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[turtle32]

Ok i will try and condense this i have a woman that lives in my town we have been friends along time she works with me. She got a divorce about 2years ago and people told her husband that me and her was having an affair which is a lie nothing ton that but he believe it , the reason they told him this is im in elected position so people like to tell rumors. So he told her young kids that that was why she was leaving him and told all her family which they didnt believe her her family.. Ok so now we really like each other been talking and seeing each other but be secretive, Her ex husband is married now but he is mean to her kids in that he is interrogating the about who she is dating. We both want to date each other but she wont or keep saying it cant ever happen because she feels since he told her kids that i was having affair during thier divorce that he will use it to hurt the kids and that the kids might believe it if we start dating and that her family might think so also. i have told her she is just speculating that this will happen, we both love each other but im afraid she will give up and not at least try , what i need to know is how i handle this what can i do and what should she do about this? I think she should start by talking to family about it then her kids , is there anything she can do legally if he says mean things to her children. I want to be with her we are so good together all i want in a woman but m afraid it wont happen cause she loves her kids and is afraid they will be affected by this. what would u all advise. thansk for your help