latexyankee Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 A friend of mine (who is also friends with my ex, just not as good friends as we are) said my ex texted her that she misses me. Why does this make me feel so ****ty? My gut is wrenching back and forth. it's been 2 weeks NC and I want to call or text her sooo bad. If she misses me why doesn't she call? Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 because she doesnt miss you enough to get back in a relationship with you...do you miss your ex? do you tell your friends? just leave the breadcrumb on the ground and move forward Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 She may miss you but maybe she doesn't want to give you hope or lead you on by contacting you. Or she may miss you but not enough to start those wheels spinning again. Link to post Share on other sites
Kilty Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I'll give a more hopeful possibility - which is not like me ! There is a chance that NC is working in your favour so try and relax and give it a little more time. If she does miss you enough then she will contact you - its as simple as that. You have said all there is to say to this girl right ? She is in no doubt how you feel right ? So there is nothing more you can say to her - anything else could have the opposite effect. As an adendum i will say it's extremely wise not to take the words of mutual friends in situations like these but in this instance we'll take it that what you have been told is the truth. All you have to say to this person is something along the lines of that you miss her too but as much as it hurts have accepted she is not coming back. If this gets back to her which i imagine it will, then nothing works better than a little reverse psychology which could motivate her into contacting you. The problem you face is that this girl has to believe that you will change and things will not go back to whatever was causing the problems - and only she can come to that conclusion on her own now. However you have to live your life in the belief that she is NOT going to contact you. But give it a little more time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author latexyankee Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Well our friend is really my friend. They may talk twice a month, while we talk every other day. It's like she txt her that cause she knew it would get back to me. I'm feeling like day 1 now, crying and trying to fight the urge to contact her. She knows how I feel, I did say everything I could say. I hate this ****, it makes me feel crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 doesnt matter, your friend needs to stop relaying messages to you, you need to stop asking... this is strict no contact she should be completely out of mind sight... easier said then done but just do it Link to post Share on other sites
Author latexyankee Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Wilson, im just not that strong, every time the phone rings, or a txt goes off, I have a sick feeling in my gut. Its ridiculous but true. I suck at this Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 its fine, ive only been nc for 10 days... this is the worst breakup ive ever gone through ever... and ive been through some... its like she just drained my entire soul out of me... definitely never making this mistake again just do not respond, i dont know if i will be able to do it if she calls me or texts me but we will see when the stupid mind games start. Link to post Share on other sites
Author latexyankee Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Well this isn't my first heartbreak either, Im 32, so I been through it before, just have never fell this hard, never been so in love and here I am posting like 17 year old thinking he'll never meet anyone again. It gets so much harder as you get older and finally think you have the one. I know for a fact if she contacts me I will not be able to hold out, for better or worse Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 you need to... im 29 and thought the same thing... she is 23 about to turn 24 and she left me for a 37 year old guy because he wants to party and drink all the time and i guess thats what shes attracted to Link to post Share on other sites
Author latexyankee Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 And he works at a movie theater, and lives in a trailer...I read your posts all the time wilson, your a good guy Link to post Share on other sites
strength-abounds Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 No contact means just that. Zip, zero, zilch contact. If she misses you than let her come to you. That's the only true way of knowing she misses you. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 And he works at a movie theater, and lives in a trailer...I read your posts all the time wilson, your a good guy haha... i know but it is what it is =) and the people here have helped me out a lot... we all just have to stay strong together Link to post Share on other sites
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