Getting back my ex

[Kanuk]

Hey, i'm back after a long acation from this site and getting my shhhhhhhtuff back together and the useual.

 

Anywho, I'm sure some of you remember me from before, and my trajic, shot myself in the foot storey.

 

Anywho, it's been 6 months since my gf dumped me and 3 months since i stoped trying to get her back (all attempts to mearly talk to her were met with utter defeat). Anyways, I've dated sicne then, even had soem short term relationships with some really great girls, but nothing worked out, i believe, due to the fact that I still love my ex completly and with all my heart

 

 

Anyways, i was sitting here thinking. If i love this women so much, should I just give up so easily? Or should i try again. I was thinking about calling her up just to see if i could talk to her for more than 3 words or so. We liev 2 hours away now, so it's pretty hard to even try some sort of coffee date or something

 

 

I heard she was dating some guy, but it wasn;t going to well because she just wasn't into it or something. I dunno, all rumours as far as i'm concerned, besides the dating thing. That was a long time ago, so i know nothing about that anymore. I don't keep tabs on her.

 

So what should I do? Just thought i'd get some opinions.

[hurtingandconfused]

I remember you story. She dissed you.

 

You owe her s***. Move on buddy you are better off without her.

 

So what should I do?

Date other women.

[sinkerswim]

Well, some people may think I am goofy for saying this..

But I think you should try to contact her again... Fight for who you love.

I am trying to fight for the man I love that I lost 2.5 months ago.

 

If you love her that much..and I know you do... try again.

Maybe write a nice letter to her reminding her of all the things you did together.

I hope things work out for you.

How long were you guys together?

[hurtingandconfused]

If you knew what kinda things his ex put him through you would think otherwise.

[Kanuk]

Ina ll fairness, i put her through a lot too. I should have left her alone right off the bat, but liek evryone on here who tries to get someone back, i pushed too hard, too soon.

[mandrews1119]

Hello, Kanuk,

 

You will find (especially here) that there are basically two types of people regarding this subject, those who say leave, and those who say have hope. The individual themes may vary, but that is the bottom line. If you are the type of person whose heart says stay, then by all means stay and work, fight, hope and earn your love back and make it better than before. Employ all of the advice, wisdom, strategy, etc., etc., that you receive and use it in an honest, legal ( ), and honorable way, and pray that you get another chance to make things work.

 

If you are one of the folks who believes in leaving and not looking back, then I for one, respect that position too. It is you who must live with what your head and heart choose. If you stay on LS long enough, you will see the running dialogue between the two points. Best of luck.

[hurtingandconfused]

It is you who must live with what your head and heart choose.

Sometimes we don't get to make such decisions. Therefore WE MUST not look back and live our life.

[Becks84]

We all speak and give advice usually based on our own personal experiences. So as I sit here and give you advice from my point of view, take what you want and leave the rest.

 

You sound like you really love this girl. You have nothing to lose by getting in touch with her. Maybe tell her one last time exactly what's on your mind. Don't come on too strong, just tell her you need to get this all off of your chest. If you truly want her back, that is soley up to you, and I say just simply tell her your true feelings. See what she says, see where it leads. I say just do it...and come back to us after you do so to fill us in, and get some more advice if need be

 

~Becks

[Kanuk]

The real probelm lies in just talking to her

 

I called up and got her machine... which she never had when we dated.. and i left a message.

 

Granted, it was late in the day when i called (like 11 pm) so she either saw the number and didn't pick up, or she was asleep or something.

 

Anywho, if she doesn't call me back I MIGHT call one more time.

 

But you can't win back someone who wont talk to you right?

[mandrews1119]

These things have stages and phases. You are still in phase one, contact or no contact. Do what your heart tells you to at this point, in a respectful and kind manner so that when you look back at it later, you can hold your head up high. Be mindful that too much "trying" on your part can also drive her further away.

[tom_gbr]

i know what you mean about meeting up and grabbing a coffee or something....im in the same situation we live two hours apart...two weeks after we broke up i went to see her for the first time since it happened...i said to her maybe in a couple of months i could come up and see you and we could do something...she replied only if her friends where there as well...whats that about?

 

is she worried im going to try and jump on her or something?

 

after speakin to her wednesday night ive decided to break contact...its the only thing thats going to make me get through this.

 

i still love her and im always thinking about her...but im trying to get on with my life

[mandrews1119]

Tom,

How are you? I understand, believe me. I could not understand how my own ex could call me and think of me as everything but a child of God, even though she left me. Sometimes women want their friends around for support, or a show of strength ("See, I told you I woudn't go back to him"). The good point is that there still exists enough positive emotion to be able to see each other at all. Take your time, find your way. Best of luck.