Tenacity Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 The only way this thread is going to end is if people stop fueling it. WHO CARES?!?!?! What a bunch of wasted time. Totally juvenile. Here is something to think about. The OP came on here to cause a stir, as evidenced by her thread title, and she got her wish. Everyone should just STOP giving time to this OP who clearly, from her posts, is here just to be inflammatory and she ACCOMPLISHED it! I am sure she is loving this! NEXT!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 The only way this thread is going to end is if people stop fueling it. WHO CARES?!?!?! What a bunch of wasted time. Totally juvenile. Here is something to think about. The OP came on here to cause a stir, as evidenced by her thread title, and she got her wish. Everyone should just STOP giving time to this OP who clearly, from her posts, is here just to be inflammatory and she ACCOMPLISHED it! I am sure she is loving this! NEXT!!!!! Ah excuse me? who are you to make this judgment call? YOU do not have to post on this thread if you so wish. Link to post Share on other sites
Loni Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 The whole dom thing would make a weird sense. She wants someone to lightly abuse her. Maybe she is looking for "abuse light" by her comments here. She can get her fix of debasement and then leave if it gets too hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheergirl Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 I believe this is our resident multi-headed sock puppet deconstructionist. Twisting the words of whatever post it gets fixated upon is its life's work, I believe, since usually it's present with several identities and posts dozens of times (maybe hundreds) most days. Pay it no heed. Thanks for the heads up Mme. Chaucer... Though personally I take great issue with the strident tone, evident vituperous intent behind the original post and many of the following ones from the OP and her sidekick, so it's kinda hard for me to call the sock puppet out right now as I'm slightly enjoying it. "strident tone? evident vituperous intent behind the original post?" None there, honestly, simply not there... I can only apologize (again) for my words coming across as insensitive. Totally didn't mean to offend anyone. In my defence, this is supposed to be a forum for: (and I quote) "The Other Man / Woman The other side of the story: Support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner." More fool me for believing that I could actually treat it as such...:rolleyes: Just for the heck of it, I will say it one more time: I believe that it is wrong to consciously choose to get what we want at others' expenses. Many people feel this way. It does not signify "bitterness." Those people can be found on this forum, being disgruntled by folks who post threads boasting loudly that THE GUY IS MARRIED AND I DON'T CARE. Rubs quite a few people the wrong way! Duh! I did address this in response #110... Link to post Share on other sites
26pointblue Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Wow, some of you really like to argue & fight! To the OP- if you're content with this situation, then fine. I was like you once. I came here with very similar opinions. Then I realized, life is short. I am wasting precious time with this lying cheating deceptive married man-- why?! What really is so fulfilling about it? And, even if certain things are fulfilling about it [which, they were], where have my morals gone that I am only thinking about my own selfish interests, instead of caring that the guy had a wife & kids? I was bound to hurt myself by acting that way, & I did. I truly believe that selfish people are unhappy people. So you can try to convince me that you are happy but I just don't believe it. Personally, I think there is a lot of truth in the posts that have been talking about low self-esteem & expectations. I thought I didn't want a full time relationship, marriage & kids & all of that, but now I realize that I was just very afraid of it. Afraid of the risk & afraid of getting hurt. You say you have experienced love & commitment & you are done with that . . . I think that's silly. Who wouldn't want a fulfilling full-time relationship? I realized I could never be available for one while I was all wrapped up in the mess with xMM. I had to take the risk of being single until I found what I was really looking for, being honest with myself & other people & living an authentic life along the way, that didn't intentionally contribute to anyone else's pain or suffering. So that is what I've been doing & I'm much better off & yeah I know everyone is different but I can relate to your posts so I thought I'd share. I know you won't care & will accuse me of being bitter or judgmental, but, whatever. I am just trying to point out that you don't sound happy at all. Your posts sound angry, defensive, aggressive, & bitter. You come on here with a na-ne-na-ne poo-poo attitude that sounds like a selfish, frustrated little kid. So maybe you should re-evaluate what you're doing & what you truly want. That's my advice anyway, even though you don't want any. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheergirl Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 I haven't presumed anything. You're just being evasive. Why did you post a thread about something you claim not to care about--your MM's marital status? So what if you are in a d/s relationship with a married man? You said you don't care. So what is the purpose of your thread? No one knows. Please clarify. You did say you wanted to talk with other similarly-situated women, but you didn't say why you want to talk with them. Do you want them to say "We are also in d/s relationships with married men, and we don't care, either?" That doesn't make any sense. [/b] No you're being evasive again. You specified it not merely as "roleplaying" but as "dominant/submissive." The real question is why do you need to be in a sexually submissive role to a married man to get your sexual jollies? Perhaps that's why you want to talk to other women in the same situation? No one put you down, and even if they did, you don't care about that anyway. Women who "know" they are attractive don't feel compelled to bang married men due to the lack of other suitable partners. Only needy women who feel themselves to be unattractive have to do this. Oh the weight of omniscience! 