jeremy711 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hey, I'm just going to give you some scenarios and tell me if you'd be hurt/offended by this? Scenario #1 Your invited to a BBQ and you want to bring one of your friends. She says she doesn't really want to go as she doesn't feel she was invited. You do all you can to entice her to come. You even say you'll even get the "invitee" to send her an invite. Then one of your other friends talk to her and she convinces her to go. Would you be offended that she listened to her instead of you? Scenario #2 You usually go out for lunch together, but sometimes you do go by yourself or in groups of 2. This is a triangle friendship but strictly friends. This one instance they didn't invite you to go. Would you be offended? Do I have like abandonment issues or am I really petty? I'm really curious to know as I would just like to improve that part of myself. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
tman666 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Dude, I used to be just like you. You can't let someone else dictate your emotions. Part of growing a thicker skin involves placing yourself first. Here's what I mean: tomorrow morning when you wake up, imagine your perfect day. How's the weather? Are you going to do anything outside? What are you going to eat? Do you have any responsibilities that you need to take care of? Beyond that, what do you want to do? What sounds fun to you? Then, go out and do it. From the tone of your post, it sort of sounds like you place your time with your friends, and how they might view you at any particular instant, as a large factor in determining the quality of your day. You didn't do anything wrong, nor is the way you're feeling 'wrong'. However, you can change how you view the situation. Master the art of not giving a ****. If you get ditched or flaked out on, don't get down. Go do something awesome by yourself or hang out with other people. If they do this a lot, then maybe they aren't friends worth having... Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Yeah those things would insult me. Acting insulted is probably the wrong thing to do though. So, what is the situation? Are you interested in dating this girl? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I don't think those things would be nice for anyone, but you shouldn't let it hurt you so much, your attitude should be more like '**** em', if it happened a lot as though they didn't think that much of you as a worthy friend, I'd just look for better friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jeremy711 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 OMFG........you guys are awesome. If i knew where you lived I'd take you all for drinks!!! hahaha This is exactly right I am letting someone else dictate my feelings to much. and I am terrible at hiding my feelings. I wear my heart of my sleeve way to much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jeremy711 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 So, what is the situation? Are you interested in dating this girl? Yea...I am. Thats why I can be hurt so easily by her. Anyone else I wouldn't care nearly as much. Link to post Share on other sites
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