jealousy and web causing relationship breakdown

[another_working_mom]

My live-in boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. Do to the circumstances that I was in, I moved in with him after only dating three months. We had a very rocky beginning of which I will explain, because it leads us to where we are at now. I'm just seeking some other opinions, views, and advice. Just please don't slash me....I do that to myself enough.

 

Recently having been in a relationship with an abusive and controling man, I was on guard for this when I met him (we'll call him Bob). Bob showed concern that appeared to me to be control. To keep the story short, Bob suggested that I no longer have contact with my ex's or his (our) friends (not the abusive ex by the way). I felt this to be a jealous-imprompted request, and therefore proceeded in remaining in contact with them behind Bob's back. I wanted to show Bob that we could all be friends without there being any reason for concern. All that I did was inflict mistrust in our relationship when Bob found out. We had decided that we both felt that our relationship was still worth continuing.

 

However, he was not able to drop the past. The Bob that I had "fallen" for seemed to change dramatically. He suddenly asked me all kinds of questions about my whereabouts and brought up the lies that I had told him regarding this issue. We ended up fighting, and I left at one point. Feeling detatched from the world, I knew that all of the friends that I had vowed to stay away from would be there for me, and I went over to this ex's house. I also spent the night (no sex, although Bob to this day does not believe this). Now mind you, I had left, with no intentions of ever going back. Well, Bob called and told me that he realized he was making our relationship difficult and wanted to give it another shot. I upfrontedly told him where I had gone and was with my ex. He was angry, but agreed to let go of it. But he didn't.

 

I recently started a new job. My previous job is where I had contacted my ex behind Bob's back. After my first day and the "how was your first day?" comment, was a "you aren't going to start contacting anyone from there are you?" I was immediately pissed. One fight. That was Monday. Now Tuesday, I was told that my schedule would get me home late. I called him from work a lot earlier than I had expected to leave, to tell him that I was done at work, and was heading to pick up my daughter. I returned home two hours later. It would've only taken me an hour or less of drive time, so of course he was pissed that I didn't call, and demanding to know "what I had been doing". I was chatting with my daughter's sitter, who happens to also be her grandmother (on her father's side). She was asking questions about my new job because it is of common interest. I didn't realize how long all of this took (we also had to work out some new schedule issues with my new job for upcoming weeks).

 

Don't get me wrong, I realize that it would have been "respectful" for me to call him, but I really just didn't think about it. This is something that we have fought about before, so he was really upset that I had "disrespected him" again in the same way because he was worried and also needed to know that I wasn't messing around behind his back. We are still fighting, mainly because the past is brought up again.

 

We are still fighting. I'm to the point to where I think, "it has been over five months since I last left and we decided to make this work. Not only is he bringing this up, but he is still bringing up the past from a year ago....will it ever stop? Should I just leave now before we end up getting more wrapped up financially together?"

 

One other thing to throw a wrench into things. He is really into web porn. Mostly pics. I wouldn't say that he is obsessed to the point of it interferring with his life or anything....he does it mostly when there's nothing better to do. But I have some insecurity issues with this. He has gotten less sexually responsive towards me, and never is romantic anymore. He doesn't even like to kiss me or fondle me anymore. He says that it's because of the past haunting him. He's turned down my attempts to seduce him when I ws in the mood to the point of being rude. (I was playing with myself with his member while sitting on him facing him) He was somewhat aroused but stated...."are you done yet so I can get some sleep". And he wonders why I feel insecure! What do those pron woman have that I don't (well...everything including my man's attention)

 

Now he is involved in a site that I started to find a woman for us to "share". This has been a fantasy of mine....but I'm fine with leaving it at that. But I thought that it would bring back some intimacy, I guess. But he seems pretty obsessed with it recently. We hardly ever talk, and once he took it over, I don't have any knowledge of what is going on with our "hunt" for a woman. I'm not sure that with the way things are....I could handle seeing him with another woman. I've never felt so insecure before.

