Sunny days

[Sansa]

So things with my husband are getting better and I pretty much got what I wanted in this situation so far. For the most part he is being pleasant and a family man like I expect him to be but every once in awhile he shows anger for a brief second when he can. Meaning little things that he'd ordinarily say nothing about he makes comments about. I just let it go cause I think he's angry that he doesnt get his way and there's nothing he can say about it. I was pretty tough with him and I think he knew I'd leave him if he actually went through with his plan. Now he seems to be warming up to the idea of my daughter and I going with him on some of his trips but I can tell he's still a little sore over it. I'm being very sweet and caring toward him and giving him more attention per his request. I just hope he doesn't change his mind and I'm going through these issues again. I reminded him that I am his wife and we have a daughter and a baby on the way and that he is a taken man but at the same time I made it clear that if he wanted to give us up it would ultimately be his loss, I would never take him back and that he could have all the freedom he wanted. Basically I told him it's the family that we started our it's your freedom and playing which do you want. It wasn't easy, cause I love him and if he had picked the freedom it would of hurt but I would just have to be strong and raise my daughters. I think he knows I was serious and it scared him. Will he get over being upset? I truly do want him to be happy but I just can't honestly give him what he wants and be happy myself.

[luvbun80]

So things with my husband are getting better and I pretty much got what I wanted in this situation so far. For the most part he is being pleasant and a family man like I expect him to be but every once in awhile he shows anger for a brief second when he can. Meaning little things that he'd ordinarily say nothing about he makes comments about. I just let it go cause I think he's angry that he doesnt get his way and there's nothing he can say about it. I was pretty tough with him and I think he knew I'd leave him if he actually went through with his plan. Now he seems to be warming up to the idea of my daughter and I going with him on some of his trips but I can tell he's still a little sore over it. I'm being very sweet and caring toward him and giving him more attention per his request. I just hope he doesn't change his mind and I'm going through these issues again. I reminded him that I am his wife and we have a daughter and a baby on the way and that he is a taken man but at the same time I made it clear that if he wanted to give us up it would ultimately be his loss, I would never take him back and that he could have all the freedom he wanted. Basically I told him it's the family that we started our it's your freedom and playing which do you want. It wasn't easy, cause I love him and if he had picked the freedom it would of hurt but I would just have to be strong and raise my daughters. I think he knows I was serious and it scared him. Will he get over being upset? I truly do want him to be happy but I just can't honestly give him what he wants and be happy myself.

 

Well it could go either way, some men are very apt at bottling resentment for a long time until it blows up big time. On the other hand since he is getting a more loving wife in return maybe he feels he is getting a good deal

 

It's still good to remember that most men need a bit of breathing space or they might feel smothered. That being said I'd love it if my wife went with me on business trips but I think she'd find it rather boring!

[Sansa]

As far as my job goes I am very lucky. I work in a small office but for a large company. However when I had my daughter I spoke with my boss about working part time because I wanted to be able to enjoy being a mother since I've focused on my career most of my life. But my boss is very family oriented and he agreed to let me work in the office a few days a week and from home the other days. So he allows me to choose my schedule based on what I need to do and there is a lot of flexibility. This has been working for everyone for over a year now. I just make sure I keep on top of things. Mist of the people in my office who are mainly surgeons are older they have children there wides have nannies so they are very caring and passionate about allowing me to be a good mother as long as I do my job which has not been a problem. I love my job!! I love the people I work with they are very family centered.