should I forgive her?

[tod]

I got in an argument with my girlfriend at the public swimming pool and she got so angry, she kicked me, hitting me directly in the nuts. I’ll tell you, a swimming suit doesn’t offer a guy much protection. It was very painful and a humiliating. It seemed everyone was laughing. Right after she did this, she felt very bad and became apologetic. She insisted I see a doctor, but when I said I couldn’t afford one, she brought me over to two of her girl friends that were both studying nursing. She insisted I let them examine me which I reluctantly agreed to. After they each examined my testicles in a very unprofessional way, they said they weren’t sure because they were only in there first year of nursing school and never seen, much less, examined a guy before. It seemed pointless, other than to add to my humiliation and providing them with cheap entertainment. My girlfriend says she’s very sorry about the whole thing and asking if I could forgive her and start over. At this point, I can’t even remember what the original argument was about. I’m just wondering whether I should forgive her.

[Tony T]

Yes, I would forgive someone who kicked me in the testicles, causing great pain and who humiliated me in a public place. Yes, I would forgive the same girl for taking me over to a couple of first year nursing students so they could pull my pants down and play with my aching testicles before telling me they didn't know what they were doing. Yes, I would forgive her for allowing her nurse friends to get their jollies during my time of extreme pain.

 

Yes, I could forgive a girlfriend who is so easily angered that she would result to such severe violence in a public place rather than leave and take it to a more private place.

 

AND AT THE SAME TIME I WAS FORGIVING, I WOULD NEVER EVER SEE HER AGAIN.

 

What she did was forgiveable but unforgettable and bound to be repeated. And if she would be this violent in public, can you imagine what calibre gun she would use to shoot your nuts off in private???

[Roger]

Todd,

 

Run don't Walk as fast as you can!

 

Who needs this? Things happen....

 

It's how we deal with them that determines are character.

 

You got a painful glimpse into the future buddy.

 

Best of luck

 

Roger

I got in an argument with my girlfriend at the public swimming pool and she got so angry, she kicked me, hitting me directly in the nuts. I'll tell you, a swimming suit doesn't offer a guy much protection. It was very painful and a humiliating. It seemed everyone was laughing. Right after she did this, she felt very bad and became apologetic. She insisted I see a doctor, but when I said I couldn't afford one, she brought me over to two of her girl friends that were both studying nursing. She insisted I let them examine me which I reluctantly agreed to. After they each examined my testicles in a very unprofessional way, they said they weren't sure because they were only in there first year of nursing school and never seen, much less, examined a guy before. It seemed pointless, other than to add to my humiliation and providing them with cheap entertainment. My girlfriend says she's very sorry about the whole thing and asking if I could forgive her and start over. At this point, I can't even remember what the original argument was about. I'm just wondering whether I should forgive her.

[Bella]

If you feel that she deserves a second chance, then give her one. I think I've kicked a guy in the nuts at least once in my immature past, then saw how painful it was for him and realised it was a big no-no.

 

On the other hand, if she's old enough to know better, you might not want to forgive her. If you're angry, stay angry for as long as you need to.

 

Give her break with the nurses, I think she was genuinely trying to help you. Girls don't usually get off on seeing guys' privates like vice versa. Unless they were kind of sniggering while they were doing it, they probably were really trying to help.

[Tony T]

Bella:

 

Only a guy would know what it feels like to get kicked in the testicles. I agree that it was immaturity perhaps, but immaturity with extreme malice. This was a violent act. I agree she should be forgiven as I believe all persons who do bad deeds should be forgiven, but forgiveness is for the benefit of the mental health of the person doing the forgiving.

 

This girl must NEVER be given the chance of doing this again. NEVER!!! Once a girl knows where it hurts a guy the most, the next time she gets really angry and wants to inflict instant pain...she'll go for the place it hurts the most and now she knows that.

 

Not only would I not recommend this guy get near her again but I consider her a great danger to any man who may piss her off. Myself, I would have called the police and had her charged with assault.

 

Regarding your interpretation of his girlfriend's sincere desire to get her help, perhaps it was (in part to save her own butt). But she got two of her friends, who were first year nursing students...who admitted they didn't know what they were doing...to fondle his testicles and his (the victim's) take was that they were getting cheap entertainment. Men know these things. I am sure they gave him a good hint that they were being amused by this. Besides, a first week nursing student would know you can't detect damage to a testicle simply by feeling it...but you certainly can make the problem worse.