 

I asked him about his sex drive....he states that it is getting boring. I tried sprucing it up, but that's when I got the "are you done yet" response. He told me that he likes the "hunt" of getting another woman, and longs to have strange. He reassures me that he would not do that without me....but I sometimes wonder. He's often googling some other woman. I feel so inferior. I never get adorned by him either. He's not the type to hand out praise, other than when discussing another woman. He simply says that he's already told me how he feels about me, and that should be enough. I told him that it would help with my insecurities, but he says that he's getting sick of me asking, and still hasn't told me what it is that he likes or loves about me. All that I hear is how he hates this, and wishes I could do that. I'm not a clean enough housewife, I don't disipline my daughter enough, I am a liar (still in his eyes)....so on. I have to ask him if I look o.k. when I go all out to try and look good for him. He simply says "yeah...why?" He's not shy about telling me that he likes her hair pointing at this red head with long curly hair. (I'm blonde with medium straight hair).

 

I feel like I caused my own termoil and owe our relationship to stick it out and give him a chance to get over the past. I don't want to run and take the easy or cowards way out. I really want to know that I gave this my all. Does any one have any ideas on what I can do to get us out of our slump?

[YoungSuccesful]

Im sorry...I need to finish this novel later...

 

 

I will get back to you...

[MB]

He doesn't want to have sex with you because you're sleeping at your ex's house and it still pisses him off, it makes HIM feel insecure.

 

It really is that simple. As soon as you stop over-reacting to his inquiries about where you are and what you're doing (you've been doing things behind his back so he really does have the right to inquire now) and start calling him when you're going to be late this should go away. But it will never, ever go away if you keep in contact with your ex and go running to him every time you and your current have a fight.

 

The reason he's making YOU feel insecure is because you're making HIM feel insecure. Can you see this?

 

You think he'll ever really think you didn't sleep with your ex? What would YOU think if he slept at HIS ex's?

 

You're a single mother. You should be lucky you have a man, and you should work harder at keeping him.

[spencer]

Originally posted by another_working_mom

I feel like I caused my own termoil and owe our relationship to stick it out and give him a chance to get over the past. I don't want to run and take the easy or cowards way out. I really want to know that I gave this my all. Does any one have any ideas on what I can do to get us out of our slump?

 

wrong.... wrong..........wrong

 

you do not owe him anything...i bet he likes you to think that.

you think you caused your own turmoile, you did by staying in this relationship.

you feel inferior... because he wants you to feel bad and unwanted so you wont leave.

running would not make you a coward ....it would make you stong.

you gave it your all and now he is using you.

 

get out of the slump by dating a man thats not an ass.

since you seem like an altrustic/hard working woman....rationalize it by telling yourself that he really just wants someone else and there is no way anything you do, will change his mind.

 

you can both be happy ....away from eachother.

 

take care...you know what needs to be done.

[Aire]

I see two problems here.

 

One is that what you did caused him to have insecurities. Though you can not take the total blame for this. He had issues with it before you hid it from him. That is after all why you kept it a secret.

 

Two, he does not trust you.

 

The only solution to this problem is on his part. He is going to have to work on trusting you. Unfortunelty this isn't something you can change for him. He has to do that for himself with your support of course. If this can't be changed the relationship will falter. You will not be able to live with a man that gets upset with you just because you are a little bit late getting home. It will be like walking on eggshells. It will distroy the relationship.

[FreeMe]

MB is totally off the wall.

 

 

Listen to Spencer. Cut this guy lose. He doesn't trust you and he's disrespecting you but ogling other women and then commenting on them to you. How rude.

[another_working_mom]

Thank you to those that spent the time to read my lengthy story and replied. I'm still not yet sure what I'm going to do. I guess that I will wait it out a little while longer to see if it improves. (Something that I've been saying to myself for a while now). Things have been rather stressful with my new job, so I'm hoping that this new flare-up will go away. It has been better the last few days.

 

I still feel that I deserve some affection if he truely wants to keep me though. I don't think that it is fair of him to continue to "punish" me for my past. If he really loved me and cared, wouldn't he WANT to be affectionate? Maybe I'm just one of those affection starved woman....I don't know.

 

As for my past ex......he is completely out of the picture. I will not be going to him ever again. I will never speak to him ever again. I want to be with "Bob". I just wish that I could speed up Bob's healing process, if that is indeed what this is. I have agreed to never seek out anyone else for consulting about our personal life (that we know). And if we do break up, I seriously would need some time to heal and rethink my future goals. So I would not be going to ANYONE except within myself to reconfigure my coices in men.

[another_working_mom]

Originally posted by MB

You're a single mother. You should be lucky you have a man, and you should work harder at keeping him.

