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Movies about break ups, coping and moving on


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I think for the most part Hollywood sends really bad messages to those of us in these situations. Movies often depict a guy stalking and basically harassing a woman who isn't interested, but instead of being hugely turned off she acts playful and finds it rather seductive and endearing. I can't help but imagine how a lot of the most romantic "redeeming" moments in film history (John Cusack's boombox scene in Say Anything, Dustin Hoffman banging on the windows during the wedding in The Graduate, for example) would go so, so differently in real life, and most likely culminate in bitter fall-outs and restraining orders rather than happily ever after.

 

Then there's the whole notion that people go from liking you to losing all interest to, at the very last minute, realising they're profoundly in love and sprinting through town to the airport/wedding etc. to convey their feelings. Not a good message for those of us who have been broken up with and are still loaded with false hope that our ex will show up at our doorstep in floods of tears declaring their love and pleading for us back :)

 

Of course most of these are escapist fantasies and even they can be helpful after a break up if they help us want to move on and fall in love again, but I prefer things closer to real life and I was interested in what movies you think accurately (but optimistically) depict the experience of break ups, coping and moving on that 99 percent of us will experience. The only one that comes to my mind is 500 days of Summer, what else?

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light_vader

500 days of summer.

 

Very funny yet sorta... dark at the same time.

 

And I concur, that hollywood does nothing but the old cheesy "I get her back at the airport" thingy hahahahahahahahah

It's good for watching and killing time but as you said it's really far from reality.

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"Adam" is a good one that has an ending rooted in reality. "500 Days of Summer" is a good one. "Post Grad" is also quite good.

 

Of course, for laughs there's "She's out of My League".

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Swingers with Jon Favreau and Vince Vaughn.

 

50 years from now, when I see this movie again, I’ll think of LS and how I/we concurred our little demons after a break-up.

 

It’s almost like a LS coping forum mascot.

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