DontWorryBHappy Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 There's something that I'm scared of. The reason I'm scared of it is that if this were true, it would mean there's not much chance for him, or for us, ever. And aside from that, it just would change the way I think of the past relationship with him. See, I'm worried that my ex might be a sociopath. The reason I say that is because he has many of the traits... not all of them, but definitely some of them. He has an outward charm about him that he shows to others. He talks to LOTS of people, but has told me that he doesn't really care about any of them or actually care about what they are saying. In the past he has told me that it is good to have friends because you can "use" them... for rides, or whatever. He does not know how to process other people's emotions and doesn't have much empathy for them (if any). If I cried, he literally would have no idea what to do. He has told me that he doesn't know how to comfort me (during times that I would be upset). One time I invited him to eat with me, and he apparently had taken a strangers bike right from the bike rack just because he didn't feel like walking. He literally didn't seem to understand that he did something wrong, telling me that he planned to return the bike to the rack after we ate. I pressed him to consider the feelings of the person who might already be upset over the bike being gone, but he just didn't get it. Another time we were by a lake with some friends and I saw a frog. He took a stick and stabbed the frog. I was EXTREMELY upset and ran away from him, but he went after me and said he was only trying to scare the frog, not stab it... but he stabbed it accidently. But now I'm actually starting to wondering if that's true. To top it off, he broke up with me because he said he didn't love me. But the real kicker is that he said he did not know if he is capable of loving ANYONE.... not just me. He also has a poor relationship with his mother, which also is a trait... Other notable things are that he does not understand it when he makes a person feel awkward, does not have normal reactions to things, says he often does not feel normal emotions...And when I was really upset the last time I talked to him, he started acting really creepy as a way to "help me move on". He basically acted as if he was a sociopath, saying that he doesn't care about me, that I'm easy to be manipulated.... then he said I should be able to move on better because he wasn't being as nice to me. Afterward he apologized for that, said he was just trying to put other ideas in my head to help me forget him. But it seriously creeped me out. And he also commented that he knows how to manipulate people. I don't know. I'm thinking if he's not a true sociopath (antisocial personality disorder), he DEFINITELY is at least prone to antisocial personality. Is it possible to be prone to the traits without TRULY being a sociopath? Is it possible to be a half-sociopath? I dont know why I'm letting this affect me... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 See, I'm worried that my ex might be a sociopath. First of all, is he your ex or is he not? ...if this were true, it would mean there's not much chance for him, or for us, ever. "chance for him" and "chance for us" are two different things, neither of which are relevant to your life, if he's really your "ex". If he is your ex, then it's over and done. It's in the past, and you should move on with your future. I dont know why I'm letting this affect me... I can't imagine why, either. Link to post Share on other sites
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