nevada Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 My husband and I have been together 14 years. It hasn't always been great nut not bad. I am now 5 months pregnant with our second child and he says I need to move when he's born. He acts confused at times but he days he's 99% sure he's done. What do I do is there any hope. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 All I want is him and our family. I don't understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 Crap. I have only been on this forum for a few weeks and I am so disheartened and angry about how people treat each other. Good Lord, what is wrong with people? Why do you have to leave? Is the house just in his name? Do you work? Do you live in a no-fault state? You need to find out what is going on with him. Unfortunately, it sounds as if he has another woman he is involved with and he is ready to move on. Check his computer, phones, and if you are unable to find anything, keep checking. Someone here on the forum will answer this and give you good ideas on how to check up on him. Do not just leave. Tell him if he wants to leave, he can and he can dam* well pay for his children's care and well-being and in some states, maybe yours, also. He can not and you must not allow him to just run you over and throw you away like yesterday's leftovers. It hurts right now, I know, and it really stinks, but you have to stand up for yourself. Is your family nearby? How about a big brother? Lean on them..call them and get some support. Call your friends..you need support right now. I'm sorry for your troubles and for how hurt you must feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 There's no other woman I have checked his phone and I also have GPS I always know where he is. I don't want to give up he's not ready for divorce but says he'd still done Idk what that means. I don't have family I can rely on he says he still loves me just can't b with me Idk if I should wait and hope or hive up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 We recently moved and I lost my job when we did. Now I can't work because nobody will hire a pregnant person. If he's done why not divorce me its easy in Nevada. Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm so sorry for what's going on with you. Can you describe to us a little how you two ended up in separation? Link to post Share on other sites
Clubman35 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 So let me see if I have this right.... you're pregnant, he's not happy, and he wants YOU to leave after you give him his second child? Are you f*cking kidding me?!? If he's so unhappy, tell him to grow a set and get the hell out. What the hell kind of 'man' would do that to a woman with a newborn? Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 So let me see if I have this right.... you're pregnant, he's not happy, and he wants YOU to leave after you give him his second child? Are you f*cking kidding me?!? If he's so unhappy, tell him to grow a set and get the hell out. What the hell kind of 'man' would do that to a woman with a newborn? That's what I mean...it's enough to make me sick. What a piece of work he is! Nevada, wow, what a mess. I'm pretty sure that it is rare that a man would just up and leave in this situation if it were not for someone else. I know that it is hard to believe and of course, I could be wrong, but it is quaking like a duck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 Like I said it hasn't always been perfect but we've always had love still do. I have been emotionally unfaithful on two occasion. Last year we moved out of state a d I was alone for four months no friends no family. He was a long haul truck driver and could never seem to make it home. I started talking to a Guy. He cane home and forgave me. Then we decided to have a baby. Our second. In February we relocated back to my home state. I was pregnant we were OK. He bought a sandwich I didn't like and being pregnant and irrational blew up and started a fight. He left that night. A month later he had rented another place and we decided to try. I tried to change everything I cooked cleaned and made love to him like a dirty working girl. Last weekend he hot upset that I had over shared personal info with someone and bam he can't be with me and when the baby's born I have to leave. He says he can't ne with me but he'll always love me. BC he can't forget the past. He says he's 99% sure he will never change his mind bit doesn't want a divorce before the baby.Idk what to do. Hold on to that one percent or watch everything I want my love my "family" my future or walk away. I can't give up. What do I do. Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Like I said it hasn't always been perfect but we've always had love still do. I have been emotionally unfaithful on two occasion. Last year we moved out of state a d I was alone for four months no friends no family. He was a long haul truck driver and could never seem to make it home. I started talking to a Guy. He cane home and forgave me. Then we decided to have a baby. Our second. In February we relocated back to my home state. I was pregnant we were OK. He bought a sandwich I didn't like and being pregnant and irrational blew up and started a fight. He left that night. A month later he had rented another place and we decided to try. I tried to change everything I cooked cleaned and made love to him like a dirty working girl. Last weekend he hot upset that I had over shared personal info with someone and bam he can't be with me and when the baby's born I have to leave. He says he can't ne with me but he'll always love me. BC he can't forget the past. He says he's 99% sure he will never change his mind bit doesn't want a divorce before the baby.Idk what to do. Hold on to that one percent or watch everything I want my love my "family" my future or walk away. I can't give up. What do I do. Well you did cheat on him more than once and abused his trust in you so it's understandable where he's coming from. He definitely needs time alone after how you've been treating him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 If he's cheating he has a clone. I take him to work, pick him up He's either here or next door no unexplained absences he's asleep next to me now. I have GPS locator and always know where he isr. Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 If he's cheating he has a clone. I take him to work, pick him up He's either here or next door no unexplained absences he's asleep next to me now. I have GPS locator and always know where he isr. You have a GPS on him and you're the one who cheated. Not cool. No wonder he feels he has to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 I did abuse his trust not denying that at all. He also has not been perfect. But if he couldn't forgive me or love me. Why did we try for four months to have a baby and all of this happened over a year ago and the other was before we were married. I didn't steal his sperm and I didn't force him to use it for that long either he was a willing party. If he needed time he should have kept his baby makers to himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 He also has GPS and uses it. It was his idea he subscribed to the service and has all the power to delete my access or cancel it Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I did abuse his trust not denying that at all. He also has not been perfect. So what? You cheated on more than one occasion. But if he couldn't forgive me or love me. Why did we try for four months to have a baby and all of this happened over a year ago and the other was before we were married. Over a year ago is not long and just because you two weren't married doesn't give you the right to cheat. Not to mention the fact that you cheated AGAIN after you two got married.Because most likely he has not been able to calmly live with the fact that you cheated on him TWICE; meaning he's hurt and confused. What have you honestly done to reestablish his trust in you? I didn't steal his sperm and I didn't force him to use it for that long either he was a willing party. If he needed time he should have kept his baby makers to himself. And if you had a problem with your relationship you should've talked to him or ended it before you cheated on him Not once but TWICE.And neither did he force you to cheat on him multiple times. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 He has emailed girls on Craigslist looked at cheating websites. He's no saint but we agreed to stay together and expand our family. If he was so unhappy he should have ended it before he made another bastard child who will never see his father. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 For starters he has cheated for real. I never had sex, kissed or touched another man. I never got into another relationship with anyone. I found a friend who showed interest and talked to him I gave him the opportunity to leave me he chose to forgive me. I have not touched another man in fourteen years. What have I done to regain trust? I allowed him to get GPS on my phone, moved to the other side of the country and I do not talk to anyone or leave home. I go to therapy and he has access to email Facebook phone and anything he'd like. We forgave each other even though I never had sex especially not at a whore house. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 So if I understand you Mr. Kane its OK that he got me pregnant and then decided I'm not sure? Its OK he looks at me on GPS? Its OK that he needs to earn my respect bit not vise versa. I never touched anyone. I would like to thank you I'd signed up to try to talk to people in a similar situation but I will never use this website again. You attack me when I am part of two. I'm sorry your wife obviously boffed everyone in town. But you sir have a chip on your shoulder. People come here for advice not to be beaten while they are down. You sir are an A$$ Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 So if I understand you Mr. Kane its OK that he got me pregnant and then decided I'm not sure? Its OK he looks at me on GPS? Its OK that he needs to earn my respect bit not vise versa. I never touched anyone. I would like to thank you I'd signed up to try to talk to people in a similar situation but I will never use this website again. You attack me when I am part of two. I'm sorry your wife obviously boffed everyone in town. But you sir have a chip on your shoulder. People come here for advice not to be beaten while they are down. You sir are an A$$ So both of you cheated on each other multiple times (and he's probably going to cheat now). Divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 Your wife did screw the county apparently but some people think love is worth fighting for. I wish you would just go away. I pity anyone who wants a relationship with you and understand why your wife went elsewhere Link to post Share on other sites
John Michael Kane Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Your wife did screw the county apparently but some people think love is worth fighting for. I wish you would just go away. I pity anyone who wants a relationship with you and understand why your wife went elsewhere I smell troll. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nevada Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 She must have been one I'm glad you left her I'm sure you're much happier now. Congratulations Link to post Share on other sites
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