OMG!! 2 great things happened!!

[fitgirl]

Yes, I do. Why else would I be conservative and agree with abstinence. It takes a very mature person to be those things.

 

People on here don't understand satire.

 

I'm full of it.

 

a shallow conservative ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

[DreamerGirl27]

Well, I really don't like the guy, it was like a 2 second fling and now I don't care for him.

 

I'm basically just gonna resign myself to the fact that I may be asexual.

[buster2209]

Oh DreamerGirl.......

 

I've had a lot of laughs reading through this thread but will post the same advice I gave in another thread of yours;

 

To the OP, you sound like you have a destructive personailty.

 

My advice, stop pursuing guys right now, tell the ones who are pursuing you to piss off and try to figure out why you want what you can't have and why what you have you don't want.

 

And yeah, I'm a guy. There was nothing complicated about what I wrote was there.......

 

Why are guys so complicated?

[KR10N]

I have no idea why. I post mature, responsible posts. I thought you were 3 and got set loose with your mom's keyboard.

Yes, this is mature?

 

Not to burst your bubble, but do you realize whether you're attracted to your mate is just as important as liking their personality?

Not always. I didn't find the guy I like physically attractive at first. Although, when he first spoke to me that changed.

[DreamerGirl27]

yeah, see, it doesn't change for me

[KR10N]

yeah, see, it doesn't change for me

What doesn't?

[Ross MwcFan]

What doesn't?

 

His physical attractiveness I guess.

[KR10N]

His physical attractiveness I guess.

That's lame.

[DreamerGirl27]

No, what's lame, is having a preconceived notion about what you want their personality to be like. I first see if I'm attracted and THEN go for personality. Because I don't have a check list of what I want him to be like. I wanna be surprised. That's the fun in getting to know someone. I just responded to someone else's post on here about that waiting for his "dream girl". How do you even know what your "dream girl" or "dream guy" is like? You haven't met them yet. The only thing I require first and foremost is that I can stand to look at them. I'm not talking super model handsome, I'm talking a general tolerance. Most guys that have been attracted to me, I have not liked a thing about their personality as well as their looks.

 

There are only 2 guys in my past I can think of where I wasn't initially attracted, but loved their personality. Every other guy I have gone out with have not only been ugly, but have also been douche bags. It's no different now.

 

I'd get back together with the 2 guys (they were friends, so they had similarities) if both of them weren't married. But that's the thing...they are both taken now. It just didn't work out. I wasn't really attracted, but I wasn't really unattracted... but I liked them for them. I didn't know what they would be like before hand, I had to get to know them.

 

And they weren't so far off the deep end of my attracted level that I wanted to puke.

 

I'm not saying I want to find a super model, I'm just saying I want to like both their personality AND their looks and I rely on looks as a first impression because I'm human and I have a thing called eye balls in my head and the way someone looks is the first thing that registers in our brains.

 

The other ugly bastards that have gone for me have been just that...ugly bastards. They weren't amusing or nice or fun as far as their personality goes and I also had a -50 to -500% attraction.

 

I'm not going for that. I'm not lowering my standards. He has to be cute AND be able to entertain me intellectually as well.

[KR10N]

I've never had any "preconceived notions" about anyone, DreamerGirl. I'm not here to judge people based on their looks or personality. I don't have a "check list" either. So if you're thinking that just because someone or I (for instance) met one guy/girl, a completely random encounter, you think that we already know who they are? In reality, I was told several times that the guy I like was a jerk. Maybe someone had a bad first encounter w/ them or maybe someone just didn't like him. And before I did meet him, I seriously thought I'd hate him. What's really funny is, the person that hated this guy was only pissed because he wouldn't give him anymore money after he found out he was spending it on drugs. He's not a goodie two shoes, nor is he a rebel (well unless you consider someone who lost their virginity @ 16? A Christian one @ that.)

 

There are two sides to everything.

[WINSTON SMITH]

You are 26 and the second cute guy is 19...OH! the other guy can text so he is cute too....what criteria you have to have to rate two wonderful things happened to you.

 

You are truly wading in the "shallow end of the pool"...look at yourself, get help and leave the cute kids with cell phones alone..

 

Have a nice day!!!

[DreamerGirl27]

Winston, the guy that texts is a really close friend. We talk all the time.

[Jaina19]

Not saying I'd only date Brad Pitt lookalikes, or I would turn down a guy who approached me because of looks, but I would have to find something attractive about a guy to date him, and it might just be a nice smile or eyes.

 

We judge people first based on looks because looks is what we can see. Now if a guy started talking to me I wouldn't ignore him if he wasn't "my type", however, I don't think I would approach a guy I was not attracted to. How can you have chemistry with someone you're not at all attracted to? Personally I find personality, though I consider it much more important than looks because personality lasts, is not enough on its own. I think all my male friends have great personalities, but I'm not attracted to them.

 

My ex bf was actually not very good looking, but I fell for him because of his personality, and he had a nice smile.

 

Men, would you date a woman you were completely unattracted to? I imagine looks are more important to men because men are supposed to be more visual?

[DreamerGirl27]

Not saying I'd only date Brad Pitt lookalikes, or I would turn down a guy who approached me because of looks, but I would have to find something attractive about a guy to date him, and it might just be a nice smile or eyes.

 

We judge people first based on looks because looks is what we can see. Now if a guy started talking to me I wouldn't ignore him if he wasn't "my type", however, I don't think I would approach a guy I was not attracted to. How can you have chemistry with someone you're not at all attracted to? Personally I find personality, though I consider it much more important than looks because personality lasts, is not enough on its own. I think all my male friends have great personalities, but I'm not attracted to them.