 

 

I may be a single mom, but I am good looking. This has never been a problem where true love is considered. My daughter has a father....I'm not searching for a father for her. The men in my life have never been asked to take on any responsibility for her. I am also not wanting a man that wants to be immature like a younger guy without any kids of his own would be. In my age group there isn't very many, if any woman that DON'T have any kids.

[krbshappy71]

You're a single mother. You should be lucky you have a man, and you should work harder at keeping him.

 

Wow. Stupidity still breeds.

[MB]

Originally posted by another_working_mom

I may be a single mom, but I am good looking.

 

This has nothing to do with looks. There's plenty of good looking mom's out there. There's even a term for them: MILFs.

 

Maybe you're correct about your age group (what, 60's?) and that everyone your age has kids, so it might not be a big issue. But in your late twenties to early thirties there's only a handful of men willing to deal with that kind of baggage. You said your child has a father, which implies that the ex husband is still in your life. Why would someone want to go into a relationship where an ex is still in the picture?

 

Not to mention stuff like step-dads getting sued for child support for children that they didn't even father. My good friends ex-wife sued him and WON money for a child that's not even his. The childs father is out of the picture who-knows-where, and the court decided it was in the best interest of the child for my friend to keep paying out his nose for child support. This guy has no kids of his own, but pays child support to his ex and her kid. What's up with that?

 

Anyways, that's enough to keep me away from single mothers. But... moving on ...

 

Whether you did or didn't cheat when you slept at the ex's house (and sleeping at the ex's house could very well be considered cheating if you look at how most people on these boards define cheating) through your actions you convinced him that you certainly did cheat on him, and now you want him to act like nothing ever happened? You make a guy insanely jealous and insecure (maybe those qualities were there already, and you just strengthened them), and now you're going to dump him because you can't live with the results? What did you THINK would happen? That's like cutting his arms off and leaving him 'cause now he can't give you a hug.

 

Really, if he's such a terrible guy, why don't you get out from underneath the roof he's providing for you and your child?

 

It's YOUR fault you're in this mess, and you're dragging him down with you. Do the poor guy a favor and leave. He's better off without you messing with his head ... sleeping at your ex's to show him it's ok and he can trust you? Jesus christ, what the hell were you thinking? If you want to make it up to him, go out and find him a replacement girlfriend.

 

MB

[sportsloving]

It's YOUR fault you're in this mess, and you're dragging him down with you. Do the poor guy a favor and leave. He's better off without you messing with his head ... sleeping at your ex's to show him it's ok and he can trust you? Jesus christ, what the hell were you thinking? If you want to make it up to him, go out and find him a replacement girlfriend.

 

YOU, MB, don't think you were a little harsh do you?

 

First off, I have never heard of a judge making a non-parent having to pay for child support, perhaps it is alimony that he is paying. Unless of course he adopted the child in which case, it would be true that he would have to pay as he took legal actions to prove he was willing to provide for the child.

 

Second, I have also had to sleep over at my ex's house (for a week when my sewer line had to be dug up and relined during the middle of winter). NOT one time did my S/O ever think anything sexual was going on, and at no time did he ever feel or express concern. And he would be the first person I would think had a right to jump to conclusions if he felt so, because I had cheated on him once in the past. But the difference is, we were able to deal with it, face it and heal from it.

 

I don't think this is all her fault, nor do I think it is all his. I think they are two people who have a hard time communicating and if they want type of life together that is happy and fulfilling, they are going to need to learn how to express themselves.

 

Other than that, I would think being a single parent is hard enough, let alone trying out a new job and then stressing every night when you walked in the door about what he might accuse you of. IMO, I would suggest you either seek counseling together or it is time for you to move on.

[befuddled11]

From your rude, sexist remarks, I was originally inclined to think you're nothing more than a troll..but trolls aren't usually so longwinded..they're more "hit and run."

 

You obviously have a huge chip..no wait, a TREE on your shoulder toward women, particularly women who are single Moms. That's YOUR issue to deal with, not hers.

 

"You said your child has a father, which implies that the ex husband is still in your life. Why would someone want to go into a relationship where an ex is still in the picture?"

 

Wake up, dude. There's millions of single Moms out there who have ex husbands. Are you somehow saying they don't deserve to have any kind of a life, all because their child's father is somehow (and understandably) connected? This poster's boyfriend obviously knew the score when he began a relationship with her. I didn't read anywhere in her post that there's been any 'issue' with the fact that she has an ex husband. You make it sound like divorced Moms are scum of the earth.

