shook187 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 so i've been broken up with my ex just over 1 month, feels like an eternity. i'm fine, i've put on weight, i've changed everything basically and i'm getting hit on by girls left right and center (seems minisquel when the one you love isn't there anymore) so anyway. i'm NC for over 3 weeks. she texted me asking if i'd moved on yet, if i have a girlfriend. i didn't initially reply because i was healing, and in a good place. but i however did break NC to help her. i said "its not important anymore, please just look after yourself, i hope your well" i kept it short and sweet. because i know the merry go round bull**** that happens, and I'm not even worried / I didn't relapse from just texting her once. so the breaking NC is not an issue. thing i have an issue with is, because i havent seen her for over a month, and i've sort of forgotten her face, ive been good. but today when i saw her (she didn't see me) it made me hit a wall, like it was day 1 again. i don't feel like eating, working out, doing anything. is this normal? Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 so i've been broken up with my ex just over 1 month, feels like an eternity. i'm fine, i've put on weight, i've changed everything basically and i'm getting hit on by girls left right and center (seems minisquel when the one you love isn't there anymore) so anyway. i'm NC for over 3 weeks. she texted me asking if i'd moved on yet, if i have a girlfriend. i didn't initially reply because i was healing, and in a good place. but i however did break NC to help her. i said "its not important anymore, please just look after yourself, i hope your well" i kept it short and sweet. because i know the merry go round bull**** that happens, and I'm not even worried / I didn't relapse from just texting her once. so the breaking NC is not an issue. thing i have an issue with is, because i havent seen her for over a month, and i've sort of forgotten her face, ive been good. but today when i saw her (she didn't see me) it made me hit a wall, like it was day 1 again. i don't feel like eating, working out, doing anything. is this normal? absolutely normal, everytime I saw my ex due to reasons where we had to take care of financial and our apartment lease business, i would backslide into day 1 all over again. I actually saw her Sat night and she did not see me and I was actually really pissed off at her and I was on day 7 of nc. dont respond to text messages anymore, dont feed her ego, just move forward with your life Link to post Share on other sites
jdubs Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Sort of in the same boat here as you are. 3 weeks into NC, 1 month past the break-up. On the 4th I know we are going to attend a party at a mutual friend's. I'm afraid if I go and see her (and new guy) it's going to push me back to Day 1 like you said. However, it almost seems inevitable that I am going to see her eventually. Is the point to make that moment as far away as possible so I have healed the most? Or should I go ahead, commit to the party (that I would attend regardless) and get whatever it is with seeing her over with? Link to post Share on other sites
calndn Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Well done for that reply, whenever my ex txt me I was in his hands everytime I look back and wish I could have been strong enough to respond with something like you did! I see my ex every so often because we live in same small town where he moved to for me (which annoys me that he is still here!!) I sometimes see him around but we mostly always see eachother and even if he doesn't see me I get that heavy feeling in my stomach like a stone has just dropped in it(rubbish metaphor but I'm sure you will get what I mean) every time I see him even though now I'm almost there (8 months since proper split 3 since we stopped meeting up) even now when I see him my stomach lurches not with 'oh god I love you' but with 'not you again just bog off' but after I see him I get a bit annoyed as he is in my head again. Ita always going to happen. I'm moving soon and then he will still be in my hometown where all MY friends and MY family live, it's quite sad really I think that he's still here, quite pathetic. It's not somewhere you'd really stay, I'd have thought he would have moved further into the city like normal people his age but no...he hasn't...eventhough he's told me enough times that he is going to....hmm xxx Link to post Share on other sites
Author shook187 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 UPDATE - doing good she's been texting me alot! but ill pull thru not replying anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shook187 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 J dub's i wouldn't attend. unless u want to see her. Link to post Share on other sites
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