fitgirl Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 sense of humor is tops. all the guys say im hot but i didnt go for the hot guy. i went for the funny guy who makes me laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Totally adorable You look great together and the height difference, even if you were in normal shoes would definitely not be that noticeable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Afishwithabike Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Dust, I definitely want to try and kiss her. I was planning on trying when I saw her on Monday but I couldn't get her to my apartment since she had plans later that day. I was going to make some drinks to loosen us up. Now it will have to wait till our next "date" which is as of yet unscheduled. If you're going to kiss her, read her eye contact and body language then make a move. Don't ask "Can I kiss you?" That's a total mood killer. It doesn't make the guy seem confident. To quote Yoda as one must in these matters, "do or do not. There is no try." Link to post Share on other sites
fitgirl Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Totally adorable You look great together and the height difference, even if you were in normal shoes would definitely not be that noticeable. im taller than my boyfriend cause i wear heels all the time Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 I've often been told that I need to lower my standards since I'm having such a hard time with women. I don't want to see the photo. I don't need to see it to know that she's not out of your league because there are no leagues. If you only pursue women who you are attracted to and still having no luck then you should, perhaps, broaden your standards. That doesn't have to mean lowering them (whatever that means). Don't waste time pursuing women you aren't attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Share Posted July 1, 2011 If you're going to kiss her, read her eye contact and body language then make a move. Don't ask "Can I kiss you?" That's a total mood killer. It doesn't make the guy seem confident. To quote Yoda as one must in these matters, "do or do not. There is no try." Oh, I can never ask, "may I kiss you." It's all about reading her. So far I haven't gotten those signals from her. I just hope that with time and some fruity drinks, she might start broadcasting I don't want to see the photo. I don't need to see it to know that she's not out of your league because there are no leagues. If you only pursue women who you are attracted to and still having no luck then you should, perhaps, broaden your standards. That doesn't have to mean lowering them (whatever that means). Don't waste time pursuing women you aren't attracted to. Broaden my standards? That sounds exactly like lowering them. Yeah I do have a really hard time dealing with the thought of pursuing women I'm not attracted to. And that's something I've been told that I should do.The only thing that really matters to me is that I'm very attracted to her. And this thread has shown me that, based on how we look, I'm not being foolish for chasing her. Link to post Share on other sites
Afishwithabike Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 But you're probably not going to kiss her before you hold her hand or put your arm around her. If she allows those gestures then you know that there's a good possibility of kissing her without having to explicity ask for permission. Link to post Share on other sites
aj22one Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Broaden my standards? That sounds exactly like lowering them. It can mean lowering them, but broadening usually means exactly that, broadening. For instance if you usually go after blondes maybe try brunettes, or if you usually like certain types of girls maybe try one form a different social circle or something like that. The idea being that there are plenty of attractive girls from all kinds of backgrounds and personalities, etc. so one shouldn't try for only one kind and limit one's self. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Share Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) But you're probably not going to kiss her before you hold her hand or put your arm around her. If she allows those gestures then you know that there's a good possibility of kissing her without having to explicity ask for permission. I have no idea what the order of operations is I've already put my arm around her, though it was for a photo op. Holding her hand sounds like something that comes after I kiss her. I also need to point out that she doesn't like hugs. Last time I tried, she blocked me. At the end of this "date" she just got out of my car and I didn't even bother going for a hug. This girl is going to be a lot of work. It can mean lowering them, but broadening usually means exactly that, broadening. For instance if you usually go after blondes maybe try brunettes, or if you usually like certain types of girls maybe try one form a different social circle or something like that. The idea being that there are plenty of attractive girls from all kinds of backgrounds and personalities, etc. so one shouldn't try for only one kind and limit one's self. Oh, then my standards are very broad. I've gone for girls of many different races, and personality types. Though I do prefer to go after girls that like videogames and anime, though it isn't a requirement. Edited July 1, 2011 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Broaden my standards? That sounds exactly like lowering them. Well, if you lower your standards (whatever that means to you) does that mean that you're now considering pursuing women who you find unattractive? If so then don't do that. If it means you've just found more women who you do find attractive then I'll call it broadening your standards, not lowering them, since all you've done is find more attractive women to pursue. Yeah I do have a really hard time dealing with the thought of pursuing women I'm not attracted to. And that's something I've been told that I should do.The only thing that really matters to me is that I'm very attracted to her. And this thread has shown me that, based on how we look, I'm not being foolish for chasing her. Don't pursue women you aren't attracted to. (I may have mentioned that already!) Do pursue women you are attracted to. Eventually you'll find one who finds you attractive (and is currently single, available, etc). Link to post Share on other sites
krz12 Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 I'd have to say you're at least an above average looking dude. Is the facial hair your thing? Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Holding her hand sounds like something that comes after I kiss her. Either. Depends how it happens. That's why there's not a rulebook for this. Link to post Share on other sites
