men

[erin]

i'm too shy to ask anybody out, how can i fix it? i have a crush on this guy who comes into my work and i want to ask him out but i am too shy and too pregnant. any suggestions? i'm ninteen and very lonely, i live with my mom and step dad for now, but i will get my own place in the next year or so. do guys like girls that are pregnant? any advice would be appreciated. thanks.

[Tony T]

While guys are happy to be with a pregnant girl as a friend or companion, unfortunately younger men will generally try not to fall for a gal that represents immediate family and responsibility should it lead to something serious. Even once the child is born, you will need to understand that some men don't want a ready-made family and your best possiblities will be with older, more reliable and mature guys.

 

As for the guy who comes in where you work, if I were you I would act friendly toward him, You could ask him out but it could put him in an awkward position if he feels uncomfortable. He may feel some of his friends may see him with you and think he's the father. Other single girls may see him with you and think he's married to you. This goes more the more you are showing.

 

Try to spend as much time as possible with friends during your pregnancy and socialize with your male buddies. Once your baby is born, you'll be busy with motherhood for a while. But you will eventually be able to get back into the dating scene and you will find someone to sincerely love you and your child. It will just require time, patience and a great deal of love to offer on your part.

[Paulie]

There are certainly guys that would love to date you...pregnant or not. It's just a matter of finding the right guy. I think alot of guys, however, would find the pregnancy a bit of a turnoff, for a variety of reasons. But to neglect the rest of your entire being and beauty that you bring to the world would be just to short-sighted. There are men out there who are just that short-sighted, however...and there ARE men out there who would appreciate you for all that you are.

The only way you'll get to know if this guy likes you is to find out for yourself. And remember, I don't know how religious you are, but I believe (quite firmly, I might add) that this child is a gift from God, and it is the greatest gift you could receive. You'll be Ok, just take care of yourself, and there will be PLENTY of guys.

[Deejette]

I don't think you should set yourself up for disappointment, especially with a guy from work, where if it doesn't work out, you will have the embarassment of facing him every day. I think it is best for you to wait to be asked out by someone rather than face the rejection of aking someone out. When they say no, it may not be because you are pregnant, but because they already have a girlfriend. There may be lots of reasons. So don't blame yourself.

The only way you'll get to know if this guy likes you is to find out for yourself. And remember, I don't know how religious you are, but I believe (quite firmly, I might add) that this child is a gift from God, and it is the greatest gift you could receive. You'll be Ok, just take care of yourself, and there will be PLENTY of guys.