brokendreamz Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 6 months ago I found this site. I was with my ex for 8 years, last two engaged and we lived together for 7.5 of those 8 years! Our relationship was beginning to show signs of strain but nothing we couldn't handle - or so I thought! I suffered with depression, she thought she made me un happy and I suspect started feeling attracted to a bloke she works with. Anyway, fast forward 6 months and here I am living at mum and dads and have made a lot of changes to my life - all for the better. We finally completed on our house sale on Friday and once I'd banked my share of the money I went to the pub... And stayed there!! I guess I was celebrating and commiserating all at the same time. I got in about 3am and have no memory from roughly 10pm so I guess I achieved what I set out to do... Drink to forget!! Thing is, today - two days later, it has at last hit me that she's never coming back! She was my world, the best thing that ever happened to me and she's gone - I doubt I'll ever see her again. This sucks. 6 months and a lot of self improvement later and I'd still give anything for another chance. Just venting I guess but needed to get it out... Again. Who's up for starting a petition making heartbreak illegal?! Link to post Share on other sites
nikkinicole36 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 You have to be gentle on yourself. It's only been six months out from a 8 year relationship. That is an extremely long time to be committed to someone. All you can do is to continue to make improvements on yourself and become a better version of yourself. I know the pain is almost unbearable sometimes, but it will continue to improve for you. It's a hard moment when you finally accept that the person you love is never coming back. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Yeah acceptance is the hardest thing. Mostly because we don't want it to end, so we force ourselves not to accept it. I would give anything for a second chance (why did that just bring a tear to my eye...) but there's nothing I can do to make that happen. I have to accept that fact. End of. Watch the drinking mate - yeah, it can make you forget, but it can also bring up those feelings and easily lead to you doing silly things. Everything happens for a reason and it always gets better... Link to post Share on other sites
broken-and-lost Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 hey fella I remember when you first posted six months back i was in similar situation. It's been 7 months for me now and i also suffered with depression at the time which i'm glad to say is gone i've also gone through a lot of self improvement. I had to finally give up on the life of my life too recently and it does hurt hell i still have days like today were i come on boards as it's bothering me a little. I hope things begin to move forward for you fella and life turns it's self along you will always have bad days and it's never easy seeing the person you love with someone else that happened to me recently and it hurt soo much but keep your chin up and look to the future what ever that maybe Link to post Share on other sites
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