ivalm Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 I have no idea what the order of operations is I've already put my arm around her, though it was for a photo op. Holding her hand sounds like something that comes after I kiss her. I also need to point out that she doesn't like hugs. Last time I tried, she blocked me. At the end of this "date" she just got out of my car and I didn't even bother going for a hug. This girl is going to be a lot of work. Oh, then my standards are very broad. I've gone for girls of many different races, and personality types. Though I do prefer to go after girls that like videogames and anime, though it isn't a requirement. Order of operation is simple: 1) Brush her hair with your hand or remove piece of hair/grass/invisible blemish from her cheek.. how does she react, positive or negative? 2) Touch the small of her back, does she act in a way that removes your hand? If 1 and 2 are both positive then you can kiss her with little worries. If you want to be slightly more certain may be hold her (gently) right before going for the kiss. You can test both 1 and 2 as well as kiss her the next time you see her. If she reacts negatively on 1 and 2, please describe it here and we can think about how to proceed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Share Posted July 1, 2011 I'd have to say you're at least an above average looking dude. Is the facial hair your thing? The facial hair is two fold. One: It makes me look older. Whatever age you think I am in that picture, add 5 years. Without the hair, you'd have to add 7. Two: I have a very weak chin. The goatee hides it give me a very slight badbody image. Yes I still look like somebody a mother would trust to guard her bi-sexual virgin daughters. Order of operation is simple: 1) Brush her hair with your hand or remove piece of hair/grass/invisible blemish from her cheek.. how does she react, positive or negative? 2) Touch the small of her back, does she act in a way that removes your hand? If 1 and 2 are both positive then you can kiss her with little worries. If you want to be slightly more certain may be hold her (gently) right before going for the kiss. You can test both 1 and 2 as well as kiss her the next time you see her. If she reacts negatively on 1 and 2, please describe it here and we can think about how to proceed. Those are some good tips. I can try that the next time I see her. It should be around the middle of next week. Though I'm still worried that it may be too soon to make an actual move. I'm not really in any rush. Link to post Share on other sites
Alma Mobley Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Just looked at the pic. She is a very cute girl and I don't think, at least looks-wise, that she is out of your league at all, as others have noted. You look good together. I wish there was a way for me to see how you act around girls or on a date because I really don't think it is your looks that is putting women off. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Hmm I'm curious now too. May I see?? Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 somedude, I just started a new thread for guys like you and me. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3488102 May it be helpful! Link to post Share on other sites
leftfordead2 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 You two look good together! If it's in league wise terms, she is not out of league at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SnowandStars Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 I have no idea what the order of operations is I've already put my arm around her, though it was for a photo op. Holding her hand sounds like something that comes after I kiss her. I also need to point out that she doesn't like hugs. Last time I tried, she blocked me. At the end of this "date" she just got out of my car and I didn't even bother going for a hug. This girl is going to be a lot of work. Oh, then my standards are very broad. I've gone for girls of many different races, and personality types. Though I do prefer to go after girls that like videogames and anime, though it isn't a requirement. That was rude of her. I hope you are also pursuing other women because by wasting time with a girl who will not even hug you, you are missing out on other potential mates. This right here is a perfect example of what I've been talking about. The guys who complain about being perpetually single are usually the ones who spend too much time chasing a girl who doesn't seem too interested. She's at most, lukewarm about you. When a girl likes a guy, she wants to melt into his arms...she doesn't block him. Don't go trying to "work" on her. In fact, it is probably better than you fall back a little at this point and make her work for your affection a bit. Please don't take this the wrong way, I am just tired of people trying to sugarcoat things. Girls chase just as much as guys if there is interest. If you still want to pursue her, go ahead, but still date other girls and let her take the wheel for a bit. Good luck and I'd love to see a picture of you but I don't think I can yet. Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Getting back to the original topic, she's not out of your league. If I'm being brutally honest, she may be a tad more attractive (in a conventional sense) but it's really hardly worth mentioning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) Sorry, the forum won't let me send PM's to people who aren't an Established Member. That was rude of her. I hope you are also pursuing other women because by wasting time with a girl who will not even hug you, you are missing out on other potential mates. This right here is a perfect example of what I've been talking about. The guys who complain about being perpetually single are usually the ones who spend too much time chasing a girl who doesn't seem too interested. She's at most, lukewarm about you. When a girl likes a guy, she wants to melt into his arms...she doesn't block him. Don't go trying to "work" on her. In fact, it is probably better than you fall back a little at this point and make her work for your affection a bit. Please don't take this the wrong way, I am just tired of people trying to sugarcoat things. Girls chase just as much as guys if there is interest. If you still want to pursue her, go ahead, but still date other girls and let her take the wheel for a bit. Good luck and I'd love to see a picture of you but I don't think I can yet. Oh, I know she's not interested. They never are. If she's lukewarm towards me, every other girl I've been interested in this year has been ice-cold. Falling back won't accomplish anything. I know she won't reach out to me. At least when I'm with her, I can pretend that I have a normal life. So I keep chasing. For that reason and the hope that I might actually catch her. What really sucks is that she just matches what I want so well. She just has a couple of issues that's preventing us from getting together. So for now I feel like I'm being teased by fate. If we don't end up getting together this summer, I'll meet and get rejected by another handful of girls during the fall semester. On average, I'm rejected by 3-4 girls every semester and I'm tired of going through that. I wish I could just say, "that one" and be done with it. Edited July 2, 2011 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
marigo Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Can i see it too?? So funny im kinda going through the same thing. I keep looking at a picture of me and this guy i really like and i keep thinking that hes out of my league. But when people see our picture together, they think we've been together for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 Can i see it too?? So funny im kinda going through the same thing. I keep looking at a picture of me and this guy i really like and i keep thinking that hes out of my league. But when people see our picture together, they think we've been together for a long time. LOL, has anybody thought that you might be a married couple? It's too bad when the other person can't recognize how good of a couple you'd be. Link to post Share on other sites
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