Jallen101 Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I know you guys get a lot of threads like this, but I need some outside opinions. I've been with my now ex-gf for nearly 2 years, and we've had a lot of problems. She cheated on me within the first few months of us going out on 2 separate occasions. We are both students and it was with her friend who was visiting from home. I forgave her when I eventually found out, because I know the type of guy he is, manipulative and very good at pretending to be her friend. The first time he'd forced himself on her when she was drunk, and the second time, a few months later, he'd gotten me drunk to the point of passing out, and then pretended to comfort her about me being in such a state, before trying it on again. Anyway, I forgave her for that, because she can be very stupid at times, not thinking things through, and always believing the best in people. She's very naive. We got back together and things were tough for a while but eventually things calmed down and the relationship was better than ever. Since September though, she's been abroad for her language course. When we got back together, I didn't want to be the controlling bf, so I told her exactly what I thought of her friend, and that if anything ever happened with them again we would be done for good, but I wasn't going to say that she couldn't speak to him. They were barely talking before September, but after a month or so of being apart, I was having trouble with the distance, so I ended it. Over the next few months though, I made an effort to show her that I wanted to get back together with her once she was back for good, especially in Febuary when she came to visit me, and I put off writing my dissertation to spend time with her, and took her out for a romantic meal on Valentine's Day and everything. Whilst we were apart, I had one date, which the girl asked me out on, and a few drunken kisses in clubs, all of which I told her about so she could see I wasn't keeping anything from her. A few weeks ago I found out that she slept with that guy again, two incidents in January, once a b***job and once sex, and then she had sex with him again in April, after all the effort I had made, and on that occasion she initiated it. I broke up with her a couple of days after finding out, but I keep questioning the decision. Maybe I'm just a sucker for punishment, and way too trusting, but maybe I was wrong, I dunno. Opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I forgave her when I eventually found out, because I know the type of guy he is, manipulative and very good at pretending to be her friend. Well, you also know the kind of girl she is, then. Someone who will bang her "friend" while her boyfriend is away. The first time he'd forced himself on her when she was drunk Did she report this rape to the police? the second time, a few months later, he'd gotten me drunk to the point of passing out, and then pretended to comfort her about me being in such a state, before trying it on again. She banged him while you were passed out drunk? Nice girl. Anyway, I forgave her for that, because she can be very stupid at times, not thinking things through, and always believing the best in people. She's very naive. No, you are very naive. You think any of those things make it OK for her to bang some other dude? She knew exactly what she was doing and went ahead and did it, ignoring your feelings and disrespecting you and your relationship. And you just let her off the hook with no consequences. I told her exactly what I thought of her friend, and that if anything ever happened with them again we would be done for good Well seems you gave fair warning dude. Time to put your money where your mouth is. If you don't then you're just showing her that you are a doormat. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 How can you be wrong? She keeps sleeping with other guys and puts your health at risk for STD's. You put the blame on the other guys but not on her. She knows exactly what she is doing. She is a serial cheater. You should have ended it the first time she cheated. How many times do you need to be cheated on? Stop making excuses for her screwing other men. Enough is enough! Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Leave her to her old BF, they deserve each other You deserve better, Actually IMHO---go out and just date, and have fun for the next 5 yrs----you don't need any heavy relationships at your age!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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