Gone without closure

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I need some help understanding what happened. My gf dumped me after we both divorced for what I thought was to be together. She complained that her ex husband was alcoholic and did not treat her well. She drinks too, to what extent I'm not completely sure. My ex-wife and I were on the rocks for quite a while before I became involved and divorce was eminent. I had hired her to work with me 3yrs ago but only became interested in being with her 1 yr ago. It was very slow and I thought I knew her well. We became romantically intense and I helped her out quite a bit financially to get new things and a new house when she divorced. After several mos she told me she couldn't nurture the relationship and dumped ME. She was soon fired from the job by the office manager on an issue which had nothing to do with our relationship. She later disclosed to me she had become friendly with her neighbor, who was 10 yrs older than me, and slept with him. She begged forgiveness and wanted back in with me on multiple occasions. I allowed it only to have her vanish again like a magic trick. No explaination, no closure. Now, periodically she will text me and tell my how much she loves me and how I am the love of her life. She says she is terrified...(of what I don't know)...and has ripped her heart out over me. Yet, she won't respond back to my text messages or answer her phone when I have a weak moment and call. Or, she'll hang up on me while crying and saying she can't talk to me. She only tries to communicate unilaterally with text messages. It's been 6 mos since I have seen her. This woman is 50 yrs old and not working, has no amount of substantial money of her own. I'm 49. She has recently started a 2 yr vocational school since her divorce. I became very attracted to her after 3 yrs of working with me, so I don't feel it was just a simple sexual response. I felt that the feelings were mutual until the insanity ensued. I am a professional and make a very good living. I get propositioned often by other women and therefore believe I am reasonably a good find. Why the hell would she leave me? I just don't understand what happened and why. I cannot figure out what she had to gain by dumping ME. Drives me crazy...WTF!

[wilsonx]

I need some help understanding what happened. My gf dumped me after we both divorced for what I thought was to be together. She complained that her ex husband was alcoholic and did not treat her well. She drinks too, to what extent I'm not completely sure. My ex-wife and I were on the rocks for quite a while before I became involved and divorce was eminent. I had hired her to work with me 3yrs ago but only became interested in being with her 1 yr ago. It was very slow and I thought I knew her well. We became romantically intense and I helped her out quite a bit financially to get new things and a new house when she divorced. After several mos she told me she couldn't nurture the relationship and dumped ME. She was soon fired from the job by the office manager on an issue which had nothing to do with our relationship. She later disclosed to me she had become friendly with her neighbor, who was 10 yrs older than me, and slept with him. She begged forgiveness and wanted back in with me on multiple occasions. I allowed it only to have her vanish again like a magic trick. No explaination, no closure. Now, periodically she will text me and tell my how much she loves me and how I am the love of her life. She says she is terrified...(of what I don't know)...and has ripped her heart out over me. Yet, she won't respond back to my text messages or answer her phone when I have a weak moment and call. Or, she'll hang up on me while crying and saying she can't talk to me. She only tries to communicate unilaterally with text messages. It's been 6 mos since I have seen her. This woman is 50 yrs old and not working, has no amount of substantial money of her own. I'm 49. She has recently started a 2 yr vocational school since her divorce. I became very attracted to her after 3 yrs of working with me, so I don't feel it was just a simple sexual response. I felt that the feelings were mutual until the insanity ensued. I am a professional and make a very good living. I get propositioned often by other women and therefore believe I am reasonably a good find. Why the hell would she leave me? I just don't understand what happened and why. I cannot figure out what she had to gain by dumping ME. Drives me crazy...WTF!

 

she's not all there. i just had an ex do the very same thing to me too and Im 29. It hurts more and more everytime they do it. dont respond to her anymore, her texts phone calls. go with the other women that are chasing you =) dont settle for trash. The story of Sampson and Delila all over again.

[Eddie Edirol]

I know why. She wasnt really into you as much as she might have said or insinuated, she just doesnt like to be alone. Thats why she dumped you for new romance, and when it didnt work out, you were her safety net. YOu arent new romance, so she will keep going back for new romance for the high, and when it doesnt work out, she will keep coming back to you.

 

So the bottom line is, she does not love you, she never will, you are not the one she will fall for no matter what she says. Your feelings for her are meaningless to her. Depending on the financial situations of the other men, she might also have been looking for a a sugar daddy.

 

Do yourself a favor and leave that trash alone to hunt for her self. If you have other propositions, go take them up on it, play the field, and for gods sake, please dont give them any money. make them like you by being mysterious.