confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 A girl who is interested in you, begins "the chase" or when she is just a bit more direct into letting you know that she's interested, or you prefer to be the one who starts everything? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Direct is always best for me. Link to post Share on other sites
aj22one Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Yup, direct is a good way to go. I'm usually oblivious to the more subtle things. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Always direct. Like many men, I prefer not to have to bother with "hint" language. Make it known, dont be afraid of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I understand that men prefer directness, but is it ever necessary for a woman to be the persistent one? Or, if a woman has to chase a man, would you say he is clearly not interested? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I understand that men prefer directness, but is it ever necessary for a woman to be the persistent one? Or, if a woman has to chase a man, would you say he is clearly not interested? You dont chase anyone, but the initial contact should be direct. If he doesnt reciprocate after that, then hes not really interested. Link to post Share on other sites
aj22one Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I understand that men prefer directness, but is it ever necessary for a woman to be the persistent one? Or, if a woman has to chase a man, would you say he is clearly not interested? Maybe, maybe not. Sometimes a guy might not be too confident or he thinks the woman doesn't like him and it might be necessary for her to do a little chasing, at least until he gets the hint. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 A girl who is interested in you, begins "the chase" or when she is just a bit more direct into letting you know that she's interested, or you prefer to be the one who starts everything? I usually like to initate my interest in a girl (as I've done with my current lady) so I expect her to be direct in her interest back. I despise games as in the so-called "chase" and I'm sure many men agree with me on this as it ruins the dating game and has grown seriously stale. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 initiating is fine, men like to initiate, but feigning dis-interest is not a response we're looking for. better not push a man with any other options away too hard, or he'll take up the offer to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 After a lifetime of meeting attached women, I'm happy if it's obvious the lady is not married (no ring) and is friendly and responsive. She doesn't need to be direct or aggressive, merely responsive. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I don't want to be chased but if a woman is interested I'd like that to not be unclear. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 initiating is fine, men like to initiate, but feigning dis-interest is not a response we're looking for. better not push a man with any other options away too hard, or he'll take up the offer to leave. OMG who fakes disinterest?? I never do that. Do u know girls that do stuff like that because I never heard of it lol. And why would anyone do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 You dont chase anyone, but the initial contact should be direct. If he doesnt reciprocate after that, then hes not really interested. But what if after the initial contact you keep in touch but there's no clear sign of interest from the guy, would it be ok to ask directly whats going on? Maybe he just wants a friendship, maybe he's not sure, there's many possible answers to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 OMG who fakes disinterest?? I never do that. Do u know girls that do stuff like that because I never heard of it lol. And why would anyone do that? I think he means when a girl is pretending not to be interested or being hard to get to get even more attention from the guy. Im not sure if this works or not??? Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I think he means when a girl is pretending not to be interested or being hard to get to get even more attention from the guy. Im not sure if this works or not??? Never tried it and doubt it works. It comes off stupid and immature lol. Im so not into guys doing it so why should I? Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I prefer her to chase me for two reasons: 1) It shows she really does like me, and... 2) I find it sexy how she can be confident enough to pursue someone instead of waiting to be chatted up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 I prefer her to chase me for two reasons: 1) It shows she really does like me, and... 2) I find it sexy how she can be confident enough to pursue someone instead of waiting to be chatted up. I like you answer, but is it general for most guys? Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I prefer her to chase me for two reasons: 1) It shows she really does like me, and... 2) I find it sexy how she can be confident enough to pursue someone instead of waiting to be chatted up. Don't listen to this claptrap! While yes a woman should show interest from the get, but doesn't and shouldn't resort to chasing anyone. Both parties ought to be mature and levelheaded enough to be straight up. Link to post Share on other sites
eerie_reverie Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I am wondering what y'all are meaning by "chase". Is that asking someone out? If so, I recently asked out a guy I was interested in, and was surprised by how well it turned out. Not only did we havea great date, but he let me know that he'd liked me for a really long time. He also seemed turned on by my apparent confidence. Prior to this experience, I had always been of the mindset that if the guy doesn't make the first move, he's not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 (edited) OMG who fakes disinterest?? I never do that. Do u know girls that do stuff like that because I never heard of it lol. And why would anyone do that? the "three day reply", ignoring phone calls, etc. yeah there are people who do that. then get upset when they break down and call after a few days of no contact and you say "sorry already made plans with someone else", as if they're shocked that you didn't keep the unreturned attention going forever. basically women whose only involvement in dating is for an attention fix. they're out there . Edited June 27, 2011 by thatone Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 the "three day reply", ignoring phone calls, etc. yeah there are people who do that. then get upset when they break down and call after a few days of no contact and you say "sorry already made plans with someone else", as if they're shocked that you didn't keep the unreturned attention going forever. basically women whose only involvement in dating is for an attention fix. they're out there . Hell yea! I've ran into a girl like that last year. She put up walls after walls, but yet kept trying to get my attention at the same time. I finally figured out she was going to be a headache and dropped her like a rotten potato. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 (edited) Hell yea! I've ran into a girl like that last year. She put up walls after walls, but yet kept trying to get my attention at the same time. I finally figured out she was going to be a headache and dropped her like a rotten potato. yep, i've run into a few of those myself. they're near impossible to read before that first date, because they're giddy with the attention they're getting when you first approach them, you only find out later that's their game, seeing how long they can maintain that attention phase of initial meetings/first dates. Edited June 27, 2011 by thatone Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I like you answer, but is it general for most guys? I'm not sure, I know it makes a nice change though. For me though, I really like it. Don't listen to this claptrap! While yes a woman should show interest from the get, but doesn't and shouldn't resort to chasing anyone. Both parties ought to be mature and levelheaded enough to be straight up. This post does not make sense. I was asked a question and I replied with yes and why. Both were personal opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I just just like em to be direct, or chase (isn't that the same?). Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 It's a two-sided coin. One the one side you would want the girl/woman you're into to chase you, because then you'll know she really likes you too, but on the other side you don't want to do rejections, because they're so painful for the other party. Especially when you take into consideration that it's socially less common for women to chase men, hence they'll have to gather more courage, hence the emotional blow due to rejection can be harder for women than for men. Link to post Share on other sites
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