 

My ex bf was actually not very good looking, but I fell for him because of his personality, and he had a nice smile.

 

Men, would you date a woman you were completely unattracted to? I imagine looks are more important to men because men are supposed to be more visual?

 

 

This^ thank you. These fools on here are trying to make it sound like I'm supposed to go for anyone just because of a nice personality. News flash. No, you're not. And even if you were...I don't like "nice" personalities anyway. The hawt players are the type I like. Always have and probably always will.

[KR10N]

This^ thank you. These fools on here are trying to make it sound like I'm supposed to go for anyone just because of a nice personality. News flash. No, you're not. And even if you were...I don't like "nice" personalities anyway. The hawt players are the type I like. Always have and probably always will.

Ouch! I really don't think that's what people are saying. You've only ever posted anything good about a hot guy if he was hot, & you've only posted negatively about "ugly people" for being ugly.

 

This is where people often assume things about you & what you're looking for. I've read your posts about Sir. Romeo & how much of a bad boy he is & how hot he is. Correct me if I'm wrong, (w/ a link or quote) I don't believe you've mentioned any of his qualities that you like (ig. eyes, smile, laugh, etc.). Like what Jaina19 said, a nice smile or eyes (which are both qualities that I like). No one can judge or bash you for that, two completely different people may not find that one person has nice eyes or a smile. It's all a matter of opinion.

 

If that's what you like, good. No one can make you change you personal tastes. Everyone has their own attractions & they won't always be the same. Just like some people like a good personality over looks.

 

I used to like bad boys, but bad boys are just that. So, yes. I like nice guys. They have to be able to make me laugh, I don't want a guy who has a stick stuck up his butt or someone who's going to be unreliable. And if anything, I'd always pick a man w/ brains over looks. Looks don't have to be number one, but that doesn't mean you can't always get what you want.

[DreamerGirl27]

Ouch! I really don't think that's what people are saying. You've only ever posted anything good about a hot guy if he was hot, & you've only posted negatively about "ugly people" for being ugly.

 

This is where people often assume things about you & what you're looking for. I've read your posts about Sir. Romeo & how much of a bad boy he is & how hot he is. Correct me if I'm wrong, (w/ a link or quote) I don't believe you've mentioned any of his qualities that you like (ig. eyes, smile, laugh, etc.). Like what Jaina19 said, a nice smile or eyes (which are both qualities that I like). No one can judge or bash you for that, two completely different people may not find that one person has nice eyes or a smile. It's all a matter of opinion.

 

If that's what you like, good. No one can make you change you personal tastes. Everyone has their own attractions & they won't always be the same. Just like some people like a good personality over looks.

 

I used to like bad boys, but bad boys are just that. So, yes. I like nice guys. They have to be able to make me laugh, I don't want a guy who has a stick stuck up his butt or someone who's going to be unreliable. And if anything, I'd always pick a man w/ brains over looks. Looks don't have to be number one, but that doesn't mean you can't always get what you want.

 

1) I enjoy our 5 hour long conversations

2) His eyes, omg, his eyes

3) his smile (he has great teeth)

4) he smells freakin' awesome to me, even when he hasn't showered (yes, strange, weird and gross, but true...so so true)

5) his sense of humor

6) his taste in music and especially movies

7) how we differ in so many different areas, but have so much in common in other areas

8) his diet (we're both vegetarians)

9) he's really giving (he pays for all of his friends when going places)

10) he's my FRIEND, my actual FRIEND and has flat out said he would not, will not, and has not, taken advantage of me, knowing that I like him and he doesn't like me as girlfriend material

11) his honesty

12) his hair... (that should've come first, but I realized it's not that important, and that's the first, initial and main thing that attracted me to him)

13) his smarts (the boy is friggin' smart)

14) his opinions that differ from mine, because I learn a lot and he challenges me to think

15) his friendliness

16) his talent

17) his drive

18) he's a hard worker

19) the way his hand feels the few times I've brushed it, he's touched it, etc.

20) I've never hugged him, but this would probably go as number 1 if I had

21) ....

 

 

I'm gonna stop now, but I could easily go on...

 

anything else you wanna know about what I like about this guy?

[DreamerGirl27]

You ask a question (to the poster above) and nobody, including you KR10N, had anything to say to this?

 

Oh by the way...the guy that I like, technically isn't an Adonis by any means. But just the fact that I like him makes him 10 times more beautiful to me. He can post a picture, probably his worst picture, at 10am after just rolling out of bed and I'd still think he was gorgeous.

 

I don't know why, either. Because he hasn't given me any reason to like him, other than the fact that he's just a really awesome and great friend.

 

He really does make a great friend.

[KR10N]

You ask a question (to the poster above) and nobody, including you KR10N, had anything to say to this?

 

Oh by the way...the guy that I like, technically isn't an Adonis by any means. But just the fact that I like him makes him 10 times more beautiful to me. He can post a picture, probably his worst picture, at 10am after just rolling out of bed and I'd still think he was gorgeous.

 

I don't know why, either. Because he hasn't given me any reason to like him, other than the fact that he's just a really awesome and great friend.

 

He really does make a great friend.

You like him. That's all that matters.

[Floridaman]

Dreamer,

Please contact me through the method I gave you in the PMs.

Have some more things to say regarding your other msgs.

[Ross MwcFan]

It's great to see you back, I've really missed your posts.