RodG Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 While it has only been a month and a half since she dumped me (over text!! too cowardly to even call) after our relationship went to long, long distance again (started as one). After living together for a year and being together for 3. The first few weeks were the worst and I'm starting to realize what the true person she is. She said all this stuff about me when we broke up (like it was all my fault), but you know what? She was not perfect and the majority of our problems stemmed from her self consciousness. I am by no means perfect but neither is she (no one, or no relationship is... maybe she'll realize this one day) Anyway, right now I do not want her back. After that being all I could think about. I'd like to have a conversation so we could peacefully be on good terms though. But I tend to go up and down throughout the day, but this is just missing what she was, missing the companionship, missing holding her and cuddling and having someone to tell everything that goes on with me to...not a big enough reason to want her back, those can be filled by someone better. Now, the real problem I have is jealousy. I was the first guy to have sex with her and I never ever pressured her to do anything. How do you all cope with jealousy? The thoughts of some guy touching her, and being with her drives me insane. I know it's none of my concern but it's impossible not to think about it. I've always been protective of her. I live with jealousy and regret the most. I guess it will just take time, and maybe meeting someone. I reckon that would help. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 While it has only been a month and a half since she dumped me (over text!! too cowardly to even call) after our relationship went to long, long distance again (started as one). After living together for a year and being together for 3. The first few weeks were the worst and I'm starting to realize what the true person she is. She said all this stuff about me when we broke up (like it was all my fault), but you know what? She was not perfect and the majority of our problems stemmed from her self consciousness. I am by no means perfect but neither is she (no one, or no relationship is... maybe she'll realize this one day) Anyway, right now I do not want her back. After that being all I could think about. I'd like to have a conversation so we could peacefully be on good terms though. But I tend to go up and down throughout the day, but this is just missing what she was, missing the companionship, missing holding her and cuddling and having someone to tell everything that goes on with me to...not a big enough reason to want her back, those can be filled by someone better. Now, the real problem I have is jealousy. I was the first guy to have sex with her and I never ever pressured her to do anything. How do you all cope with jealousy? The thoughts of some guy touching her, and being with her drives me insane. I know it's none of my concern but it's impossible not to think about it. I've always been protective of her. I live with jealousy and regret the most. I guess it will just take time, and maybe meeting someone. I reckon that would help. As you grow older, you learn to just accept that it happens. There's nothing you can do about it now. There are a lot of people on here that too get jealous when their ex leaves them for someone else. I'm 29 and I just accept it.. does it sting? Yes! but I can't let it ruin my life Link to post Share on other sites
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