DreamerGirl27 Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Looks are not more important than personality. But by going by BOTH looks and personality, you have to rely on looks first. Not second. If I got to know a guy I thought was cute and didn't like his personality, I would not go for him. If I got to know a guy who was ugly and liked his personality, I would not go for him, either. I want BOTH looks AND personality. They are EQUAL. You can't have one or the other. That is how I operate. You can call it shallow all day long. Looks are just as important as personality. People who tell you other wise are lying. And if they are putting themselves through the torture of someone they're not attracted to, just because they like the person, then it's no wonder the world is full of people keeping on popping out ugly babies. Thank you and have a nice day. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 People are retarded and dense? It would seem so, yes. I have to add that the term "retarded" is a bit antiquated and NOT PC. Link to post Share on other sites
MarthaMe Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Well I guess we're going to have to start poking people's eyes out then. I really couldn't care less about what someone looks like. Yes, being good looking is a nice bonus. However, I would MUCH prefer someone who is kind, warm, understanding, and loving. Intelligence, integrity... These things mean a lot to me. If you have a pretty face that's great too. Let's face it though, how many insanely "hot" people do we know that are all of these things? People get old, looks fade and then you're left with a superficial, ignorant, ugly person. I think I'll stick to peeking at these "beauties" as they walk around in shorts and no shirts outside like peacocks. I generally am not interested in knowing them. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 If I got to know a guy I thought was cute and didn't like his personality, I would not go for him. If I got to know a guy who was ugly and liked his personality, I would not go for him, either. Is there only cute or ugly to you? Is there nothing in between? What is your definition of ugly? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I have a feeling that the OP goes after ripped jocks who she expects to have good personalities and be intelligent as well. Actually, if I remember correctly, OP likes stick figures. DG, for the record, that combination is rare. Unless they're nerds, and grew up and started working out in their late teens/early 20's. It does happen... Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Good question. I have a feeling that the OP goes after ripped jocks who she expects to have good personalities and be intelligent as well. Actually I think she goes for guys like this. That is three guys right? Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 People are retarded and dense? It would seem so, yes. I have to add that the term "retarded" is a bit antiquated and NOT PC. It's time to retire the "R" word. You might say it's a figure of speech, but it's downright offensive to people with intellectual disabilities. And for those who love them. As for your original premise, I don't understand the passion behind it. I don't see the controversy. Like whomever you like and don't ever feel like you need to settle. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 I don't think anyone has said that there's anything wrong with needing to be physically attracted to someone as well as being attracted to their personality. But your emphasis Dreamergirl, seems to just be on looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 Well, it's not. Only point I'm trying to make. I would appreciate if I could stop having to repeat myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 I would appreciate if I could stop having to repeat myself. Huh? What do you mean? Link to post Share on other sites
KR10N Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Looks are not more important than personality. But by going by BOTH looks and personality, you have to rely on looks first. Not second. If I got to know a guy I thought was cute and didn't like his personality, I would not go for him. If I got to know a guy who was ugly and liked his personality, I would not go for him, either. I want BOTH looks AND personality. They are EQUAL. Thank you and have a nice day. Wait... so, looks come before personality just like you said once before? Why does that make it so that I'm not paying attention when you've said "looks come first" more than once. How are two things equal, but one comes first over the other? In what dating manual does it say that "looks come first, not second"? You can't have one or the other. That is how I operate. You can call it shallow all day long. Looks are just as important as personality. People who tell you other wise are lying. No, they're not lying. I'm not lying when I say that a certain someone has a great personality & I find them attractive.You seem to be one-sided on this "look" dilemma. Not everyone is going to live up to your expectations of what you think beauty is. For all you know, all the guys you think are hot could be ugly to us. You said you like skinny guys, I personally do not find that attractive at all. To me, being underweight is just as bad as being overweight. But just as you like smaller men, there are a few people who prefer bigger men/women. And if they are putting themselves through the torture of someone they're not attracted to, just because they like the person, then it's no wonder the world is full of people keeping on popping out ugly babies.I haven't been bothered by anything you said so far, but wow, this? Really? This just sounds ignorant & unfair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted July 9, 2011 Author Share Posted July 9, 2011 Wait... so, looks come before personality just like you said once before? Why does that make it so that I'm not paying attention when you've said "looks come first" more than once. How are two things equal, but one comes first over the other? In what dating manual does it say that "looks come first, not second"? No, they're not lying. I'm not lying when I say that a certain someone has a great personality & I find them attractive.You seem to be one-sided on this "look" dilemma. Not everyone is going to live up to your expectations of what you think beauty is. For all you know, all the guys you think are hot could be ugly to us. You said you like skinny guys, I personally do not find that attractive at all. To me, being underweight is just as bad as being overweight. But just as you like smaller men, there are a few people who prefer bigger men/women. I haven't been bothered by anything you said so far, but wow, this? Really? This just sounds ignorant & unfair. ::smack forehead:: I get so frustrated when I spell things out 5 million times and people still don't understand. Looks come first because I want both looks and personality. I can't look first at someone's personality. You have to rely on your eyeballs to see if you want to get to know that person's personality first. doesnt' mean that's all I care about. Second...okay, so you don't like rail thin stick figures. I do. So, would you wind up with an underweight guy? Probably not...it's all preference. I've been under the impression that the entire population of LS wants me, or expects me