 

To the original poster: Personally, I think his control issues, which are HUGE, and his insecurity and jealousy "could be" that he's not 100% honest and faithful himself. People who are guilty about screwing around are often the ones who are the first to point the finger at others. Considering he's so hellbent on bringing some other woman into your bedroom, though isn't interested in sex with you, it would appear he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.

 

He sounds like an abusive, manipulative, controlling SOB. You're not his minor daughter who has to report into him. He's not your sargeant. Or your parole officer. For crying out loud, you were a little long at the sitter's going over your new schedule......and he flips for that, without even hearing you out?

 

Seems to me there were warning signs from the start......with him starting your relationship off by basically commanding you to break off all contact with your exes. He could have discussed this with you, but it sounds like he laid down the law and there wasn't even room for discussion. He sounds like a bossy, domineering insecure little dork.

 

If you BOTH have trust issues, the very last thing you need is a threesome.

 

The way he turned you down for sex like that, with that rude comment........I once dated a guy like that, too. I could never win with him.......but he wanted it that way. It was all about control. In the beginning of our relationship, sex was good and spontaneous. As soon as I moved in, all of these "rules" came about. He refused (without any reason) to have sex in the afternoon, evening, at night or during the night. No more spontaneity. If wanted sex, I had to agree to be woken up at 6am, like it or leave it. When I tried to initiate sex, as most guys DO like that from time to time, he would get all bent out of shape and tell me I was too domineering and aggressive, which I wasn't. Another rule was that we *had* to shower together each morning....which HAD to include the obligatory handjob in the shower. There was no way around this. Being that I'm more of a "soak in the tub" kind of girl, I wasn't keen on this....and I rather enjoyed my quiet time in the mornings, in the tub and planning my day out, by myself. But I tried to compromise. God help me if DARED to shower without him. He would pout and give me the silent treatment for hours. I initially just thought he was a freakish child who had to have his own way, but I came to realize that he was really all about control. Incidently, he was very insecure and jealous..which was ludicrous because I had relocated to live in the same city as him (we lived together)..I didn't know anyone else but him. I worked from home, never went out without him, except to get groceries or do some shopping. He would actually get all bent out of shape if I went to Safeway with lipstick on. He would accuse me of getting all dolled up to try and pick someone up at the store. He'd say it half jokingly, but the other half was serious.

 

He was insane. In the end, it was him who was cheating on me, as he'd done in his previous marriage (only I didn't know that until well into our relationship. You see, he'd originally told me that him and his ex wife decided to split up amicably.....but truth be told, he LEFT HER when she was 5 months pregnant with their 2nd child, to go and shack up with the town crackhead/whore......basically because he a had a drug addiction and his wife couldn't deal with his refusal to seek treatment. Had I known the TRUTH when I met him, I'd have never given him the time of day. OH..and MB? If you're reading this, HE had 2 small children that he had shared custody of.....which I was like a step-Mom to. How do you feel, MB, about men who come into a relationship with baggage such and children and ex wives??????????????? Hmmmm.)

 

I think you need to get the hell of out of this relationship before his attempts to control and isolate you escalate to physical abuse.

[MB]

Originally posted by sportsloving

YOU, MB, don't think you were a little harsh do you?

 

First off, I have never heard of a judge making a non-parent having to pay for child support, perhaps it is alimony that he is paying. Unless of course he adopted the child in which case, it would be true that he would have to pay as he took legal actions to prove he was willing to provide for the child.

 

Welcome to California & Washington state. You've heard of Washington State? Remember the school teacher who had sex with a 13 year old boy and got impregnated? Mary J Laterneau(sp)? She was arrested for having sex with him on 3 different occasions, she didn't get jail time 'till strike 3 and she was pregnant. (This has nothing to do with the discussion at hand, it's more of my way of driving home the point that Washington State has some pretty wild laws.)

 

Originally posted by sportsloving

Second, I have also had to sleep over at my ex's house (for a week when my sewer line had to be dug up and relined during the middle of winter). NOT one time did my S/O ever think anything sexual was going on, and at no time did he ever feel or express concern. And he would be the first person I would think had a right to jump to conclusions if he felt so, because I had cheated on him once in the past. But the difference is, we were able to deal with it, face it and heal from it.

