cerridwen Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) I have to cross 9 timezones to see my sweetie. Knowing I'll be sleep deprived and jet lagged, I proposed meeting up the second day I arrive. The idea is for me to spend the first night alone so I can sleep and not be a zombie when we hook up. Hopefully, I'll be refreshed the next day and have my wits about me. My problem: I wonder if I'm not wasting a 1/2 day; time when we could be together. I want to spend every second together. But I fear that time might not be quality, as I may be out of sorts. What would you do? Meet up sooner though it might mean you are discombobulated? Or put it off a day when you're more rested? Edited June 28, 2011 by cerridwen Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 It's only a day. I think it would be better to meet someone when you're not jet lagged and in a better frame of mind. It's what I'd do. Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 If you're going to be flying that many hours, forget about it. You're going to be dead on your feet. Wait a day to see him. If you don't, you might spend the whole time sleeping anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Honestly, cerridwen, it doesn't really matter how tired you are - when you meet him for the first time you'll probably forget you need to sleep. My man had been on a 30 hour flight (3 flights) when we first met and it was the early hours of the morning to him. He was still buzzing for at least 6 or 7 hours before he passed out from exhaustion. I was the same going in the opposite direction (UK to NZ) and the first night I was there, he fell asleep before I did - way too much excitement for my brain to switch off. If you don't arrange to see your guy until the following day, I bet you'll be too excited to sleep anyway. Do what your instincts tell you to, if you would feel happier sleeping first then do so but I think you'll feel as though you've wasted time - not something you want to be doing in a LDR! Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 She'll probably be seeing him for a couple of weeks, I don't think one day to recuperate is too bad. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 She'll probably be seeing him for a couple of weeks, I don't think one day to recuperate is too bad. You wait until you're in a LDR - you may think otherwise! Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 She'll probably be seeing him for a couple of weeks, I don't think one day to recuperate is too bad. Wait. You're going on a date for a couple of weeks. Cerridwen is seeing someone for a couple of weeks... You and cerridwen? You can tell Uncle head. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Wait. You're going on a date for a couple of weeks. Cerridwen is seeing someone for a couple of weeks... You and cerridwen? You can tell Uncle head. Hey - I already PM'd to ask that Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Wait. You're going on a date for a couple of weeks. Cerridwen is seeing someone for a couple of weeks... You and cerridwen? You can tell Uncle head. I was wondering the same thing! Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Hey - I already PM'd to ask that You have class, Anne. I'm a ruffian and had to ask on an open forum. Well kids? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) Wait. You're going on a date for a couple of weeks. Cerridwen is seeing someone for a couple of weeks... You and cerridwen? You can tell Uncle head. The reason why I said a couple of weeks, is because usually whenever I read about LDR people meeting each other, it always seems to be for around 2 weeks. So I just assumed. Edited June 28, 2011 by Ross MwcFan Link to post Share on other sites
Author cerridwen Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Honestly, cerridwen, it doesn't really matter how tired you are - when you meet him for the first time you'll probably forget you need to sleep. My man had been on a 30 hour flight (3 flights) when we first met and it was the early hours of the morning to him. He was still buzzing for at least 6 or 7 hours before he passed out from exhaustion. I was the same going in the opposite direction (UK to NZ) and the first night I was there, he fell asleep before I did - way too much excitement for my brain to switch off. If you don't arrange to see your guy until the following day, I bet you'll be too excited to sleep anyway. Do what your instincts tell you to, if you would feel happier sleeping first then do so but I think you'll feel as though you've wasted time - not something you want to be doing in a LDR! Gosh, you're probably right LT. On one hand, I know I'll be super excited and sleep will be tough. On the other, I'm one of those that NEEDS sleep (or I feel nauseous and dizzy). Hmmm. Maybe what I'll do is extend my trip by one day so I have a bit more time with him. I dunno. I think I'm getting all flustered by the excitement. Thanks for your input though! I appreciate it. Head! Tis' nunya business. Link to post Share on other sites
wild_urge Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I have to go through 7 time zones and one stop (change of airplane) so the whole thing takes me more than about 13h, may be more, but we always see each other right away, you'll sleep a bit on the plane, you'll be fine, I personally don't even feel the time difference, I go to bed at normal time and wake up at normal time the next day, it does depend on the person thou. Have fun, see him, it'll be amazing Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I'm one of those that NEEDS sleep (or I feel nauseous and dizzy). Same here. Trust me, if you hit it off, which I hope you do, the last thing you'll be 'needing' is sleep! Maybe what I'll do is extend my trip by one day so I have a bit more time with him. I dunno. I think I'm getting all flustered by the excitement. First time we met my kiwi man extended his trip from two weeks to three - it's still wasn't enough! Our longest visit has been five weeks - still not enough! Welcome to the wonderful world of LDRs. Best of luck cerridwen, I really hope you guys hit it off and have a great time - however long you get to spend together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cerridwen Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 