Wesker Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 No doubt that getting dumped, whether you were together 1 month, or even 10 years is going to hurt like hell, especially if you don't see it coming. I've read all the posts about being in No Contact, doing different things, and just trying to clear you mind and heal. Pretty much let go. Deep down I know that's what I must do, and I'm trying. However, there's still that part of me that still loves my ex-GF very much, and I keep that little ray of hope that perhaps she'll come back, and try to make things work. It's because of that thought which makes letting go that much harder, and sadder. Cause you know that as soon as you come to that realization, it truly is over, and that they are never going to be a part of your life again; even though right now I miss her so badly, and want her back in my life. And being with her for almost 8 years makes it just that harder because of all those memories, both good and bad. I've been in No Contact now for about a month so maybe it's still too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 It's said that we don't fall in love with someone when we're with them, it's when we away from them that those feelings develop. Using that logic, being seperated is only going to hurt all the more. You're not alone with those feelings of not wanting to let go. I sometimes feel they get worse and I want her more each day. It's so annoying, I'm trying NC (failing occasionally) yet I know I just don't want to let go. I know that eventually she will mean nothing to me and I'll be moved on, and that feeling itself scares the hell out of me. The thought that she'll be gone, and I won't even care. I know I'll be better by then, but it's still a very scary thought. Never seeing her again... ever! I wish I could offer you some advice but I feel there is none. We just all have to weather this storm and try and take comfort that things do get better, whether we want them to or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Renard99 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 I can only echo that which smudge21 has said. We all have those feelings and it's not unusual for them to get worse before they get better. I'm 5 months out of an almost 8 year relationship, and I'm still having trouble letting go, made worse by her now dating my house mate. Once again, as smudge21 said, we have to just weather this storm, whether it's weeks, months or even years, and know that eventually it will pass, whether we like that or not. Link to post Share on other sites
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