The Great Gazoo Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) Moving out of the marital home after 2 months of separation. Wife bailed completely moved out with only her personal things to start a new life. Left me with a huge houseful of memories and shattered dreams. Packing and sorting is so, so sad. My 17 year son is a huge help though packing and getting ready. What a great kid I'm struggling, sad, despairing and feeling so very empty and rejected. The stress of and finality of moving have caused me to have flashbacks of her betrayal and cruelty. (she cheated and dated a few men in secret before actually leaving) They keep coming back in my mind over and over again like a rewinding film. I feel so helpless and unrooted. So alone without my partner, and forced to move out of my home of 9 years. I had been feeling much better for a while, more stable and in control. Now the move makes me feel like I'm all alone again. Edited July 5, 2011 by The Great Gazoo Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 Moving out of the marital home after 2 months of separation. Wife bailed completely moved out with only her personal things to start a new life. Left me with a huge houseful of memories and shattered dreams. Packing and sorting is so, so sad. My 17 year son is a huge help though packing and getting ready. What a great kid I'm struggling, sad, despairing and feeling so very empty and rejected. The stress of and finality of moving have caused me to have flashbacks of her betrayal and cruelty. (she cheated and dated a few men in secret before actually leaving) They keep coming back in my mind over and over again like a rewinding film. I feel so helpless and unrooted. So alone without my partner, and forced to move out of my home of 9 years. I had been feeling much better for a while, more stable and in control. Now the move makes me feel like I'm all alone again. your not alone, you have your son! remember that, hes there with you right now. my motto since I found out about my ex's betrayal is bitches be crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
ameriveaux Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 I cannot begin to understand the pain you have to be dealing with. My breakup and subsquent lonliness is tough, very tough for me to continue handling; and mine was 1/10 the duration of yours. All i can say , is to confide in your friends, family (son!) to the best of your ability and work on filling the holes that used to be time spent with your ex. I think the most difficult thing for us to deal with outside of the loss of love, intimacy and companionship is the various lenghts of time we used to spend in company of the one we loved. When that person is no longer there, we are left with this "open wasteland" where a beautiful oasis used to be. We now are now alone in this large segment of time ( nights and weekends especially ) with no one to share it with, and now we are forced to do something with it, or spend time thinking about the person who was once there but now isnt. It can be a miserable time, but there are things you can do to make the break and empitness less debilitating. I am not one to ever suggest anything to another man, but sometimes crying and letting the pain out can help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author The Great Gazoo Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 Thank you all for your input. WilsonX I agree.... some bitches be crazy. Ameriveaux I think I used up all of my tears in the first month. Thank you all for your concern. Link to post Share on other sites
Author The Great Gazoo Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 Feeling really lost today again. Move is on Saturday and I just can't bring myself to keep packing. It just hurts so much to box up all the memories and dreams. Part of me is so looking forward to moving forward with my life but part of me feels so empty, betrayed and defeated all over again. This really really sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
ameriveaux Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 Its sad we can never realize the pain others are feeling through text on a message board, but the pain that is being felt is quite real. I would suggest spending a little extra time on the board reading and commenting on peoples issues. The reason being is that it can be a positive output for negative energy experience during this episode of loss. Outside of doing aforementioned things, this website can be a great place to realize that you are not alone in suffering. Also , keep writing down your feelings to let out the pain. Link to post Share on other sites
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