World at my fingertips but I'm psyching myself out

[OhMittens]

By all looks from the outside I have the world at my fingertips.

 

I am 24 in a very well paying career which has allowed me to purchase my home. I'm also not going to be modest and just say that I am a very attractive man. All my life I have made a lot of girls (and guys, but lets not get into that ) blush and drop things. I've got an optimistic personality and I'm always making people laugh. I'm also very intelligent and have had the ability to master anything I've ever put a decent amount of effort into. I tend to learn things very quickly and find myself as a natural leader who people flock towards.

 

But even with all of these positives I constantly psyche myself out of things. I'm in a career path in which I am pretty much secure for life. I have an old coworker who is offering me a position at the company she works for. This position should raise my salary by at least 25% which means by the time I am 30 I should be making somewhere in the six figures, but I can't find any motivation to fix up my resume.

 

With all of my positive personality traits I find that I had always psyched myself out with women and people in general. I tend to have very few friends and I ended up in a LTR with the first girl I dated, but now I'm single again and have no idea where to start.

 

I'm able to psyche myself up to do things most of the time, but when it gets to be that time for some reason I just get out of whatever zone I was in and end up doing nothing. I find that I have no issues when doing solitary things like working on the house or building things, but when it comes to working with interacting with people I tend to shut down. When I'm alone or with the few people I am comfortable around I have all the confidence in the world, yet when I'm around others I become very modest and look down upon myself.

 

I know I'm a very lucky person and I am grateful for what I have in front of me. I just need to figure out how to take advantage of it before it is too late.

[OhMittens]

My therapist says I have had dealt with depression for most of my life and suggests that I see my PCP and start taking antidepressants.

[denise_xo]

I've had great help with (social) anxiety from antidepressants. I've used in combination with other strategies (therapy, more exercise, healthy living, trying to be pro active about my issues and so on). How would you feel about giving it a try?

[OhMittens]

I have no issues with the medication as soon as I can get an appointment. Otherwise I am in therapy and live a fairly healthy life. I've also been getting a ton of backed up projects done and really catching up on everything that I was letting slip in the past.

 

So I guess I'd have no issues trying harder.

[denise_xo]

Well, sounds like you have a good basis for working on this, then. I've improved a lot over the last decade. I definitely think you can get better if you set your mind to it. Good luck