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Guys I have no attraction to being overly friendly. I'm not saying this guy likes me, but he likes all my status updates and always IMs me and I have no attraction to him and that never changes. When I don't like a guy, it never changes.

 

the only guys I have ever been attracted to, don't like me like that and this one says it's not because of my looks, either. He says it's cause I'm looking for something more serious. Well yeah! I like him, so duh!

 

I'm just so fed up with guys I have no interest in being so friendly. It's like, um, back up dude.

 

He just sent me a link to a zombie love song. I don't know if that means anything, but in my experience, the less interest you show in a guy, the more he wants you. And I don't play that game. If I'm not interested, I'm NOT interested and it doesn't change and vice versa.

 

Why are guys so complicated?

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I've never understood why guys are so persistant when a woman doesn't show no interest back either.

 

As soon as I get any indication a woman isn't interested, I'll just move on and forget about her. I mean, what's the point in being some annoying loser always pestering her?

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I'm just so fed up with guys I have no interest in being so friendly. It's like, um, back up dude.

And now the shoe is on the other foot.

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DreamerGirl27

ummm somedude...I don't pursue the guy I'm interested in. The majority of the time we talk, it's because he wants to. Your post made no sense.

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And now the shoe is on the other foot.

 

bottom line is, I don't call, text, IM or anything and he still manages to contact me and have long drawn out, deep conversations about everything with me. so no, the shoe is not on the other foot and I would appreciate it if you would stop treating it as so.

 

I'm not pursuing the guy i'm interested in, he's keeping this friendship alive, not me.

 

basically, I don't think he's completely not interested. He's told me we aren't looking for the same thing. I'm looking for my "soul mate" he's just looking for "right here, right now". He's also asked me about my past relationships and I honestly told him that i've never been in a relationship with someone I truly care about, to which he replied that most first loves don't last. That's not what I wanna hear from him, because I really wanna date him, but I think he's trying not to hurt me. He knows how much I like him and he has not and will not take advantage of me. Those are all positive things.

 

He is completely fine with a friendship. My post was about guys I don't even want a friendship with who don't get the hint.

 

Completely different situation. I'd appreciate it if you'd back off with the sarcastic, false statements on my posts. That's how they get out of hand and I start attacking people.

 

If you're gonna respond to my posts, keep up with what's going on in them and get your facts straight.

 

Please.

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It's simple. If they don't get the hint, either make it clear to them that you're not feeling them, or delete them off of your friend list. Done. Some people simply suck at taking hints.

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So you have never tried to pursue the guy you liked? You never talked to him about your interest?

why do guys who have no interest in me pursue me as well :rolleyes:

That depends on how you define pursue.

 

The very fact that a guy is pursuing you means he is interest. He may try to deny it.

 

There's also a smaller chance he just wants to be friends. But most guys won't go out of their way to maintain friendships with women they have no interest in.

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So you have never tried to pursue the guy you liked? You never talked to him about your interest?

 

 

That depends on how you define pursue.

 

The very fact that a guy is pursuing you means he is interest. He may try to deny it.

 

There's also a smaller chance he just wants to be friends. But most guys won't go out of their way to maintain friendships with women they have no interest in.

 

 

Yes, I told him, but not since he told me he's not interested. He's kept the lines of communication open since then.

 

there's a big chance he just wants to be friends. I think I found a weird one.

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It's simple. If they don't get the hint, either make it clear to them that you're not feeling them, or delete them off of your friend list. Done. Some people simply suck at taking hints.

 

I don't know if he's interested yet, I just know he's talkin' to me an awful lot, liking all my posts and sending me love song videos. That always leads to an "i like you" situation.

 

I'm just fed up with the ones I don't like doing that and the ones I do, not doing that. That was the point of this thread.

 

Why do all my posts get misconstrude?

 

 

I'm fed up with guys I don't like liking me and guys I do not.

 

That was pretty much self explanatory.

 

The comment "now the shoe is on the other foot" was out of place and unnecessary and I'm still fuming over it.

 

Thanks somedude. Thanks a lot.

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I don't know if he's interested yet, I just know he's talkin' to me an awful lot, liking all my posts and sending me love song videos. That always leads to an "i like you" situation.

 

I'm just fed up with the ones I don't like doing that and the ones I do, not doing that. That was the point of this thread.

 

Why do all my posts get misconstrude?

 

 

I'm fed up with guys I don't like liking me and guys I do not.

 

That was pretty much self explanatory.

 

The comment "now the shoe is on the other foot" was out of place and unnecessary and I'm still fuming over it.

 

Thanks somedude. Thanks a lot.

 

I'm fed up with guys I don't like liking me and guys I do, not liking me. It's a never ending cycle that should end once you're past the age of 13.

 

quoting a 13 year old girl from the movie 13 going on 30 "why do all the ones you like, not like you?"

