If I marry someday, will my Wife think i'm not good enough?

[quietGuy13]

Being that I'm weak physically and

weak socially. And struggle finding jobs.

 

I talk to my great online friend in voice, and she always tells me that she thinks i'm great and that it doesn't matter if i'm weak and don't have great job. But many of the people in this forum and elsewhere seem to think i'm worthless as a partner..

[Lucky_One]

No, QuietGuy. If you marry someone, she will marry you because she loves and accepts you for who you are.

[quankanne]

and i strongly recommend that you wait to find that woman who thinks of you as highly as you think of her. Otherwise, you'll be miserable.

[Stung]

Nobody on this forum or in your real life can predict your future. Relationships are complicated and influenced by multiple factors.

 

It is my hope that you will find someone who values the strengths you DO possess, who can make you happy and is made happy by you. It is possible that you can find this person, but not guaranteed. Finding her is only the beginning, as relationships take continual emotional work and communication to keep them healthy and running smoothly. How the relationship will progress comes down at least partly to how willing and able BOTH of you are to do the work.

 

I think you should remind yourself to take the majority of the advice on this site with a rather large grain of salt, particularly the advice dispensed in the dating forum, which is where I have seen you post most regularly. Many of the most forceful posters have their own issues they are attempting to work through, with varying degrees of success, and objective and empathetic insight can be difficult to come by (much as in real life).

 

Good luck to you OP. She is out there for you somewhere.

[Eddie Edirol]

You wont even be close to getting married at this rate. You have to get to first base first.

[Eeyore79]

If she's already married you, then she loves you and accepts you as you are, and any shortcomings you may have won't be a problem. Your challenge is first to find a woman who loves you, and the rest will just fall into place.

 

Personally I couldn't care less if a guy is weak socially, because I'm not the most social person myself. The major issue for me would be whether he has a job and could contribute towards having a nice home and a life together, supporting a child, etc. I think finding a job is the key thing that you need to address in terms of attracting a woman.