Do you think this LDR will workout??

[lucy liu]

Hi this is my situation:

 

I was vacationing in Florida when I met my bf; he used to be my friend's ex and she actually introduced us..well the day she introduced us we went clubing and my friend asked me to dance with him, so I did and while we were dancing he was flirting with me, I felt bad because he's my friend's ex but I just followed along and flirted with him also. That night my friend didn't say or tell me anything at all, besides me and him there was also my friend's best friend, she acted like she didn't have any feelings for him anyways she lives in WPalm and he lives in Orlando, but I live in Puerto Rico.

 

Well, my vacation was over it was time to go back home and the last night I saw him he said that he wanted to be friends and to keep in touch. So I called him when I got back home and he started calling me frequently... he said he missed me and to go visit, but my friend didn't know anything..well this one day my friend called me and I told her that I was in Orlando and that me and my bf (at that time not my bf) had met at this club and I met some of his friends and we had the best time. Well, she was like was he with anyone because I called him the other day and he didn't speak to me very much, and I told her no he wasn't with any other girl. So, my bf kept calling me and I kept on visiting him until this one day he asked me to be his girl and started introducing me to everyone his best friends, his parents and brother as his oficial girlfriend..well we've been together for 5 months and the relationship has been really good I'm 26 and he's 25 and we talk on the phone not everyday but almost everyday, the other day I asked him if he had any feelings for my friend and he said he didn't, and that anyways she didn't want to be with him because she had told him that she was too young and needed her space and to know other people and wasn't ready for commitment. Anyways I trust him very much me living sooooo far away and he says he trusts me too and we communicate very well. But I still wonder if she would want to be with him if he would rather be with her than with me. Everytime I go to Orlando which is 2 or 3 times a month he stays with me and we sleep together and he says that he want's to marry me and have kids I feel great about that idea, but if it weren't for my job I would have left along time ago...that haven't given me transfer so I just am waiting.

 

The other day my friend called and I told her oh guess who called and told her he had called me at this point she doesn't know that he's my bf we had decided to tell her after the first month together but a month turned out to be five and we haven't told her yet..I always have my doubts if she still is interested in him eventhough she's going out with someone else who actually has a girlfriend, she called my bf the other day and my bf called me to tell me she had called and that she said she missed him and asked him when was he going to see her in WPalm beach and that since he was off for a couple of days that why wouldn't he go and see her..but he didn't go..which probably means he's not interested in her, but I called her to try to ask about him and she said that she had spoken with him and that he start's talking all this bull---t about her not wanting to be with him, and that she know's that there going to get married one day and that he said he wanted to visit her and she said it was ok..but eventhough she told me that she told him it was ok, but she doesn't want to give him the idea that there gonna sleep together because it's not that way..between them.. but she told me at first she had called and later said he had called her so I was left wondering who had called who and who was lying because he told me another version...and I also guessed she didn't want anything to do to him due to the fact of what she said about not sleeping with him..so at least I don't feel that bad about being with him..anyways I told him what she said and he told me that when did they have that conversation that she was the one who asked him to go to WPalm...

 

I guess the advice I'm asking is do you think this LDR will work out because he live in ORLANDO and I live in PUERTO RICO and also With my friend being his EX is it right???How should I approach her to tell her?

[moimeme]

If both your bf and his ex told you he said he didn't want to be with her, then believe it. If you're getting a transfer soon, then it seems all will work out ok. Good luck!

[Slapshot2286]

of COURSE it will work out! If you guys feel strongly enough about each other, then the distance won't even matter. My girlfriend lives in England, and I live in the US, and we've been together for almost 10 months now (a total of 9 of which we have been apart). I would be apart from her the rest of my life if I knew we would be together in the end! If you guys love each other, then it WILL work out! As far as your friend....well....she sounds like she's playin some games there, and I'd just forget about her. And regarding who to trust, trust your bf! That's what relationships are all about! And the fact that he called you to tell her she called and told you what she said says alot about him. That tells me he's not afraid to approach the situation, which most likely means there's nothing between them (I mean I could be wrong so don't come yell at me if I am). Ease your mind and wait for your transfer!

 

-Ross