 

A first week nursing student would also know that practicing medicine without a license (performing an examination in an area without expertise) is a felony. An open cut or wound is something that even a novice could see and tackle. But these nursing students admitted they had no idea what they were doing here. The nursing school should be notified and this case should be investigated for disciplinary action against these two nursing students. There are actually very sick nurses on the job who are caught fondling helpless patients...we don't need them beginning their careers this way.

 

I know your post was put up with love and good intentions but I just hate to see this girl or those evil nurses get any benefit of the doubt in this particular case.

 

I hope this guy has the balls to dump this chick TODAY!!!

[Bella]

Gee it must be tough getting through life, Tony, when the whole world is obviously out to get you. Or is it when women are all out to specifically maim and humiliate men? Or when you call the police or the authorities for every little problem. People aren't all that vicious and bad.

 

Come on, the guy doesn't have to have anything to do with this girl ever again, she stuffed up, that's his choice, but there is such a thing as free will. He didn't HAVE to lie there and let two women look at his nuts to get their jollies if it bothered him.

[Tony T]

Dear Bella:

 

You are not a man. You have never had your nuts kicked. You never will. Getting kicked in the balls really hard is NOT A LITTLE PROBLEM. When it happens, you think you are going to die. If, during that period of almost near-death pain you are told there are two nursing students who may be able to help, YOU WILL DO WHATEVER IS NECESSARY TO GET IMMEDIATE HELP. He did not stand there to be fondled by two first year know nothing nursing frauds. He was seeking help for the result of a midemeanor aggravated assault on his gonads.

 

I wasn't there and neither were you. So I am just speculating based on his post. But, as a man, when my balls are aching beyond description I would not enjoy it if every contestant in the Miss Universe contest was taking turns playing with me. It is NOT a time for amusement.

 

When anyone kicks another in this manner, not reporting it to police can cause serious problems. First, an insurance company may want a police report. If the injuries are permanent, a police report is handy in civil court. People need to know their actions have consequences and assaulting someone can cost thousands and even millions of dollars, depending on the severity of the injuries. This lady needs to be taught a lesson...hopefully this situation was enough. No, I am not one prone to wholesale calling of police but I promise you if you kick me in the wrong place, you can expect a squad car real quick.

 

However, I do totally agree with everything in your post if your suppositions about the circumstances are correct and mine aren't.

[Deejette]

All I can say is, if a man kicked me in the breasts I would run away and never have anything to do with him again (except to press charges if he really hurt me). Sometimes people think that if a girl inflicts violence on a man it is excusable or funny. If you turn the tables it shows how ugly it can really be.

Dear Bella: You are not a man. You have never had your nuts kicked. You never will. Getting kicked in the balls really hard is NOT A LITTLE PROBLEM. When it happens, you think you are going to die. If, during that period of almost near-death pain you are told there are two nursing students who may be able to help, YOU WILL DO WHATEVER IS NECESSARY TO GET IMMEDIATE HELP. He did not stand there to be fondled by two first year know nothing nursing frauds. He was seeking help for the result of a midemeanor aggravated assault on his gonads.

 

I wasn't there and neither were you. So I am just speculating based on his post. But, as a man, when my balls are aching beyond description I would not enjoy it if every contestant in the Miss Universe contest was taking turns playing with me. It is NOT a time for amusement. When anyone kicks another in this manner, not reporting it to police can cause serious problems. First, an insurance company may want a police report. If the injuries are permanent, a police report is handy in civil court. People need to know their actions have consequences and assaulting someone can cost thousands and even millions of dollars, depending on the severity of the injuries. This lady needs to be taught a lesson...hopefully this situation was enough. No, I am not one prone to wholesale calling of police but I promise you if you kick me in the wrong place, you can expect a squad car real quick. However, I do totally agree with everything in your post if your suppositions about the circumstances are correct and mine aren't.

[Lucille]

If he was in such agony and oblivious to his surroundings, then how did he know that the nurses were getting their cheapies looking at his balls???? Ha!

[Tony T]

Not a valid argument. Once the alleged examination was underway, it became much more clear to him as it progressed. I wasn't there and you weren't either but I'm sure that's what happened. And he didn't realize their inexperience until after the episode was over.

 

As I said earlier, but you don't seem to understand, people in great pain act differently than they would under normal conditions.