Author Crisis Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 Agreed, I mean i'm pretty sexy. I can get whoever I want, and i'm serious. I had just been with her so long, i thought it was concrete, and it would make it easier to be with someone who knows you rather than have to teach someone else who you are. NC all the way, whether they come back or no. This world blows! Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Agreed, I mean i'm pretty sexy. I can get whoever I want, and i'm serious. I had just been with her so long, i thought it was concrete, and it would make it easier to be with someone who knows you rather than have to teach someone else who you are. NC all the way, whether they come back or no. This world blows! I wish I could get literally anyone I wanted. There are many people who find me attractive. But there is no way that everyone on the entire planet does. Therefore, I commend thee. I'm curious... Does this include males as well as females? I'm just giving you crap... Just watch the ego bro. Many females find that is a total turn-off my friend. Good luck and I hope you find happiness with someone. Even if it isn't the person you want at the present moment. Eventually you will have forgotten all about her and you'll have someone else ruining your life, hahaha. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crisis Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 It's all mindset. No I'm not being cocky of egotishist, but I'm just saying, I know I'm a good looking guy and if i wanted to get someone or start a new relationship, I could. I'm straight as can possibly be, but hey, if a dude digs me, it's only an ego boost, gross but still a boost non-the less. If you meet the right person, they find it hilarious and could care less, and that's what I'm about, spreading happiness to people no matter how silly I may make it seem. Got to enjoy the little things in life. Agreed with the moving on and ruination of life lol. We'll see how it plays out. Also, today is 1 full week of NC.... still hard to Cope, but breaking the barriers. Thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 It's all mindset. No I'm not being cocky of egotishist, but I'm just saying, I know I'm a good looking guy and if i wanted to get someone or start a new relationship, I could. I'm straight as can possibly be, but hey, if a dude digs me, it's only an ego boost, gross but still a boost non-the less. If you meet the right person, they find it hilarious and could care less, and that's what I'm about, spreading happiness to people no matter how silly I may make it seem. Got to enjoy the little things in life. Agreed with the moving on and ruination of life lol. We'll see how it plays out. Also, today is 1 full week of NC.... still hard to Cope, but breaking the barriers. Thanks guys! Like I said, I was just giving you crap. Glad to see you have a much better outlook today. That's what I'm about too. My ex used to get so irritated (in a good way) when I would act all crazy out in public. I'd get a few laughs. She'd be embarrassed, but laugh non the less Link to post Share on other sites
gamechanger Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 there is so much good info in this thread it is blowing my mind, im going through a very similar situation and i can say its eerie because the i feel the exact same way about sewing oats and my ex being with other people this is some of the toughest times ive ever been through. i just have to say i can relate to you on so many levels man Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crisis Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 Yea, same here. The good times right, where you'd make them laugh and everything was ok. Went home that night and snuggled and said, man what a great day. Unfortunately, we both know those days are gone. Like a bomb was dropped and the person we knew was instantly killed and replaced with some other personality that didn't belong in the body. Like I said, the little things help get through the day. LS, helps remind me, I'm not the only one that feels like crap but at the same time, there are people who want to help heal, even if they don't know you. I gives some type of hope for the world. I am at least thankful for that. Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Yea, same here. The good times right, where you'd make them laugh and everything was ok. Went home that night and snuggled and said, man what a great day. Unfortunately, we both know those days are gone. Like a bomb was dropped and the person we knew was instantly killed and replaced with some other personality that didn't belong in the body. Like I said, the little things help get through the day. LS, helps remind me, I'm not the only one that feels like crap but at the same time, there are people who want to help heal, even if they don't know you. I gives some type of hope for the world. I am at least thankful for that. It's funny you mention the analogy pertaining to your ex being killed and being replaced by an alternate personality. I actually said something of the sort to my ex the last time we talked. I straight up told her that "I feel as if I should be mourning the death of the person you used to be rather than the loss of who you are today. You're nothing like the person I met three years ago. That person is dead and buried. To tell the truth I really don't like you. You're a self-centered bitch who cares about nobody but yourself." hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crisis Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 LMAO! Wow, you said that? Man, that's too funny! No I wouldn't say it like that, but that's what I tell myself just to remind myself that she won't be coming back, at least I don't expect her to anymore. It sucks....kinda, but no, that is hilarious and I'll have to remember that when I'm down. Thanks for the quote lol! Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Let's just say that she pissed me off slightly. I said it because I wasn't in the mood to listen to her BS. We went NC for about 2 weeks initially. Then one day she calls me to ask some stupid questions. They were more or less excuses to contact me. I just let her have it. I knew she was only stepping back into my life to stir it up and then she was going to end up leaving all over again. I wasn't in the mood to go through it all over again. But, regardless of how much I didn't want to, I had to go through it all again. Link to post Share on other sites
RodG Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Let's just say that she pissed me off slightly. I said it because I wasn't in the mood to listen to her BS. We went NC for about 2 weeks initially. Then one day she calls me to ask some stupid questions. They were more or less excuses to contact me. I just let her have it. I knew she was only stepping back into my life to stir it up and then she was going to end up leaving all over again. I wasn't in the mood to go through it all over again. But, regardless of how much I didn't want to, I had to go through it all again. Jeez man, I guess I should be glad in a way my ex ignores me completely. It's harsh, but she doesn't play those games. But I know her, and she's not the type. What's done is done, mind is made up...and believe me I know there is no way around her made up mind Link to post Share on other sites
gamechanger Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 truer words have never been spoken Link to post Share on other sites
gamechanger Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 but what happens if every time she tries to contact you she just says she sorry and hopes you find someone else? head games? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crisis Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 I don't know, I often wonder. I mean I wonder if my ex will ever see the pain and call me. I would assume that is her regretting, whether or not she actually will I don't know. As for head games... possibly, I mean to see what you say like "Oh I will be soon, cause I'm not with you now", or if she is looking for "I was happiest with you, which will boost her ego and give her control again". I don't know really, but it seems like it could be head games. Either way, if MY Ex contacts me I may not ignore her. I say this cause I'm pretty much over her and if she calls to apologize, then I'll rub it in her face and be like "I'm great and I don't even care about your life. Thanks for doing me the favor." Then again, I do believe in second chances, if the person is truly trying to reconcile, I would be willing to try again, but won't put near as much effort in the relationship. That was my mistake the first time, She came first... I came second or third to her job and school. Stupid me. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamscape123 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 It's funny you mention the analogy pertaining to your ex being killed and being replaced by an alternate personality. I actually said something of the sort to my ex the last time we talked. I straight up told her that "I feel as if I should be mourning the death of the person you used to be rather than the loss of who you are today. You're nothing like the person I met three years ago. That person is dead and buried. To tell the truth I really don't like you. You're a self-centered bitch who cares about nobody but yourself." hahaha All i can say is nice one... That is awesome, and also its a very interesting point, because it kind of is like they have changed , in my case, my ex changed big time and real quick too... so I can completely relate to this.... Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Jeez man, I guess I should be glad in a way my ex ignores me completely. It's harsh, but she doesn't play those games. But I know her, and she's not the type. What's done is done, mind is made up...and believe me I know there is no way around her made up mind Well, she ignores me now (and I gladly return the favor). That was three and a half weeks ago. We broke up about a month and half ago or so. It definitely feels much longer though. Like I said, we initially went NC for two weeks. Then one day she called. I let her have it and I haven't talked to her since (for the past three weeks). Her mind is made up as well... So is mine. I'm not going back and she's not coming back. Regardless, there's still a good amount of pain to deal with. But I'm healing. Slowly but surely. I just want to forget about her altogether at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crisis Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 We all feel the same Hurt, just want to forget. Even the good memories, cause they make us feel like crap. What we have in our future we don't know, but the best way to make the future we want is to start it off right, and everyone here is willing to help. We got each others backs... I mean on here. If it was like a bar fight, you might consider running, but other than that, Yea we got you man! Link to post Share on other sites
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