whoahman07 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I am a man and have been seeing a girl in college for the past month and things are great. i have met her family and she has met mine and my family loves her. the thing that gets me is that she says she is afraid of the title. now she is in a sorority so its understandable due to her busy life. i never thought anything of it but one night she decided to go out with her friends to a bar. i decided i would surprise her with roses when she got back home. come to find out her and her friends got a ride from one of there guy friends. as i saw her friends get out of the car she remained in the back seat with the doors closed for about 5-10 minutes. is it safe to assume that she was hooking up with someone else and that is the reason she doesn't want a title.(she says she likes me and is coming home with me and going to a concert with me in the next month). what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 What is a "title"? To me it is a knighthood. Maybe that's because I am from the UK, and it means something different over there? Can I assume you mean that she doesn't want to be called your "girlfriend", and doesn't want your relationship to be widely known? She obviously does not want any kind of commitment or exclusive relationship. If that is what you want then you need to move on and find someone who does want that. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Sounds like she young and has commitment issuses. I would seriously consider what your options are. You really need to talk to her and find out where you stand. Now, I can only speculate that happened in that car, so I'm not saying anything; however, did she know you where outside waiting for her? If so, well....that's totally disrespectful. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 It seems pretty obvious she was hooking up with him. If the roles were reversed do you think she would be so accepting as you? She is playing you for a fool. She wants to have all of the benefits of a boyfriend but none of the restrictions and boundaries of being a girlfriend. She has got you on a string. You are the safety net guy. Time to cut the string and find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Coil Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 dating for one month, sorority girl, partying with the girls and a lot of frat boys, not wanting a title, doing something in the back seat of a car when everyone got out. How many red flags do you want to ignore. Face it, she is NOT your girlfriend. I'd say she is at least playing the field. That would be enough for me to hit the road. Link to post Share on other sites
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