How can I keep things peaceful?

[LuckyCharm]

3 years ago I stopped talking to my mom and for the first year she tried harassing me through family, friends, snail mail, email. a few of the family and friends she tried to get to me through them now understand why I had to cut ties with her and want nothing to do with her after all her harassment's.

 

I tried getting a restraining order against her but since she was living in the middle east and I was living in California I wasn't able to. but last week I got an email from my Grandma telling me that my mom was moving to new-york to live with my brother this Sunday.

Every one who has seen the real side of her thinks she's planing on harassing me and my family again. I know I am living on the west coast and she will be on the east coast but she will still have an easier time getting to me.

 

A few days ago I found out she took a pic of my daughter and put it up on her facebook (I put her on block so she can't see my profile)! I think my brother gave her the picture and he knows better since I told him why I had to cut ties but he's pretty much the only one I can think of on fb that would give her my daughters pic. I love my brother very much so I don't wanna remove him from my friends list and since she will be living with him she can go onto his facebook and see my updates and pic's so today I customized my pic's so he couldn't see them I feel bad about it but I need to protect my family and I'm gonna do the same with my status updates.

I'm just so scared that one day she'll just send me a message from my brothers fb and harass me all over again.

 

Getting a restraining order would be great but she's living with my brother and I don't want to put him in an award situation since I would have to send it to his address.

 

What can I do to keep her away?

[quankanne]

be guarded with your information, and by all means, have a serious talk about your mom possibly hijacking his email/social networking sites to stir shxt, so he'll need to consider protecting them by either coming up with a more complicated password or making sure he closes his account down every time he leaves the computer.

 

milk is already spilt as far as her having possession/seeing your child's photo, so don't fixate on it – there's really nothing you can do about it now. However, because she's going to be living with your brother, be prepared for the fact that she will most likely have access to these photos unless he chooses to bar her from his computer. However, it's something HE has to do ... you can only remind him that she will stop at nothing to harass you, then leave it at that. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's in his hands, being the gatekeeper of information, you know?

 

meanwhile, speak with someone familiar with the law to see what recourse you have and how you can protect yourself further.

[Dooda]

There's nothing you can do. You've done all you can.

God, your mom sounds like a bitch.

[LuckyCharm]

I wish she was only a b*tch I think she has boarder line personality disorder along with other mental issues.

 

Your right it's not what i wanted to hear but I accept that this is the reality of things. I thought about talking to my brother but she's arriving tomorrow and I don't want him opening a message I send him in front of her...maybe I'm being too considerate towards him but I'm thinking maybe for now I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and if she tries something through him then I'll write to him.

[haryender]

It is little bit difficult to but not impossible, try to make the things peaceful form your side, it is good if you will try to listen others, listen them quietly and try to make them feel that they are wrong too, don't shot or not hurt anybody, but deal with patience with the mind.