forgave but need to get over the shock!!!!

[xrachyrawrx]

Hi all

 

So I have been with my boyfriend for just over 6 months now and I seriously believe he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am 19 and he is 27, we met at uni, see each other at least 5 days a week and have brilliant sex. We have talked about a future together as it seems so realistic for us. Friends are always commenting on how amazing we are together. The stupidest things that he does can knock me off my feet. When I don't see him for a while and I return to him that gust of love shocks me every time. We text each other good morning and goodnight and constantly throughout the day. he reads my mind, knows my style and knows exactly what to do with me.

 

You've heard this before right?

 

So imagine my shock when I saw on his phone an inappropriate conversation with a girl I do not know but whom on later confrontation he claimed means nothing to him. I was shaking with shock and took him upstairs to talk. We both cried a lot, said some deep things, he begged, threw up and nearly bloody proposed with his grandma's ring!

 

He says that I am the purpose of his life and it was all a minute of madness. I have accepted that but told him bluntly that yes I am hurt. I did also say we would carry on and this was surprisingly easy because we are so so good together. I was just worried because my ex boyfriend used to beg and cry but never learn and I forgave him each time and put up with it for 2 years.

However, my new boyfriend is completely different. He is mature and I believe he loves me and is sorry.

 

Have I done the right thing? What do I do now? And how do I ensure that this never happens again?

 

I seriously believe in us and think he is genuinely sorry.

 

Rachy x

[PegNosePete]

And how do I ensure that this never happens again?

Invest in a crystal ball?

 

Sorry, you can't ensure things like that. You can't control other people. He did wrong and he knows it, his excuse seems a little flimsy to me. You need to find out WHY he did it and how far it went. Does he know the girl, have they ever met, etc. Chances are extremely high that you haven't got the whole story.

 

He is a lot older than you, you've only been together 6 months, you are young and at uni. Personally I would end it with him. He clearly does not respect you or your relationship if he is doing that kind of thing. You deserve a lot better.