Renard99 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 This is more of a rant than anything so I apologise! Can this woman screw me over any more!! The back story is that she basically went cold on me in December last year and then in January this year simply turned around, after just short of 8 years together and said she didn't love me anymore. Bang, like that she was gone. I was even preparing to propopse this year, holiday was booked and everything! It completely killed me. I struggled on with the house and managed to rope in an old friend, who'd been living abroad for a few years and had just come back, as a house mate. He was one of the few friends of mine that my ex got on well with. The other day he admits that not only has he been seeing her as friends for the past few months, they're going to try and make a go of it as a relationship. I'm now having to move out. I thought I was moving on nicely, although still had a fair way to go. This has kicked me right back. I'm a firm believer in 'whatever's meant to be, will be' and I love my ex enough to want her to be happy so I will not stand in the way...... but... this is just a kick in the teeth. First I lose the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and now, I lose a close friend as I simply can't live with him knowing he is effectively 'my replacement'. The reason I get on so well with him is that we share all the same interests, which are all the same ineterest I shared with my ex, so he's now lined up dates that me and the ex did. He's another version of me and that pisses me right off, especially as she claimed one reason for the break up is that we didn't like the same things anymore, which is frankly rubbish, especially as I've bumped into or seen her at events and gigs and things on number of occasions. So after the upheaval and trauma of the break up, just when I thought I may be making progress, I now have to face another upheaval and move back home with my parents. I can't afford a place locally on my own and I am (now) the only single person in my group of friends. Life knows how to kick you when you're down! Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Damn! Well, to be honest I think your "friend" is kind of a prick. Maybe he doesn't see it that way.. but you dated her for 8 YEARS!!!! And you're not over it yet. What did he say when you talked to him about it? Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 While you're moving out, make sure to connect your fist to his jaw. He's supposed to be your friend and here he has screwing your ex. He's an idiot and she's a tramp. And by the way you described how she left you, most likely she was cheating on you with other men and/or your former "friend." Find some better people to surround yourself with when you finally make the move. Sorry for your loss, but life is not over yet. There's still people out there who know how to respect someone. You just gotta find them. Link to post Share on other sites
Sh0t Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 that's an awful round of bad luck my friend why do you have to move out? can't find another roommate? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Renard99 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 @DontWorryBHappy: He didn't really say much at all. It came about because I asked if he wanted to join the rest of the gang for some drinks one evening and he just said 'what time as I'm out during the day..... I'm actually, controversially, out for a drink with Ann' to which he trailed off and looked guilty as if he shouldn't have said it. I brushed it off, thinking, they're friends, they can do what they want. Anyway, in conversation he lets slip that he's seen her before in the last few weeks. I said to him that as a heads up, I wouldn't be cool if it turned into them dating and he'd have to tell me if they did date and we'd need to talk about it. Later that day he tells me that they discussed it and they both want to try for a relationship. @John Michael Kane: I really don't think that my ex was cheating on this guy whilst we were together as he was still abroad, and, at the time, had no intention of coming back. He came back into the country after a run of bad luck a few months after we broke up. I also don't think she was cheating on me with anyone else, I don't see it in her nature.... however..... I did learn later that someone in her circle of friends was thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend and my ex did speak fondly of him. She may have been making herself available for him. Turns out the guy managed to work out his problems with his girlfriend and is still with her. @Sh0t: I'm moving out because, as I say, I believe if things will be, they'll be and if they want to be together then I'm not going to rock their boat. Plus if I ask him to move out I know he has nowhere to go, meaning, he'll probably take longer to move out whereas I can move out at the drop of a hat to my parents. Also, if he were to move out and I don't find anyone to replace him really soon I couldn't afford the place on my own whereas he could Link to post Share on other sites
Author Renard99 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) Oh, and forgot to say, the house I'm sharing with my housemate, is the same house I shared with the ex. Frankly it'd be good for me to move out. I stayed because It's rent controlled and therefore a bargain! Edited July 3, 2011 by Renard99 Link to post Share on other sites
robroy69 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 but exactly the same thing happened to me. pm me or email [email protected] if you want to talk about it. harsh. keep your chin up! Rob Link to post Share on other sites
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