make me believe Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 You say she has bad teeth? Talk to her about braces in the most caring way possible. Offer to help her out with the cost of braces. Talk to her about whitening her teeth & buy her tooth whitening strips. Talk to her about makeup, and cosmetics. Tell her that you love girly girls who wear makeup and take care of their appearance. Book her an appointment for a facial. If you see a flaw, just polish it up. She'll probably be thankful for your honesty & the fact that you're improving her for the better. Nooo! I don't think there is ANY possible way to do these things without totally offending her and hurting her feelings. Damn, I can't imagine having a new boyfriend approach me about buying me braces or booking me an appointment for a facial! OP, I agree with Pierre that that this problem likely stems from having sex too soon and not taking your time with the dating process. Obviously you can't change that now, but it's something to keep in mind with the next girl you date. I think you should just break up with this girl. Some of your statements did sound really shallow & mean (comparing her to your ex-gf is really bad), but the bottom line is if you aren't attracted to her, then you aren't attracted to her. You can't force it and her features aren't going to change significantly, so just break up with her and move on. Please don't string her along until somebody "better" comes around. Also, what your friends said to you was totally inappropriate & rude. I can't imagine saying something like that to one of my friends. It's immature and out of line. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelsgoodman Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. Initially, you are kind of attracted (especially after a bit of a dry spell) because she has a decent body and a nice personality and you seem to get a long well, but every time you look at her face, you are reminded that you can do better. The worst thing is when you go to the beach or some other public place and there are hot chicks everywhere and you feel almost ashamed of being with your girl because she's just average looking and doesn't quite measure up. Maybe it's shallow to feel that away, but attraction is not a choice. If you don't find her pretty, there is nothing you can do about it. Stop wasting your time (not to mention hers) and break up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Chicago_Guy Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I've been seeing a girl almost every day for a few weeks and we've fallen hard for each other. We're a proper couple already, infact, right up to saying 'I love you' (I know, I know.) I think its been so quick because, being from South America, she's different to any girl I've ever been with. Exotic, unbelievably passionate and so caring, not to mention intelligent, very talented, with a great body, and amazing in bed (we've had sex almost non-stop from day one.) Thing is, I've realised as that early intoxication starts to subside, she's not quite pretty enough. You know, to just want to look at her face. No other way to put it. I'm a fairly handsome guy, and I don't expect a '10', but my ex-gf was prettier. This girl is not ugly, but she has kind of bad teeth, goofy smile, and her features are just not refined in a kind of feminine way. The worst thing is two close FEMALE friends told me - quite bluntly - 'she isn't hot enough for you'. That was a hammer blow - these girls are mature women whose opinion I value dearly. And the worst bit is over the last few days, this girl has not even worn any makeup - that is nice because that's who she is, and she feels relaxed, but I just want to feel excited when I look at her face. Not just when we're having sex, or cuddling, but I just want to look at her face at any time and think 'you're really pretty', and I'm afraid I just don't. Can anyone relate and what did you do? Its just such a confusing situation, I'm caught between feeling like a shallow moron, and not 'settling' for someone who I can't just look at and feel 'butterflies'. Please, try not to bash me, I had to sound this out somewhere. Its early days, and I will not, ever, lead her on if I'm not feeling it. Thanks. If this is true, why are you telling her that you love her? What is that all about? Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 So did you think she was pretty when you first met her? Honestly, it's only been a few weeks, just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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