3 billion women and you know them all, so many goddesses, so much knowledge, the world must be safe... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheergirl Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 The only way this thread is going to end is if people stop fueling it. WHO CARES?!?!?! What a bunch of wasted time. Totally juvenile. Here is something to think about. The OP came on here to cause a stir, as evidenced by her thread title, and she got her wish. Everyone should just STOP giving time to this OP who clearly, from her posts, is here just to be inflammatory and she ACCOMPLISHED it! I am sure she is loving this! NEXT!!!!! I did not. I came on to see if there were other people like me... Unfortunately I've spent all my time trying to convince people like you that I am not here to "stir" things (BTW, who does that???) All the women who i wanted to speak to have left... I tried to start a new thread and some charming person got it closed down. I wish this was a place where people could exchange ideas freely without insult and rudeness and assumptions, but clearly it isn't. Whatever... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheergirl Posted July 4, 2011 Author Share Posted July 4, 2011 Wow, some of you really like to argue & fight! To the OP- if you're content with this situation, then fine. I was like you once. No you weren't I came here with very similar opinions. Then I realized, life is short. I am wasting precious time with this lying cheating deceptive married man-- why?! What really is so fulfilling about it? And, even if certain things are fulfilling about it [which, they were], where have my morals gone that I am only thinking about my own selfish interests, instead of caring that the guy had a wife & kids? I was bound to hurt myself by acting that way, & I did. I truly believe that selfish people are unhappy people. So you can try to convince me that you are happy but I just don't believe it. Personally, I think there is a lot of truth in the posts that have been talking about low self-esteem & expectations. I thought I didn't want a full time relationship, marriage & kids & all of that,Been there done that but now I realize that I was just very afraid of it. That's you, not me Afraid of the risk & afraid of getting hurt. You say you have experienced love & commitment & you are done with that . . . I think that's silly. Who wouldn't want a fulfilling full-time relationship?Me! I realized I could never be available for one while I was all wrapped up in the mess with xMM. I had to take the risk of being single until I found what I was really looking for, being honest with myself & other people & living an authentic life along the way, that didn't intentionally contribute to anyone else's pain or suffering. So that is what I've been doing & I'm much better off & yeah I know everyone is different but I can relate to your posts so I thought I'd share. I know you won't care & will accuse me of being bitter or judgmental, but, whatever. I am just trying to point out that you don't sound happy at all. Your posts sound angry, defensive, aggressive, & bitter. You come on here with a na-ne-na-ne poo-poo attitude that sounds like a selfish, frustrated little kid. So maybe you should re-evaluate what you're doing & what you truly want. That's my advice anyway, even though you don't want any. This is madness...So many of you say "I was like you..." etc. You're experience is yours and mine is mine. You assume,(wrongly) I'm selling myself short, I really want a FTR, have low self-esteem, and want to be abused. When I say none of it is true; you accuse me of being argumentative and aggressive. Circular reasoning. No-one asks anything, just tell me what i think, want, need... I reckon this is how it feels to be a guy most of the time. What's the point of arguing, talking??? Unless I back down and go along with what the majority say here, I am somehow defective, wow... You all know me better than I know myself. Madness....Utter madness... Here's a challenge. Go back and read every post I wrote, there is no vacillation, no change, no confusion.. I am the same, and the reason for me posting is the same. Good night, and good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
sweetestdecline Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 My preference is for an D/s sexual relationship... His answers to my ad fit exactly what I was looking for. He could have been single, I really am not bothered, My desire for a D/s relationship overrides everything else at this point. Our specific needs and desires match up, exactly... His wife won't do it. She knows, and guess what? life goes on... (as it has been for a few years) He's an experienced Dom and continues w/wife's knowledge...(maybe not consent so much. ) I was trying to spare the DPWA brigade the details, but my new thread was deemed "not in the spirit of LS" because I asked for "women like me" and said I wouldn't argue anymore with people who wanted to tell me how wrong I was and bitch at me... there ya go... Hi Cheergirl, to answer your question I am exactly like you (or was). Also identify as submissive and actually had an affair with my last Dominant. In my case the affair went pear shaped and its not something I would want to repeat, but I completely understand your point of view, particularly since his wife is aware that he is exploring D/s. I know myself that it's pretty difficult to find a suitable D/s match. If you want to drop me a line, you would be more than welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted July 5, 2011 Senior Moderators Share Posted July 5, 2011 Why can't we just all get along??? Link to post Share on other sites
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