a TON of REDFLAGS. A ton of them. Was like the story of Sampson and Delila. She wants so badly to string me along as friends as a backup because she probably knows this isn't going to work out now. I told her that I am not friendzoning myself. **** that I deserve better then that. I could probably go in there, rebuild attraction of myself in her in another month. At this point, I do not want to. I had a nurse tell me the other night after I told her the story she said something no one else has said to me "You dodged a bullet there" Best thing I can say is it sucks, it hurts start living life again and move forward Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steven T Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 Thank you for your replys guys, I am glad I am not alone and there are great people like you to help me. I was ignoring the red flags too. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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