 

seriously...I'm a bit old to be falling for all the guys on the planet who don't want me.

 

I can't catch a break in the dating world.

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just be nice to him and let him down gently

 

well usually what ends up happening is I just lose interest and stop responding as much. usually, if I'm talkin' to a guy for a long time, it's cause I'm interested. I don't really keep guy friends around. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm much more comfortable talking to other girls. I have to like a guy to want to keep lines of communication open. I don't do "just friends".

 

I mean, I'll respond, but I don't let the conversations get too deep and after awhile, I start kinda having one word responses. I simply get creeped out by most men. Unless I like them.

 

::shrugs::

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The comment "now the shoe is on the other foot" was out of place and unnecessary and I'm still fuming over it.

 

Thanks somedude. Thanks a lot.

Wow, if what I said was enough to make you start fuming, then you have bigger issues to worry about.

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Wow, if what I said was enough to make you start fuming, then you have bigger issues to worry about.

 

Your post was inaccurate and out of line.

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The solution to this is easy. Just treat the guys your interested in like you don't like them like that. Be kind yet allusive and don't open up to them. Let them open up to you. Treat them like they can't have you.

 

It's simple psychology. We always seem to want what we can't have.

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I'd give my left foot to have a guy I actually like want me. I don't understand the mentality of "we want what we can't have".

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I'd give my left foot to have a guy I actually like want me. I don't understand the mentality of "we want what we can't have".

 

No disrespect to you DreamGirl as you are in your own bubble. What somedude is saying and you arent getting is the double standards. A Christian Girl Shunning a guy who may well be Gods Choice for you. I do recall you wrote a prayer to God on here about a relationship. Chin up girl, God has a plan for you, keep the faith .

 

You are also of the mentality of wanting what you cant have, the guy who is a platonic friend....Which realistically speaking , you do "have" as a friend and that says alot in this day an age....

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No disrespect to you DreamGirl as you are in your own bubble. What somedude is saying and you arent getting is the double standards. A Christian Girl Shunning a guy who may well be Gods Choice for you. I do recall you wrote a prayer to God on here about a relationship. Chin up girl, God has a plan for you, keep the faith .

 

You are also of the mentality of wanting what you cant have, the guy who is a platonic friend....Which realistically speaking , you do "have" as a friend and that says alot in this day an age....

 

But it kills me that he doesn't want me, not that I want what I can't have. Wanting what you can't have would be like, if he changed his mind tomorrow, I'd lose interest. I'm depressed as all hell he doesn't want me.

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WOW, makes one wonder then how the one guy who does show interest in you feels that you are rejecting him....he and you share something in common ...you are both experiencing rejection in different ways. I just hope he doesnt chop off his left foot to gain your interest, no one is worth losing a limb over.

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WOW, makes one wonder then how the one guy who does show interest in you feels that you are rejecting him....he and you share something in common ...you are both experiencing rejection in different ways. I just hope he doesnt chop off his left foot to gain your interest, no one is worth losing a limb over.

 

Guys I have no interest in ALWAYS show interest. I'm never interested in them. It's quite annoying.

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Guys I have no interest in ALWAYS show interest. I'm never interested in them. It's quite annoying.

Oh do tell, please tell me you are jesting in a nieve way?

 

Read up on "overgeneralizing", that to me is quite annoying when a person speaks in such a way. Think realistically, it will help you understand that you are NOT so interesting and at the same time NOT so boring to be of interest to someone...

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Oh do tell, please tell me you are jesting in a nieve way?

 

Read up on "overgeneralizing", that to me is quite annoying when a person speaks in such a way. Think realistically, it will help you understand that you are NOT so interesting and at the same time NOT so boring to be of interest to someone...

 

 

No, I'm not. I get messaged by guys I have no attraction to all the time and the ones I'm attracted to, never want me. It's quite a common thing to happen to girls actually. I hear of girls all over these boards complaining of the same thing.

 

The ones you want don't want you, the ones you don't want, want you. Etc.

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Guys I have no attraction to being overly friendly. I'm not saying this guy likes me, but he likes all my status updates and always IMs me and I have no attraction to him and that never changes. When I don't like a guy, it never changes.

 

the only guys I have ever been attracted to, don't like me like that and this one says it's not because of my looks, either. He says it's cause I'm looking for something more serious. Well yeah! I like him, so duh!

 

I'm just so fed up with guys I have no interest in being so friendly. It's like, um, back up dude.

 

He just sent me a link to a zombie love song. I don't know if that means anything, but in my experience, the less interest you show in a guy, the more he wants you. And I don't play that game. If I'm not interested, I'm NOT interested and it doesn't change and vice versa.

 

Why are guys so complicated?

 

yuck. my boyfriend is the opposite of what you insist upon. whew.

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meaning? he knocks down your door and pursues you? congratz, I hate that.

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