my female friend thinks I play on women's emotions?

[udolipixie]

I agree with dasein & StoneCold.

 

I've had to tell this to multiple guys who thought we were exclusively dating and guys who thought they were my bf (the ones I said I love you to) that they were wrong.

 

They also tried to play the blame game. Nope when I asked you take me somewhere I meant take me somewhere doesn't mean were dating or that I'm your gf.

 

It's not my responsibility to mind read what you wanted and there's no need for me to clarify what I wanted when I'm getting them- gifts, dates, someone to hang out with, and guys to do stuff for me.

 

Any of their crying victim whining of "using me for my money" has now been translated to I spent money on you & thereby think I should get sex.

 

I am perfectly honest I made no deals that taking me out to dinner = we're dating or buying me jewelry = I'm your gf.

 

Sorry but spending money on me and doing stuff for me doesn't equal building a relationship.

[KOH]

I agree with dasein & StoneCold.

 

I've had to tell this to multiple guys who thought we were exclusively dating and guys who thought they were my bf (the ones I said I love you to) that they were wrong.

 

They also tried to play the blame game. Nope when I asked you take me somewhere I meant take me somewhere doesn't mean were dating or that I'm your gf.

 

It's not my responsibility to mind read what you wanted and there's no need for me to clarify what I wanted when I'm getting them- gifts, dates, someone to hang out with, and guys to do stuff for me.

 

Any of their crying victim whining of "using me for my money" has now been translated to I spent money on you & thereby think I should get sex.

 

I am perfectly honest I made no deals that taking me out to dinner = we're dating or buying me jewelry = I'm your gf.

 

Sorry but spending money on me and doing stuff for me doesn't equal building a relationship.

 

great post, & I agree with it, if someone wants a serious relationship, there's no problem asking, I'd leave right away & choose not to pursue it, but when no promises were made, I have no real obligations at all.

[shayla]

I think that everyone should be clear exactly what it is they want from the start. It may take away from the fun, but it is the easiest way that no one will get hurt.

 

Knowing that someone is making assumptions, playing off those assumptions, then acting innocent when the other party gets hurt is lying by ommission (sp). It is also selfish and immature.

 

To do less than that shows a lack of respect, for the other person, and for yourself.

[misssmartypants]

I have to admit that I didn't read the entire thread. From looking at the OP's posts, threads and such, I think he's a troll.

 

And I don't believe in feeding the trolls.

[elleorbianca]

Wow! Some of you guys and girls are stone cold.

 

I do have to agree, though, that noone should assume sex= exclusive relationship. However, I think that OP, as a courtesy, if you are making consistent long term plans with these women and telling them you love them, then just clarify that you don't want an exclusive relationship.

 

You may technically be right. But we live in a society where if we all ran on technicalities, everybody would be unhappy. It's just courteous if you realize your dates are developing feelings to tell them your stance.

 

 

 

Now the woman basing in this thread? Why? Bitter much?

It's not any specific woman but I hear on this board and other places how women have the right to their sexuality and to sleep around like men but then when a man has casual sex with them all of a sudden he's a pig. It doesn't make any sense.

When did having the right to their sexuality mean that they want a man making plans with them and telling them they love them while not building a relationship?

 

If the OP was just inviting these girls over to have sex, I would totally agree with him. But I don't think society has changed so much that going out on dates, establishing companionship, making long term plans and saying I love you isn't implying relationship building to BOTH genders. I think his 80% that don't have a problem with it are either not that into him or are hurt by it but know that he can get away with it on a technicality so don't let on about how upset it made them.