stace79 Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 My ex and I are trying to "work things out" but we are not together. In his words, we are not just friends, but we are not in a relationship either. We talk, hang out sometimes, we have been intimate, but I've put an end to that because I'm not happy with our status. He does sports radio, and on twitter I have relationships with a lot of others in sports media. I connected him with a guy who founded a sports website and has some good connections. My ex ended up having the guy on his sports radio show today. Whether he did it intentionally or not, he gave credit for this connection to another girl that I currently cannot stand, because I am jealous of my ex's attention toward her. It's not ridiculous - he says they are just friends and since we're not together he can do whatever he wants technically. (She lives 800 miles away and is getting a divorce, has two kids.) However, I think this would have upset/hurt me even if we are truly just friends. I went out of my way to do a kind thing and helpful thing for his career by connecting him with this guy, and publicly on twitter he thanks this other girl for her connection skills and then says jokingly he probably cannot afford her but can he hire her to help set up interviews. He has not called or responded back to my text message about this. I am really pissed and hurt and don't know what to do. I never would have required him to publicly thank me for doing this. I like to help him out because I care about him. But the fact that he made an effort to thank HER just has made me livid!!! Please help. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
skywriter Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 ....and so, it would seem ,that he knew, you would hear this thankful mssg. to her. Let it go, because if that is true, then he's expecting you to ask him about thanking her. Just keep on living well. It shows an inner strength and says if I'm with you, it's because I wanna be, not because I need you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 I don't think he did it to piss me off on purpose. I think that he may have honestly forgotten it was me who set up that connection, because it was several days or so ago. I'm just furious about it. I can't stand this girl already. Would I be wrong to expect him to make a correction to what he said? Or at least to thank me specifically for this particular connection? Am I wrong to be angry or hurt by it? Link to post Share on other sites
bikinibeach Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 he sounds like a textbook passive aggressive. stop making excuses for him! Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I don't think he did it to piss me off on purpose. I think that he may have honestly forgotten it was me who set up that connection, because it was several days or so ago. I'm just furious about it. I can't stand this girl already. Would I be wrong to expect him to make a correction to what he said? Or at least to thank me specifically for this particular connection? Am I wrong to be angry or hurt by it? it's wrong to think that he forgot who was responsible for it. men (ALL of them) have a very evolved sense of who does who favors, and who is owed favors in return. it's part of the male thought process. men without that sense of fair return for fair play are not tolerated by other men. so it's highly unlikely that he 'forgot' who did him the favor, damn near impossible actually. now he may have been lying about it just to make a better story, or he may be trying to impress her by lying about it, but he knows he's lying either way. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Do nothing. Stop calling, texting and stop following him twitter (facebook too, delete and block him). He's being a jerk .. Because he can! Whatever it is between you two is over, it seems no effort or respect is happening and he's pissing you off and upsetting you. Try to work through this and get over him so you can find a guy who will treat you better. Don't waste another tear on him, okay?! He's not worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 stace, you know he's a jackoff. It's really, really, really time to cut bait...forever. Don't help, don't expect, don't talk to him, don't read his twitter. When you think about him, the words "Sayonara, slimeball" should be your only thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Rita86 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Echoing what everyone already said. He's really not worth it. Please find the strenght to let go of him. He's even your friend at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Appreciate everyone's insights. I feel sort of silly now. I completely misunderstood the conversation - there was a call or direct email in to his show that I obviously had no knowledge of - I just reacted to the thing I saw on twitter in a vacuum. Link to post Share on other sites
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