I have to go through 7 time zones and one stop (change of airplane) so the whole thing takes me more than about 13h, may be more, but we always see each other right away, you'll sleep a bit on the plane, you'll be fine, I personally don't even feel the time difference, I go to bed at normal time and wake up at normal time the next day, it does depend on the person thou. Have fun, see him, it'll be amazing Thank you wild. Last I looked at flights, the best one was 14 hours. Not bad, huh? Some people recommend taking Melatonin or valium to help you sleep on the plane. I'm hesitant though. My brain chemistry's a bit delicate. Same here. Trust me, if you hit it off, which I hope you do, the last thing you'll be 'needing' is sleep! First time we met my kiwi man extended his trip from two weeks to three - it's still wasn't enough! Our longest visit has been five weeks - still not enough! Welcome to the wonderful world of LDRs. Best of luck cerridwen, I really hope you guys hit it off and have a great time - however long you get to spend together. Awww, LT. Your man is a sweet one to extend his trip like that. Thanks for your well wishes and insight. Both have got me wishing it were time to meet now! Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 You should see each other right away. More romantic and waste less time. He’ll enjoy just watching you sleep if that’s all you can do. So, is it Ross from LS? Link to post Share on other sites
JadedAmore Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I'm new to this specific area of LS, but I'm jumping in anyway. I would think you'd probably be too excited to sleep. We all have our own preferences, but I don't see what it would hurt to maybe spend at least a couple hours together on the arrival date. Plus, I agree with the above poster -- he'll enjoy your company regardless, even if it's to watch you sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cerridwen Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 You should see each other right away. More romantic and waste less time. He’ll enjoy just watching you sleep if that’s all you can do. So, is it Ross from LS? I hope he enjoys my snoring. You maybe right. I'll check in with him. Thanks, Dust. Is it Ross from LS what? I'm new to this specific area of LS, but I'm jumping in anyway. I would think you'd probably be too excited to sleep. We all have our own preferences, but I don't see what it would hurt to maybe spend at least a couple hours together on the arrival date. Plus, I agree with the above poster -- he'll enjoy your company regardless, even if it's to watch you sleep. Jaded, since I'm too excited even now just thinking about it, you're probably right! Plus, my plane would land 9am local time. They say you should force yourself to stay awake until normal bedtime hours (locally). That means a long stretch of time by myself. Hm. Something to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
JadedAmore Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Jaded, since I'm too excited even now just thinking about it, you're probably right! Plus, my plane would land 9am local time. They say you should force yourself to stay awake until normal bedtime hours (locally). That means a long stretch of time by myself. Hm. Something to think about. Adjusting to the new time might be a little bit of a stretch since it's such a huge time gap, but like I said... why not give it at the very least a few hours? When my guy flew in after a 14 hour trip I knew he'd be exhausted and offered to wait until the following day to meet up, but he insisted we at least do dinner the night he got in. We ended up spending hours talking and I felt guilty for keeping him, but it sure was good to see him! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Believe me, you will want that extra day with him. I spent as much time as possible with Pyro before I had to leave. Heck, I missed my flight home because I couldn't tear myself away. I doubt he'd care to be there while you're sleeping and recovering. Pyro couldn't sleep the night before our first meeting so he slept with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cerridwen Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) Believe me, you will want that extra day with him. I spent as much time as possible with Pyro before I had to leave. Heck, I missed my flight home because I couldn't tear myself away. I doubt he'd care to be there while you're sleeping and recovering. Pyro couldn't sleep the night before our first meeting so he slept with me. Cute...and so's your new avatar. Yeah. I may not even ask him now but just tell him to come that same evening. I'm not kidding; my heart's kinda beating harder thinking about it! Edited June 29, 2011 by cerridwen Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 You should see each other right away. More romantic and waste less time. He’ll enjoy just watching you sleep if that’s all you can do. So, is it Ross from LS? Is what me? Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Love the avatar CE! And anyone notice how Cerridwen and Ross are avoiding answering the question? My relationship is long-distance and, for awhile, it involved 6 times zones, one stop-over and about 11 hours of travel time. To tell you the truth,whether I was the one traveling or the one welcoming him, the first few hours of just hanging out in bed were my favorites. And I'm definitely someone who needs my sleep and someone who needs "down time". But it all depends on just how well you know him and how comfortable you are with the idea of a full day of hanging out in bed with your guy. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Hmm... Whoever both of you are meeting I hope you both have a great time When are you meeting your 'friend' Ross? And when are you meeting yours Cerridwen? Is what me? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Hmm... Whoever both of you are meeting I hope you both have a great time When are you meeting your 'friend' Ross? And when are you meeting yours Cerridwen? Can't quite remember, it seems to have slipped my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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