Doefat04 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 My girlfriend dumped me about 9 months ago. I have had nc for about three or more months until yesterday.(STUPID ME) I really feel like I have learned a lot about myself in these past few months including realizing I cant let go. Until recent I have been doing good but now I get days where im just so lonely and down. Am I going nuts? I really want to speak with her but her text are short to the point. for example. I wrote: would you like to possibly meet tonight? she wrote : away for the weekend. I dunno guys help me out. IM willing to do anything for this woman but im also aware that its probably over for good. One more thing. Sometimes ill watch movies with two people in a relationship and it kind of gives me hope that love is still out there. I get the feeling of love through watching these actors. Anybody ever get that feeling. Sorry guys I really feel like a nutcase now a days. Link to post Share on other sites
calndn Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I am basically at the same point as you 8 months since breakup but really only 3 months in my mind as we wstarting meeting up again. Im much better than i was but i still have bad days, in fact ive had a bad week really, which hasnt happened in a long time, I havent txt my ex for 3 months and neither has he....I have seen him around a few times, but thats it. I get burning desires to talk to him sometimes (tbh it doesnt happen v often). But I know if i did txt him id get something short if anything in return and would just make me feel worse. Its tough but you have to go nc....everytime you txt your getting over her clock goes back to the start again. Stop and give yourself a chance to heal. I knwo what you are going through trust me, Im NC and remaining that way because im hoping one day i wont care! Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I feel that way too. Feel like its just not us doing the dumping so its hard. And for some, the relationship is never that important to them anyways, not like to us. Some got a relationship for fun, so when they dont feel fun anymore, they throw it away easily. Some have this mindset of dating for experiences, even though they dont admit it, like my ex, everything he failed, he said its for the experience, so no wonder why they move on quickly. But you really loved somebody, it takes time to get over them. Especially when we get dumped, we feel like if we could just be good enough, or change this or change that, it would never happen, and so we stay longer in sadness. Feel like the fact that we still love them when they did that holds us longer in despair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Doefat04 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 You guys are right on point. One day I'm ok, even ok with meeting other women and the next day i'm zoned out. I even had a relapse of some crying this week although I let no one see. Link to post Share on other sites
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