kalena9488 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 (edited) I had a live in BF for 2 years. I asked him to move out last December. We are still seeing each other and are now even BF/GF again. But, though I want to be married again someday...I'm having trouble trusting him. The two main reasons I asked him to leave was 1) I kept finding pot (he kept denying) 2) He wasn't paying his share...ever Since then he's gotten custody of 2 of his kids. So, he's no longer paying child support and says if we lived together again things would be soooo different. He also says he's not smoking pot because he's he doesn't want to lose me or his job. (he had both of these while he was doing it before). I love him but I'm not really sure if that's why I'm still hanging around. I think it's more because even with the things mentioned above. I'm comfortable with him and I don't want to go through the dating cycle anymore. But, my other problem is the two kids plus he has another that he has every other weekend but most of the time he gets her more than that. Don't get me wrong I like his kids and we get along fine. I have three 24, 21 and 15 none of them live with me. I live alone. I like living alone though I am lonely sometimes. Like I said I like his kids but I remember when he lived with me and they came to visit. My house was always way to busy and no one including him did anything to keep it clean, I had to ask to have the lawn mowed etc. I don't know if I should keep seeing him but let him know we are never going to live together again or if I should just stop seeing him. I do think sometimes that it would be smarter for us to live together because I have a mortgage and he's now paying rent and living together should help both of us. But I remember when he lived here I ended up paying for everything and now with kids it would be even more expensive for me. I suggested he pay 1/2 household bills and he buy the groceries for he and his kids and I buy my own but he didn't like that idea. And I'm thinking it's because in the long run what he really wants is for me to pay more than my share. I just don't know what to do and sometimes I think I'm a horrible person for feeling the way I do. Edited June 26, 2011 by kalena9488 Link to post Share on other sites
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