 

Different circumstances. She lied about where she was, you didn't. And if you cared the slightest bit about your man, you probably made sure it was OK before it happened. About your cheating... well, this isn't your thread so you won't get my lengthy opinion on it, but let's just say I wouldn't have put one ounce of effort into repairing a relationship YOU screwed up by partaking in the most extreme betrayal of love, trust and friendship. Shame on you, by the way.

 

Wake up, dude. There's millions of single Moms out there who have ex husbands. Are you somehow saying they don't deserve to have any kind of a life, all because their child's father is somehow (and understandably) connected? This poster's boyfriend obviously knew the score when he began a relationship with her. I didn't read anywhere in her post that there's been any 'issue' with the fact that she has an ex husband. You make it sound like divorced Moms are scum of the earth.

 

Ok, 'dude.' Your average man who has no kids doesn't want to date a single mother. Sorry, it's true. The fact that she found someone who WAS willing to do so was a godsend. Bless his heart. For her to mess that up by lying about sleeping at an ex's house? That's immature, it's playing mind-games. Last thing I want to hear is someone (whom is already at a disadvantage getting back into the dating game) whining about jealousy that THEY THEMSELVES inflicted.

 

Bottom line -- it IS more difficult for a single mother to find a man. Any guy I know would do a double-take if their date told them she had a child from a previous relationship. You can't deny this. The guys that WILL put up with something like this -- and God bless them -- are few and far between, or have children themselves. For her to screw with this man -- a man willing to give her and her child a home -- by lying to his face and sleeping at her ex's shows just how inconsiderate and rude she is, and shows how she really feels about the poor guy. She obviously doesn't give a crap.

 

As for me being a troll, I am an unregistered user, therefore all my posts must get moderator approval before they're seen. Just because I'm not on the side of the original poster like everyone else tends to be around here doesn't automatically make me a troll. If giving the brutal truth is trolling, then it's time to stop approving my posts for display, and it's time we turn this place into "enablers-are-us" where "it's ok, we understand what you did, even though it was wrong, you're forgiven" are the only acceptable answers and there is no such thing as personal accountability.

 

Look, I have no animosity towards single mothers. My point was simply this: She found a man willing to take her and her kid in. There isn't a much bigger display of ... (what's the word i'm looking for here ... compassion? trust? love? affection? gah someone with a thesaurus help me out here) that you can give. He opens up his door to these two, she sleeps with her ex, then can't take the fact that he's upset about it? Well that's too bad, because this is something the poor guy will NEVER forget. Whatever SHE might be feeling, it's NOTHING compared to what he's feeling.

 

Sorry, no sympathy. The poor guy doesn't deserve this. Way to go on messing up another one of the "nice guys" and turning him into an a-hole. You cheaters make me sick.

[lohrewok]

I think you need to listen to befuddled.

 

 

Sure, you made several key mistakes about trust/honesty in the relationships. But his problems combined with yours spell a bad relationship to me. A man who loves you and respects you would never treat you like this. You don't deserve it. Leave him. Next time be more honest upfront. And do some soul searching as to why you found this loser attractive in the first place. Learn from this and move on.

[another_working_mom]

Originally posted by MB

Whether you did or didn't cheat when you slept at the ex's house (and sleeping at the ex's house could very well be considered cheating if you look at how most people on these boards define cheating) through your actions you convinced him that you certainly did cheat on him, and now you want him to act like nothing ever happened? You make a guy insanely jealous and insecure (maybe those qualities were there already, and you just strengthened them), and now you're going to dump him because you can't live with the results? What did you THINK would happen?

 

Really, if he's such a terrible guy, why don't you get out from underneath the roof he's providing for you and your child?

 

MB

 

First off, I never cheated on him, even by other's definition. We broke up!!!! He came back to me wanting to get back to get back together, at which time I told him where I had been. HE decided that HE still wanted to work things out, get over the past, and get on with our lives.

 

When did I ever say that he provides a roof over my head? I am a very capable of providing for myself. It was a "take it or leave me offer to live with him, or our relationship was a long distance one" option. He made it very clear that he wanted ME to move in with HIM so that we could be together. Not to mention that I am paying him rent to be here, plus whatever other money he needs to pay off HIS debts so that he can buy a house.

