hbchick Posted April 21, 2004 Share Posted April 21, 2004 i'm just curious because my first love and I arnt doing so well right now, but do you or anyone you knows first loves work out in the long run? like is anyone still with there high school sweetheart after all the years?? grown up, have children??? if so are things way different then they were in high school? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 21, 2004 Share Posted April 21, 2004 Do you really want this to be the ONLY thing you'll ever experience? The only person you get to know THAT well? The only person you sleep with for the rest of your life? I mean, sure, some people are like that, maybe you are, but think about what you're really wanting here. You're still in high school, I presume. YOu haven't lived any life yet. You've been in a safe zone. I'm just gonna assume, even though I shouldn't, but that's probably how it's been. You haven't hit the real world yet. It's a much different place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hbchick Posted April 22, 2004 Author Share Posted April 22, 2004 i totally know what you mean im just very confused right now. i love this guy more than anything and has been with him over 2 years but it makes me wonder because im so young. i wanna tell myself this cant be the only guy that im with and i know it has to be the same for him but i cant see us breaking up, we have always been so perfect for each other. I know i still have the rest of my life but i dont know what im going to do when the day comes and we break it off. I was just curious to see if many young relationships do work or it just ends up hurting even more down the line? Link to post Share on other sites
lovesongssuck Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Every single person I know who has had a deep high school love, even the ones who were absolutely head over heels and swore they would marry, every single relationship ended within 4 years of high school. Sorry to be blunt, but it's the truth. The fact is, when you're in high school, you really don't have any larger perspective. It's really impossible to sense just how much things change. It's just something you have experience to know what I'm talking about. What you think is really important right now probably won't matter in a few years. Bleak expressionistic musings aside, I suppose it is possible to stay with your high school sweetheart, though perhaps not probable. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Do you really want this to be the ONLY thing you'll ever experience? The only person you get to know THAT well? The only person you sleep with for the rest of your life? If you had asked me that question when I was with my ex I would have said yes. It didn't matter what the "world" had to offer, because to me.. I had the world. You haven't hit the real world yet. Whoa! The real world is a lot different. Not being with your first love is a great experience! Don't miss out! If I could go back to the past...I would have done the honor of breaking up. My point is...you will never really know if your first love is really compatible as you think you guys are. They might be someone else out there that can be a perfect match for you. If you guys don't make it...don't be so hard on yourself. It happens to the best of us. And of course I always like reading happy endings. So if you guys get married prove me wrong with my theory of "first loves." My theory of first loves. 99.9% of the time one of the partners will not be happy because they will feel as if they never experienced anyone else(thinking that there was someone better for them.) They just never left because as kevin said...They were in the comfort zone. Good luck with your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 hb eh? Huntington Beach? Link to post Share on other sites
joseph Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 I know of one couple who were high school sweethearts..and ended up marrying; I don't know them well, but Ive heard that they're miserable. I myself met my ex in grade 11 of high school, im now 21, and its four years later and we didnt make it..but I'd do it again. When we broke up she said she thought we were going to get married and she was crying about that..but I agree with Hurting, you cant beat yourself up about it if it doesnt work out...your young, and it will take personal pain and suffering before you realize that it most likely wasnt going to work out anyways (not always the case, I guess, but most of the time) If someone tells you that it's not going to work out in the end, it's to no avail, as people must learn for themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 My sister's best friend's parents were highschool sweet hearts. They have 3 girls, one girl ended up marrying her highschool sweet heart. they are a great couple and the mother is still so inlove with the father. I personally don't know how this works, because people constantly change, not to speak in your teens. That's what makes it even more special. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 My ex's father and mother were together before high school. I thought that my ex and myself would be able to do the same thing. Oh wellz. Link to post Share on other sites
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