stuck in a crappy situation

[KOH]

I'm finding myself in the middle of a horrible situation.

 

last night an ex of mine called & wanted to hang out, I'll leave all the boring details & get to the point, we had sex.

 

that's all good, then she tells me she's getting married next week, I was like "what the hell?", so I let it slide, since I've had sex with married women before.

 

but no, there's more, her fiance is a long time friend that I haven't spoken to in ages. so after yelling at her & expressing my frustration, she starts talking about how she missed me & how she's not really in love with him & it was just a rebound relationship...etc. evantually, I kicked her out.

 

what do you think I should do? the right thing would be to tell him, I don't want a friend of mine to be stuck in a horrible relationship, & since I kicked her out, she'd probably tell him before I do to make me the bad guy, I don't think that's a problem though, I've had his back ever since we were kids so I think he trusts me enough.

 

note: that all happened over the course of one night.

[carhill]

Since you haven't talked to him in ages, is he even aware that he's marrying an ex of yours?

 

Presuming 'ages' is a few years or more, I'd just leave it alone. He's a big boy and can make marriage decisions himself. It's not like you pried her legs open. He can figure that out should he become aware of what happened from her.

 

Like Scott Glenn opined in the 'Bourne Ultimatum', 'you can't make this stuff up'.

[Bryanp]

I think you should certainly tell him. If the roles were reversed and you were going to marry this woman wouldn't you appreciate it if someone told and stopped you from making a horrible mistake. Do the right thing and tell him now.

[Untouchable_Fire]

but no, there's more, her fiance is a long time friend that I haven't spoken to in ages. so after yelling at her & expressing my frustration, she starts talking about how she missed me & how she's not really in love with him & it was just a rebound relationship...etc. evantually, I kicked her out.

what do you think I should do? the right thing would be to tell him, I don't want a friend of mine to be stuck in a horrible relationship, & since I kicked her out, she'd probably tell him before I do to make me the bad guy, I don't think that's a problem though, I've had his back ever since we were kids so I think he trusts me enough.

note: that all happened over the course of one night.

 

I would tell the guy. He is making a life changing decision and has lots of info missing.