Will he give me a 2nd chance?

[totally destroyed]

Hey Everyone!!! I'm new to this...Never did this before, So I'll try to keep it short.

 

I've was dating an awesome guy for 9 months. He only broke up with me last week. Reason he ended things - A few months back he was going through my email's & saw something from a guy I had dated a few times two years ago. The email's were very casual. They were mostly about my current boyfriend & how awesome he is. So I decided, instead of writing I would call him when I left the office. Dumb Move on my part.

 

Boyfriend saw the email saying I would call when I left work (we work together). Honestly, my conversation was about my boyfriend - who I couldn't stop talking about & this guys children. I could have had the conversation right in front of my boyfriend - But I didn't. I guess I was scared or knew what I was doing wasn't right. Anyway, we are no longer together - But we still see one another at work and the hugging & kissing remains. We both are completely in love with one another.

 

Problem is. I broke his trust. This was the only time I lied to him. I would do anything to make it up to him. He say's he needs to get rid of the anger inside of him before we can start over again. Does anybody think there's hope. Please ask me any questions, If I didn't explain myself clearly.

 

Thanks!!!!

[wrongchoices]

I personally say hang in there. He must still have strong feelings for you since you two are still being somewht intimate (hugging and kissing). It is just hard at times to get a person to rebuild a strong level of trust in another person once it has been broken.

What is meant to be will be. If I were you, I would just continue to show this man that I care about him and continue to let him know that I am truly sorry. If he cares about you as much as you care about him, he will realize what is in your heart and things will be ok.

[Becks84]

Just give him the time he needs. Time is the ultimate healer. I personally don't think you did anything severe enough to ruin a relationship, but what hurts one person doesn't always hurt another, and that needs to be respected. So it's good of you to respect him and understand his point. Just give it time, and I think he will put it behind him. There's definitley another chance. It sounds like you two have a good thing going and it shouldnt end so easily. Tell him that if you didn't already. I think if you tell him how you feel, and if you've explained yourself as best you can, then all he needs now is time to just get over it so that he can go on with you as normal. My boyfriend recently hurt me in a similar way, and I just needed time...I am still bothered occasionally, and he makes it better by letting me do or say whatever makes me feel better. He wants me to feel completely better about the situation and to no longer feel any hurt. He is willing to do anything he can to help and wants me to do whatever I need to do. That's what I think you should do also. I hope it all works out! Good luck to you.

[Regulus]

hmmmm, guess this is going to be the lone negative response. Let me get this straight.. He broke up with you b/c you met with a guy that you dated briefly 2 years ago for a simple catch up conversation? I'm trying really hard to figure out what you did wrong and nothing is coming to mind.... When did the lying part occur? And why is your boyfriend sifting through your personal e-mail? Does your boyfriend need to accompany you whenever you want to talk to other men? What you did is no big deal and someone who would break up over something so petty after nine months has major insecurity/maturity issues. Believe me, you don't want a second chance.