giraff30 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Ok so I've been with this man for three years now. I have two kids with him. I love him, but I'm just not sure anymore. Before we were together he was the womanizing type. He would be talking to 3 or 4 girls at a time. I got with him and told him it was me or nothing. I gave him a chance and he betrayed my trust with another girl. We split up for a month then I took him back. He goes out and I hear stories of him messing around with other girls, flirting and so on. When I ask him he denies it. He says everyone just hates on him and that he just loves me. He has a cell and texts other girls. I've caught him flirting, found pictures of other girls on his phone, and messages. He goes out all the time and flirts. When I confront him he says they are "homegirls" and that I have nothing to worry about. I just had a baby a few months ago and I've put on a lil weight. We don't hardly do anything together anymore and have sex only about once a week. I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. When we do have sex it's different. It's not how it used to be. We used to try all positions. Now it's one or two and when he's on top he has his face in the pillow and won't even look at me. He used to look at me all the time. I don't know what to think or do. Am I wrong for feeling this way or am I just the jealous type? He is a major flirt and "eye jabber." I finally got him to admit it. Now he erases his texts that he receives and gets. That just makes him feel guilty. He says he doesn't want to lose me or his family, but really how much am I supposed to take? Link to post Share on other sites
Author giraff30 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 He also watches porn...It doesn't bother me that much because he watched it all the time before we were together...And sometimes I like watching it too. What bothers me is he never asks me to watch it with him. He has to do it when I'm not around or without me. What does that mean anyway? He will even take pictures of other girls with his phone or their asses...Really? But if it was me it would be a whole different story. Link to post Share on other sites
leftmeforcali Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 What's the main reason you're staying with him? because of the kids, or because you really love him? because it sounds like this man hasn't grown up. One day he will desire a family and loving wife and it will be too late because it sounds like he's pushing you to the edge. AND dont for a second think anything is wrong with you because you gained baby weight, that is a very beautiful thing and he should respect you and your body for having a child. Link to post Share on other sites
Author giraff30 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Thank You:) I am still with him because I really do love him and for the kids, but I'm just not sure anymore. You are right he hasn't grown up yet either. He did change a lot of his ways, but now little by little some of those ways are coming back. He says everyone hates on him, but he is just a really bad liar;) It's weird too because when I do confront him about these so call stories of other girls he tries to love me up and use sex as a way to get me to forget about it. I guess I will have to go down to the club and watch for myself just to see what is going on. I tell my friends to take a picture with their phone or call me when they see something...Because I guess that is what I really need is more proof. I don't know one of these days he's just going to push me too far and that will be the end of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Do you know the old saying, "you knew he was a snake when you picked him up?" Well, you've known for a LONG LONG time the guy is a piece of crap. He cheated on you and you took him back. And then, you made the horrible decision to have kids with this jerk. All the while, it's been in your face that he's a lying scumbag, day after day after day. Sorry, but you're not a victim anymore. You're a volunteer. I just don't get why you keep breeding with this guy? I wouldn't get a DOG with him, much less have his kid. Yeah, that's it - he's a demi-god and everyone's jealous and "hates" on him. LOL..what a complete douche bag. You know the guy's a complete jack-hole and you want your friends to send you pictures of him when he's out making a douche of himself???? I suppose then, because you still won't want to leave this loser even AFTER you have photographic evidence, you'll insist that you HAVE to catch him in the act. You know what he's doing and you're just looking for excuses to stay with him. Had it been me, his loser ass would have been gone LONG ago. And I certainly wouldn't have had kids with someone like this. Link to post Share on other sites
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