 

There is so much more that I have not mentioned that I know would cause other's in this forum to scream at me about staying, like the phone being tapped (he has played my own conversations to me), and spy software on the computer. He is insecure. And I do believe he is controlling.

 

You are right MB.....I do believe that it is time for me to leave......but I don't believe that it his for his benifit. I just thought that he would come around, like he said that he would. But even about sex he is controlling. Unless HE wants to, we don't. He has asked me on several occassions to just roll over or give him a blow without any consideration to my sexual needs. He will planly state this. It is for HIM! MY needs are MY problem. But HIS needs are my problem as well.

 

P.S. I have never nor do I ever want a man like you that doesn't want a single mom. I voice immediately that I have a child. Her name is tatooed on my body for all the world to see! He knew what he was getting, and never once shyed away. Being a single mom is not an issue here at all. Please refrain from your opinion about this, as you said to another poster....it is not YOUR thread and this is NOT the issue!

[another_working_mom]

I appreciate everyone's opinions.

 

Do you think that I should talk to him? Tell him that I am planning to leave to give him ONE MORE chance to prove that he can change? I've had enough going on at this point and don't really want to leave. I do love him, the good side that I have seen here and there. The side that he keeps telling me will return if I am just patient and give him time to heal from our past.

 

I'm scared to be on my own now. I'm scared that maybe I won't find anyone else because of my age and circumstances.

 

But honestly, I know that this is what I must do to keep my daughter from thinking that this kind of treatment from a man is tolerated. I certainly do not want her to be in one like this some day. It's bad enough that the poor kid has been subjected to this already.

 

I just really thought that this was "it" for me. I really thought that I would be with him for the rest of my life and wouldn't have to move again. I hate all of the guilty feelings that I have. I hate all of the changes that I will have to go through. I'm honestly scared. I'm not one to openly admitt that ...but I am.

[sportsloving]

I am a firm believer in telling them exactly what you are thinking and why. I know it is hard as a single mom (and I don't mean as to find a man as MB suggested, cause in that regard I think he is way off base) but it does make one have to be the "adult" all the time without having someone to lean on, and I understand why you are scared. But I don't want you to stick around in a relationship just waiting for things to change... cause it isn't fair to you.

 

Talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him you want to move on if this is the life he is willing to live... because you are strong, and you are smart, and you can do anything that needs to be done.

 

I wish you tons and tons of luck, and I for one am crossing my fingers, hoping he comes around and wakes up

[lohrewok]

Don't even worry about being a single, older, mom. I was 41 when I divorced, with 2 small kids, and remarried within 2 years. Just take your time and be good to yourself and you daughter.

[Mary3]

To MB : The fact that you cannot forgive someone in your past for * cheating * on you shows that you : Must forgive ( as hard as it sounds ) to be able to move forward with your life..... ( Notice I did not say * forget * or * condone * or * accept * the cheating...

 

To not forgive, is to hold the hurt and let it linger....eating away at any future possibilities for you to trust again and recognize not all partners cheat. Yes, you need to vent here about * the horrible cheaters * but seriously how long are you going to let that eat at you ?? I give yourself a time frame to get over that...because life is passing you by while you keep that anger inside you. If she / he cheated on you then they weren't really worth your time and you were better off to have ended the relationship.

 

Cheating is a terrible thing indeed but whats even worse is your additude . Yes ,you should be have been angry and used that anger in a productive way to heal yourself and realize you did not deserve to be cheated on ...

 

As for fathers paying child support for children that arent even their own ...Its true that it happens especially in California. If that biological father puts his name on the Birth Certificate and later recants , the state holds him liable as the father to that child . Men that ignored the DA 's request for paternity tests found themselves many months later being held for arrearages and having it garnished from their paychecks.

 

I feel your anger... but live this day as if it were your last.....You never know if a Semi Truck could careen out of control and end your life...and here you were wasting precious moments being angry about the past.

 

Life is here and now....Live it

[another_working_mom]

Thanks everyone for the encouraging words.

 

Things have been better lately. He closed the account on searching for someone else, and he hasn't been rude. The intimancy is better, although he isn't much of a romantic.

 

If things get bad again, I will talk to him, and potentially leave. I cannot waste anymore of my life on a man that refuses to get on with our lives. I know that I deserve better than what he has been offering as far as love and a relationship goes. So does my daughter.