to get with someone I have 0% attraction to just based solely off their "wonderful, nice" personality. News flash. I don't like nice. In case you couldn't tell, I'm not exactly a Princess myself. I need someone with a dark sense of humor. Third...yes, if someone was really unattracted to someone physically and relied solely on personality, that would be like torture for both people. I don't want to look at my guy and in the back of my head be thinking, "wow you're ugly!!" The guy that I like is no super model, but according to a psychology major/teacher I had in college, your husband/soul mate/whatever you wanna call it, will end up looking like Brad Pitt to you. I just want my Brad Pitt. And I can tell right away whether someone is going to be that or not, regardless of personality. I'm not going for the bottom of the barrel looks wise and I feel like that's what people are telling me I should settle for, just simply because their personality might rock. I'm sorry, that's just not gonna cut it. You have to have a general attraction to whoever you're with, and in my experience, the majority of the time, no amount of personality can change how I feel about someone I'm not attracted to. I've had it happen twice. and it didn't work out. and I'm glad it didn't. I didn't think they were super hot, but I wasn't repulsed, either. I'm gettin' the feeling that people expect me to go for a 400lb morbidly obese guy just because he might have a killer personality. If you're morbidly obese, part of your personality is to eat 20 cheese burgers in one sitting. That's not exactly attractive. Just don't expect me to go for someone I'm not attracted to, even if their personality is great. Because chances are, if I'm not attracted, I'm not attracted for a reason. I don't not give these guys a chance...I give them a chance. I've had several guys bug me to go out with them and I usually cave and it doesn't change. I had one guy who bugged me for over a year to hang out and I finally did and he sat there like a lump on a log and didn't say anything. so, not only was I not physically attracted, I also wasn't mentally attracted. Moving on...next guy...wasn't attracted at all and he also turned out to be a liar, so before I could even give that guy a chance, I kicked him to the curb. the guy I like stimulates me visually and mentally. It's just not a two way street because I want something serious and he just wants to **** around. typical for guys in their early twenties. I'm not giving up, though. I know what I want. Link to post Share on other sites
KR10N Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 (edited) I don't think that's what your professor was saying, I interpreted differently. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. And it is possible to meet someone, while not being physically attracted, over time become physically attracted to them. It's a rare scenario but it happens. It happened to me & believe me when I say it, the guy I was interested in I did not find him physically attractive at all. Brad Pitt is a poor choice, seeing as how I don't think he's hot, but ok. Depending on what a person likes it's possible to find someone & see them as your 'Brad Pitt'. PS No one is telling you to find an obese guy. He'd snap you like a twig. Edited July 9, 2011 by KR10N Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted July 9, 2011 Author Share Posted July 9, 2011 I don't think that's what your professor was saying, I interpreted differently. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. And it is possible to meet someone, while not being physically attracted, over time become physically attracted to them. It's a rare scenario but it happens. It happened to me & believe me when I say it, the guy I was interested in I did not find him physically attractive at all. Brad Pitt is a poor choice, seeing as how I don't think he's hot, but ok. Depending on what a person likes it's possible to find someone & see them as your 'Brad Pitt'. PS No one is telling you to find an obese guy. He'd snap you like a twig. .... That's exactly what I just said. Link to post Share on other sites
KR10N Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 That's exactly what I just said.No. You keep feeding us this nonsense about "looks first". Looks this, looks that. While not being physically attracted, over time (It is possible to) become physically attracted to someone. Meaning that there is no initial physical attraction at first, until... Depending on what a person likes (personality wise) it's possible to find someone & see them as your 'Brad Pitt'. Personality will sometimes come before looks & even then being in love w/ someone can change a persons outlook. Hence, unattractive before... Brad Pitt in the eyes of the beholder later. Nothing I said was "beauty over personality". That's what you're basically saying time & time again. I can't look first at someone's personality. You have to rely on your eyeballs to see if you want to get to know that person's personality first. doesnt' mean that's all I care about.You are truly blind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted July 10, 2011 Author Share Posted July 10, 2011 Because it doesn't change for me. I've been there and done that. They still look the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted July 10, 2011 Author Share Posted July 10, 2011 either that, or the guys that I like, really aren't as good looking as I think they are, but I really like them for them. I've already had a really good looking guy tell me I go for ugly boys. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 either that, or the guys that I like, really aren't as good looking as I think they are, but I really like them for them. I've already had a really good looking guy tell me I go for ugly boys. no, stay with the good looking guys based on superficiality. just don't come back here complaining of how they are dogs. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 I'm feeling very bullied. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 I'm feeling very bullied. Awww, c'mere baby. Mama make it alllll better. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Let's have a group hug, it seems Dreamer is bullying all of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Let's have a group hug, it seems Dreamer is bullying all of us. i get this image of a kid picking on another kid, going around and being a regular s##t to others, as DG clearly has. And then crying and whining when the other kids give it back to her. but what do you expect from a troll Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 i get this image of a kid picking on another kid, going around and being a regular s##t to others, as DG clearly has. And then crying and whining when the other kids give it back to her. but what do you expect from a troll All bullies are cowards, they can't take it when it's given back to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 I know what I want. then go after it and leave those alone that don't live up to your prissy GQ standards. as far as retarded and dense, keep talking. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Let's have a group hug, it seems Dreamer is bullying all of us. I have another knee, Ross. Just climb on up onto my lap beside GT and join in honey. Link to post Share on other sites
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