kgal Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 Well.....here's the scoop.....and you guys give me some advice okay? TY! Well...Three months ago I broke up w/my bf....and we agreed that we would still be friends...but we needed a break first. Our break was no contact here and there....but we weren't really "friends" until just recently.....when we started talking more casually and things seemed a bit better between us so that we can act friendly again. The thing is......that I've met someone....but he's online....and I barely know him. So far it's been 2 weeks since I met this new man....but I feel like I don't want it to progress into anything serious since I still feel sensitive to the breakup. I don't know what to do cuz this guy online acts like he's in love w/me already! Sometimes I wonder if I just used him as someone "on the rebound" to help void those feelings of loss I had w/my ex. So anyways......I told my ex about him....and now things seem to be a bit easier between us.....meaning that he's on his pc almost every night waiting to chat....I even think he may be a bit jealous. The thing is....I still feel love for my ex....although I'm trying to move on to someone new...I just dont feel like I'm going to be able to be in a serious relationship w/this guy online. Plus....how often do online romances really work out...esp. when the other person is far away. Oh...I just feel kinda out of sorts over this whole thing. Do you guys think I just need to tell the guy online that we can't be more than friends...cuz I'm not ready for a 'ship? Should I give myself more time to heal over my ex.....so that my heart can try to move on? I think that's what I've have to do...yet I don't want to hurt this online guy's feelings...cuz we're kinda close now and I fear he's in love. HELP!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted April 21, 2004 Share Posted April 21, 2004 How do you know that your "new guy" online isn't really your "old guy" online testing you to see if you are really dumping him and going out with other guys? Link to post Share on other sites
Velveteel Posted April 21, 2004 Share Posted April 21, 2004 Honesty is best. Treat the new guy like a grown-up. Give him as much information as he needs (I think telling him you're not quite over your ex is a good start), and let him make his own decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted April 21, 2004 Author Share Posted April 21, 2004 Originally posted by average guy How do you know that your "new guy" online isn't really your "old guy" online testing you to see if you are really dumping him and going out with other guys? Oh...I know that's not true...cuz I've talked to this new guy on the phone and seen his pic. I know where he lives and pretty much know he's not my ex. Plus...my ex always asks about him...and even gets a little attitude if I'm talking to him at the same time as my ex. It's kinda weird. I can tell he's a little heartbroken..but he's the one who didn't want to make things work....so what can I do? I'm just trying to allow myself to meet other ppl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted April 21, 2004 Author Share Posted April 21, 2004 Originally posted by Velveteel Honesty is best. Treat the new guy like a grown-up. Give him as much information as he needs (I think telling him you're not quite over your ex is a good start), and let him make his own decisions. Yea..you're right...I do need to tell this new guy that I'm not completely over my ex...and that's gonna be a problem for a relationship right now. I just hope I don't hurt him...I hate breaking hearts. Link to post Share on other sites
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