DontWorryBHappy Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 When my ex asked for us to try again, which was 1.5 months after the break up, I had agreed. But over the entire week that we started dating again my anxiety level was through the roof. If he texted too much and didn't call enough, I'd freak out. If he didn't invite me to spend time with him for a couple days, I'd freak out. When he asked for us to try again, he still said that he wasn't sure if he would be able to love me (because of his apparent inability to maintain a feeling of love for someone). But he said he THOUGHT he would be able to love me, and he "liked me too much to let me go". For some reason I accepted that... figured the love could come in time. But then every single time I watched tv and saw a character telling another, "I love you", it tore me up inside.. because those were 3 words my ex USED to say and feel, but now did not. So I was extremely anxious and several times I went over to his place to have conversations with him about the stuff I felt anxious about.. and once when he asked what was wrong, I blurted out "we're only talking over text and you still aren't inviting me over!" Normaly I would never have been so anxious when starting a relationhip, but the circumstances of the situation just got the best of me. In the end when we seperated again I told him I was sorry for being so anxious, and it was just because of the past hurt and too many expectations for how I thought it was supposed to go. He understood, but he also said he felt we needed to seperate simply because he didn't think he'd be able to learn to love someone if I was still around. So I guess this was doomed even without my anxiousness. But how can I be sure? And should I be kicking myself so much for the anxiety I displayed? Or just think of it as the only way I knew how to respond at the time? Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You gave it another shot. What more can you do? It's apparent that he is wanting to hang on loosely just in case. You shouldnt be an "emergency-in-glass" type of person. Your anxiety would have only persisted and worsened as the days went by. In flat out terms: he is not committed. This is for the best. THIS time, move on with your own life and make it the best you can be. Don't get stuck in the drama of your ex pulling and pushing away. It is a horrible waste of time...well, maybe not because you have learned that even when you guys reconnected, he was unable to give you the love you deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
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